The Unmask Method

How does it go exactly?

Well, according to this article I came across, you and your mate should…

One, use an opener that’s untrusive and un-alarming. Something like, “Hi, do you mind if we sit with you at this table until our other friend gets here? She’s running late for some reason.” Of course, it should be in a venue that’s somehow packed and would give you a reason to ask that from these women, okay?

Two, once seated you will act as if you and your mate had no intention of starting a conversation with the two women. Keep an open ear to what they are talking about but continue talking to your mate about other things.

Three, after a moment or two you should…

Move a little closer to the girl nearest to you and lean in. With a smile, look her straight in the eye and say: “Okay, I have a question for you. Imagine you were sitting over there at the bar and you saw two girls, like yourselves, sitting at a table like this one. Then, you saw two guys like us come over like we did, sit down and start talking to those girls. What would you think?”

From my point of view, this simple question has the potential to be effective. It’s a situational question that will provide an avenue for people in that table to engage in a conversation that somehow highlights the opinion of the other person and not your own. A girl will find it flattering since it somehow shows that you appreciate her mind.

That, my friend, is how The Unmask Method works.

Go on. I know you’re dying to try it. Just make sure you’ll come back and let me know how it goes. Heehee.

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Hook Up Tip: The Unmask Method

Stereotypes are borne out of prejudices and not from well-founded thought. Some are generated from inferred evidence and others, uh — from real encounters? Heehee. The latter is not a cause for us to generalise, though. That would be a tad bit unfair for the rest. The society and our culture have a lot to do with the foundation of stereotyping. So, that’s a step to understanding this particular human behaviour.

This subject first came to my attention here at Dating Dames when it was raised in the conversation a few of us had when I’d written a post about how men find women who eat sexy. It made me see how stereotyping affects the dating scene or our choices on who to date, at least.

It caught up with me yet again when I talked about the Sex and the City character, Miranda’s skinny jean fashion-turned-dating experience over at Tops 2 Bottoms when it was noticed that in the show, she kept dating geeks or geeky-looking guys. In short, she’s been pegged as the geek-magnet reasoning that compared to rest of her friends, she’s the “plain” one.

It, therefore, raised a few questions like what type of guys do plain-looking and/or geeky girls get and it further reinforces the idea that hot girls = hot guys [Which we all know is total bullocks. Heh.].

It makes me wonder, though. Just how much of our dating preferences are influenced by stereotyping? Coming from someone who thinks she’s a poor judge of character [that'd be me. hehehe.], how can you tell if you’re gaining or losing something or, better yet or worse — someone — when you do stereotype?

Or is it just a case of “whatever works”?

Personal opinion: Always give them the benefit of the doubt, you really can’t know the person by simply looking at or by trusting what other people say about him or her, don’t you agree? There’s always a reason behind everything and it’s always worth taking the risk [what's there to lose?]. What good would it do to stereotype, anyway? This other person just might surprise you. Think of it this way, he or she might be “the one”. Heehee.

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The Subject of Stereotypes: Risk or Opportunity?