I am constantly amazed by the number of women who are steadfastly against pornography and yet they are involved with what I term “Chick Porn”.  Honestly, I don’t get it.
Pornography….the naked 18 year olds (with breast enhancements and lots of airbrush and computer generated fixes) in gymnastic poses is, by most people’s ethics, a detriment to a committed relationship.  No real woman can live up to those nubile young girls, and fulfill her man’s fantasy in quite the same way, no matter how much she tries.  Men get excited based on fantasy rather  than reality and eventually it can cause …read more

 
And getting ready to stir up a little …umm…compost.
I read the following statement on BlogHer, by the way..you can read the whole shebang by following this link.
The assumption of two parents present and sharing a home. The model used to
be male breadwinner/female domestic servant. Now, women are ‘allowed’ to have economic independence but continue to bear the homemaking burden.

In our church meeting last night we were reading First Corinthians. It’s a long letter, and in one section the author, Paul, gives some advice about marriage. Some of what he says is a bit odd if for no other reason than its distant context. Sex, for example, was a common aspect of worship in the pagan temples of ancient Corinth. It was also an era of arranged marriages and betrothals, an era of high patriarchy, and an era in which slavery and indentured servitude were common and accepted. It was very different from modern, Western culture.
Still there is a …read more

Kerri’s post the other day on arguing when others are around has garnered a few comments, so I thought I’d follow it up with a few tips from my own brains.
Tip #1 – It’s Not About Winning
This may be the hardest single thing that some of us have to learn. That competitive spirit runs so deep that we forget marriage isn’t a competition and our spouse isn’t our opponent. The mantra around our house is “Same Team,” because as laid back as we are, even we need to be reminded of that. Sometimes being on the Same Team means not …read more

I’ve been playing around a bit with my guitar, and lately I’ve been on a U2 kick. I looked up the tab to One a week or two ago.
Stop right there.
I bet most of us think of it as a love song. Something romantic, right? Well, have you listened to the lyrics lately?
Is it getting better
Or do you feel the same
Will it make it easier on you
Now you got someone to blame
Or how about these:
Did I disappoint you
Or leave a bad taste in your mouth
You act like you never had love
And you want me to go without
That’s not romantic! But …read more

I’m sure you’ve probably heard about the California Supreme Court’s decision to overturn two state laws banning gay marriage. I certainly have. I subscribe to a few RSS feeds related to marriage, and my reader has been swamped with the news and resulting commentary.
Those of you who have been around for a while will no doubt have noticed that Kerri and I have stayed out of these waters until now. That’s been intentional. I can’t think of a more controversial topic being discussed today, and I am not settled in my own mind on a number of the related issues. …read more

Right then… I think it’s been awhile since Kerri and I have had a good gripe, so I figure it’s time. Despite all the wonderful things we say each other (Her gamer post was really sweet.), there are in fact a few things that each of us do to get on the other’s nerves. For example:

Kerri’s post on volunteerism reminded me of a decision we made round here to have an open door policy. Any time, any day; we’re usually cool with guests. While pretty much all of our friends are at least “short-notice” kind of people, no notice is fine too… though you obviously take the chance that we’re not home. If it’s meal time, there is usually more than enough to go around; if not, you’re welcome to rummage through the fridge.
To be honest, this is kind of a one way street. Kerri is our social coordinator, though we’re working on balancing out …read more

It has been a busy week of evenings here at Breezemoor, so while skimming a few hundred RSS headlines I came across a question that struck me as interesting.
Is Marriage Necessary?
At the risk of waxing philosophic so late at night, I’ll pose a brief answer and then let you, Intrepid Reader, put your two cents in.
Marriage is necessary, because at its best, marriage provides a safe place for individuals to know themselves and be known by others. When a person is married, he expresses his intent to be a partner to their spouse for the rest of his natural live. …read more

Yesterday, up until about 4:15 or so, the worst part of my day had been when I drove away from the Taco Bell drive through having forgotten my change. I was out a little less than $3… no biggie. Then came some bad news at work, and my day collapsed. In the big picture, it isn’t the end of the world by any means, but it’s still something that left me feeling pretty crummy at the time. And for the rest of the evening. And still today I’m feeling a bit “bleh” over it.
Kerri to my rescue! It is amazing …read more