I do wonder about it, though.

I’m not one of them, you see. I was never the daddy’s girl. I wasn’t fortunate enough to have established a workable relationship with him. That’s why I can only speculate on how these women have turned out.

• Do you look for the same qualities that your father has in your partner?
• Do you find yourself drawn to men who remind you of what you have with your dad or simply just reminds you of the man?
• Is this an important consideration in choosing who you date?

Like what I read in this article about a girl named, Alyse, who married a long time acquaintance, Joe, soon after she lost her own father. I got the impression that she’s pretty close to her dad and I did find out that she admires her father’s life ethics and athleticism. Something she found that she had in common with the guy she married.

One thing that struck me the most was when it was mentioned that the feel of the guy’s hand reminded her of her father’s — it was a man’s hand, she said. I guess, the reason why it was highlighted was because it was a contributing factor to her deciding to be with the guy despite her current stand then to forego serious relationships due to her father’s death.

I’m a bit baffled. Though I know that there were other reasons for the match, the thought that something as small and, somewhat, trivial as this can trigger such a drastic decision remains a mystery to me. What could have possibly gone through her mind?

If you have thoughts about the matter, I’d appreciate some. I sure need some sort of reason behind this thingie that seems so foreign to me. Hahaha.

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Dating For A Daddy’s Girl

“Steve3366″ is proof that online personals do work.

Steve3366 — or Rep. Steve Rothman as he is known outside JDate.com — is scheduled to marry Jennifer Anne Beckenstein today after the two discovered each other on the online network for Jewish singles.

The ceremony, to be performed in Nyack, N.Y., will be followed by a small reception that includes Rothman’s two children and Beckenstein’s three daughters, a spokeswoman for Rothman said.

The 53-year-old Democrat from Fair Lawn was initially miffed when his online personal ad was the subject of news reports two years ago.  Continue reading How they became the Rothman bunch

Congrats to Rep. Rothman and his bride!

Are you or someone you know the product couple of online personals?

Care to share your story and photo?

We could all use a little inspiration at times

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Proof that online personals do work

He took me to Hindmarsh Stadium to watch a real Soccer match. It was so special since it was my first time to see one. Thinking about it makes me wish I can go see the World Cup — live. Oh, well.

I wrote something about the experience here and now I’m writing about the “date” part, I guess. You should see the smirk I had on my face and the occasional laugh when I wrote this. Anyway, I’m not going to dwell on the guy but on my thoughts about the entire date per se. Also, don’t assume that I do this all the time, I don’t. It was just this one time, that’s all.

Overall Date Rating: 3½ smilies

It’s a novel experience for someone like me and I sure had fun, I’ll give it that and the company wasn’t so bad. But it wasn’t well planned and the weather didn’t actually cooperate.

Romance Factor: 3 smilies

You have to admit, if you think of romance, you’d think of candle-lit dinners, walks on the beach, or anything along this line, not sport-related activities. It’s the thought of sharing something new and different with someone you’re just getting to know, which gives it the smilies.

Guy Points: 2½ smilies

He’s really interesting, fun to talk to and not bad to look at. The fact that he came up with the idea himself was a good thing. And sports and women don’t exactly mix because often times, it’s typically something that guys share with their mates so his taking me to it was another good thing. Giving him the halfway mark simply means that he just wasn’t able to capture my 100% interest.

Location: 4½ smilies

The place wasn’t shabby, I must admit. It didn’t have a stifling kind of atmosphere even with the crowd so it created a fun one. I found the place wonderful because of the over-all effect of the experience on me.

We ended it with a bottle of VB back in the city before saying our farewells for the evening. Yea, it was one of the finest dates I’ve ever been in. It compensated for what the guy lacked in so many respects but he is a good guy. We were both just heading in different directions.

Ack. I wasn’t really considering him now, was I? I am glad it didn’t work out. Anyway, I do believe that in every failed attempt comes better options.

What about you? What do you think?

Original Post: Truth & Travesty

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One Fine Date

It’s funny because as a single, I am having a hard time myself. I never fully understood their situation until I experienced taking care of a toddler. Believe me, I had to take my hat off to all single mothers. It’s a hard job!

A few of the things I realised are the difficulties they face each day. Juggling their career, household chores and taking care of the kid. If we are to add the stress of dating — Gah. I wonder where they’d get the energy!

However, I’m glad for one friend of mine who happened to have found a great guy. She has a 7 year-old boy and now, she’s dating a guy who loves her to bits and her boy, too. It didn’t come easy for her. She met guys who were either just interested in a quick lay, a trophy or a plaything — those wankers. So, when she came to me one day and told me that she has finally met a guy who makes her smile, treats her like a princess, and genuinely loves her, I was so happy for her. Finally, a smart guy.

Of course, it’s not happily ever after yet. I’m continuing to pray that things work out between them. For now, I’m happy that she’s experiencing the kind of love she deserves. And making memories that will enrich her life.

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Dating for the Single Mom

Anyway, his main concern about the matter is his being uncertain about crushing on some girl, which causes him to feel torn between acting on it or not. It has its positive and negative sides to it, you see.

One thing I have to establish first is that in my country, there are still men who believe in courtship – the traditional and conservative kind. And this guy I was talking to is one of those men and he’s a christian, too.

I reckon he knows that there’s a difference between having a crush and actually falling for someone. He’s the type who would go into a relationship for the long haul. Yes. He’s one of the good ones. Lucky girl. Hmpft.

One of his concerns is if he acts on it even in the slightest way, the girl will discover how he feels about her. I asked him, what’s wrong with that? So what if she finds out? What’s the big deal? I went on “educating” him about how backward everything is and he should just go and not give a damn about her finding out. I mean, that is the whole point, right? Letting her know how you feel? I was really feeling so high and mighty at that moment. Ha.

