“The best way to fall in love is to say, clearly and honestly, exactly how you feel.”
What if you don’t really know how you feel? And what if you have no special person in mind? This emotion is pretty hard to peg. The mind is at times clouded and utterly unclear during this time. It’s commonly filled with a face, a touch, or a romanticized memory of the other person. so how then can you attempt a concise and honest statement regarding it? Besides, in doing so, should you succeed in creating such a statement, will it assure you …read more

More than a decade after the Internet revolutionized dating — about two million Americans met their spouses online, by one measure — the sites face a new challenge: keeping these couples together. While most sites started out focusing on dating, they are increasingly using their success in the marriage arena as a marketing tool — making the stakes higher if these unions start to go south.
While many happily married couples say they may never have found a mate offline, there are already indications that meeting a spouse on the Web comes with its own set of potential pitfalls. Some divorce …read more

I attended a barbeque over at Aldinga Beach last year. That’s where I met Frida. She’s a Greek-Aussie, that’s an Australian with Greek origins, by the way. She looks forty-ish but is actually 60 years old, married to Blondieª a mother of 2 daughters and with 2 grandchildren. She was fascinating.
I was fortunate to be part of the group to whom she relayed her very cute love story.
Frida grew up in a very traditional Greek Family in Australia, which means they’re very conservative and strict. She had 4 other sisters and they weren’t allowed to go …read more

I came across an article that discussed some of the finer points of interracial dating. It caused me to ponder on the topic further. It may have been directed to American readers but I [not being an American] was able to understand how this kind of dating can demand and effect changes in a person’s life.
Perhaps I did not grow up in a country that suffers from an issue such as this one so I cannot fully comprehend the consequences of such an act. However, I am aware of what really separates races. Uh, skin colour. Call me naive or …read more

If you determine that you’re infatuated, not in love, you don’t have to rush to end the relationship. Infatuation can and sometimes does develop into real love. Assume a wait-and-see attitude. If it doesn’t last, fine. You have made no rash commitments, and you haven’t dashed into sex, so you need have no regrets. If and when the break does come, you can much more easily accept it. Breaking It Up After you’ve given a relationship a fair trial and you’re convinced that it’s an infatuation with no future, you may want to call …read more

Infatuation: jealousy is more frequent and more severe. When you’re jealous you want to keep him or her wholly to yourself. You are, in short, being selfish and possessive. Your concern is with what you want, not with what the other person wants. You’re afraid that he or she might enjoy – or give some attention to – someone other than yourself.
Such a response is selfish. Your attitude is one of taking from your relationship. You are not willing to release the other person to do freely what he or she finds enjoyable. …read more

Closely related to your ego response is your general attitude toward your partner. Are you concerned solely with what you get out of the relationship? Or do you find yourself wanting to make sure the other person is happy, and that his or her needs are also being met?
Infatuation: your overall attitude is one of taking from the relationship. You will find that your main concern is what you are getting out of it, plus what you hope to get in the future. The other person is seen as a means to gratify your own …read more

Not only is the unselfish commitment of one’s self essential to a happy marriage. It is also important if we are to gain fullness of life in any are. One of the basic secrets of life is that a higher fulfillment of self comes as a result of committing one’s self to something higher and greater than the self.
That’s a lesson that the so-called “me” generation needs to learn. Such a commitment helps us to rise above mere concern with our own selfish needs and wants. It opens whole new horizons of value and meaning for …read more

Some people date others just for the thrill of necking or petting – or more. Sex is utterly selfish, using the object only to get satisfaction. If a person’s interest in another is just sex, then when they are through having sex with this other person, they are through with them, period – until they get the urge to have sex again. In real love, there is always concern for the welfare or happiness of the other person, regrets their lovers absence even right after sex, wants to be together with their lover, feels lonely without …read more

Clues 12 and 13 may well be the two most important in the list. They have to do with whether a couple are self-centered or other-centered. They deal with the basic, core attitude that each person displays toward the other. Such elements will be crucial to the success or failure of any marriage.
Infatuation: Why does Mike like to date Kate? She’s the school’s Homecoming Queen! Not that he likes her all that much. She is pretty and popular, but she’s also spoiled and selfish. Still, he likes to date her because, since …read more