Cain attributes some of the increase to high-profile celebrity adoptions by people like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, Madonna, and Meg Ryan.

“Thank you Brangelina,” says Cain of Wheaton. “It’s good they’re pointing out this is a good thing.”

They gave exposure to international adoption, which Cain says provides a wonderful result. “What a good thing,” she said, “They took these kids and gave them a home.”

Sure, they gave them a home. But they didn’t save them. My husband and I were talking about this after the Midwest Adoption Conference. We hate when people tell us that we saved AJ…that we did such a wonderful thing for him. When we tell people that AJ is adopted (because it really is not obvious if you see us together) they automatically tell us what a wonderful thing we did for him…wow, what would his life be like if you left him there?

Like he would rot? He would live. He would most likely still be living in the orphanage. He would probably be in the special needs orphanage because he would be considered handicapped by their standards and when he reached age he would then go live on the streets or be institutionalized. In the best case scenario they would have discovered his food issues and addressed them but I doubt it, as they have too many children to care for.

But, we did not do a wonderful thing. We adopted because we wanted a family and it was the only way we could have one. We adopted because we wanted to, not because we wanted to give a needy child a home.

Does that make me a horrible person? No.

But, don’t tell me I saved him. Did you ever think that perhaps I saved myself?

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I Didn’t Save Him