And then after I finished my lengthy sermon, Blah Blah Blah, he said: “But I’m not sure yet.” Heh. WTF was he talking about? He explained it to me in such a simple way that I wanted to kick myself after. “I’m not sure if my feelings for her is the real thing so if I try to befriend her she will eventually find out how I feel about her then we both might face the possibility of falling for each other. What if it doesn’t work out?” He left the thought hanging but I got it. I understood what he was trying to tell me.

I wanted to hug him! I was so proud! I totally missed that way of thinking because rarely do I find men who regard a woman’s heart, precious. He was willing to take his time so he can set things straight within himself first before letting this girl enter the picture. Wow. I sure hope that love and the right moment will come to him and the girl. They deserve it.

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The Right Moment

Go check out Sara’s post, The Ultimate Non-Couple.

I love the movie, When Harry Met Sally…

If you guys have a similar story to tell, feel free to drop us an email and we’ll share it with the rest of the Dating Dames readers!

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Sara’s Non-Couple Moment

When I was very small I spent a great deal of time with them due to my older brother being so ill.

There were so many nights that I’d have my grandma brush my hair and tell me about the time when she and grandpa met.

Grandma was working in an old time fountain shop when a sailor walked in off the street one day. There was no conversation exchanged other than the typical, ordering, paying and leaving. When grandpa walked out the door my grandmother turned to her friend and said, “That’s the man I am going to marry.”

Later that day grandma went and broke off her existing engagement and waited a very long 6 months or so till that sailor would come back in town.

He did and they dated a very short time and married. They were married 54 years when grandpa passed away. Prior to this he had survived 7 heart attacks and even World War II. They had five children including my mother.

The night grandpa passed away I was able to be there. I stood back in the corner of his hospital room feeling almost as if the space around grandpa’s bed was sacred space and should not be disturbed.

I heard my grandma and grandpa whispering to each other a bit and then I heard grandma lean over and say, “it’s ok, you can go now.”  And within a couple of minutes of my grandmother giving him her blessing and a kiss on the cheek - my grandfather was gone.

This was a man that held onto the woman he loved even through his own pain. He could not and would not leave her until she assured him she would be ok. He was always so concerned that some relatives would place my grandmother in a nursing home and take all she had left. Grandpa was an intuitive man because that’s exactly what did happen.

Today my grandmother lives in a nursing home dying a slow, painful and very lonely death. She doesn’t remember much, which is so sad – when she can’t remember the greatest love story I have ever known.

Perhaps that was one of the biggest challenges I faced when I was single and dating.  I had always had the perfect love, the perfect marriage – the perfect husband to compare everyone to.

The one comfort I have in the man I chose to marry is that he was one that both grandma and grandpa both approved of. 

In honor of my grandparents and the inspiration they were to me and so many who many be hoping for a love that powerful…I wanted to share the tale of Frank and Carrie.

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The greatest love story I know…

I was fortunate to be part of the group to whom she relayed her very cute love story.

Frida grew up in a very traditional Greek Family in Australia, which means they’re very conservative and strict. She had 4 other sisters and they weren’t allowed to go out with boys. They were oftenly accompanied by their father to wherever they wish to go. The night she saw Blondie was an example of such a situation.

Frida and her sisters, together with their father, went to the cinema. She saw a man with blond hair, which explains the nick name Blondie, and immediately took a liking to him. She was totally smitten, she told us. But the guy didn’t notice her at all. Since they were not allowed to chat up any guy, the night passed without any hope of meeting this man. So she went home disappointed but still exhilirated with the feelings she have for this guy,which seem to be growing steadily even if she hardly knew him.

Frida would occasionally see the man around town but failed meet or speak to him for fear of her father. She just spoke of Blondie and her feelings for him to her mom, claiming that she has fallen in love with this man.

Few weeks later, one of her sisters come rushing into the house one day bearing news about who else bought the shop across their house but Blondie, himself. Frida couldn’t believe it until she saw him move in and set up the shop, herself. She was deliriously happy.

Soon after the shop opened, she would always make an excuse to buy Fish and Chips from his shop, even if they’re having Roast for dinner. She’d claimed that she prefers Fish and Chips instead and of she went to buy them herself. This gave her the opportunity to get to know Blondie better. They graduated from the usual greetings to occasional conversations about each other’s interests, one of those were the music that they listen to. He started lending her his albums until she had quite a few in her room that she listens to.

However, here comes the day when Frida’s father caught wind of what was going on and went to speak to her about it. Well, it was more like her father telling her that she wasn’t allowed to speak to Blondie or go to his shop ever again. She was devasted but she knew she had to obey her father but she requested that she’d return all the Blondie’s albums, which were still with her.

And that she did. Frida went to the shop bearing the albums and upon seeing him, she placed them on the counter and said, “I’m just returning your albums. Good-bye.” The confused Blondie asked her to wait and tell him what it meant. She couldn’t begin to explain but she did her best. He then told her, “You must know that I have feelings for you. And if it’s alright with you then I will ask your father for your hand in marriage .” She was 19, he was 21.

And they’ve been married for 32 years. Amazing, isn’t it? Seeing them together that time, I can say that they still love each other very much. It was a wonderful sight and very encouraging for a single woman like me.

Yes, folks, this is a true story. Can you imagine meeting your future life partner in the most commonest of places? And even if you are in a hopeless situation, it wouldn’t hinder love from happening. Frida and Blondie never went on a date, never had that long-engagement or even have the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship but it worked out anyway.

I really enjoyed hearing this story.

If you have a love story to tell, do share it with us. It just might help someone else find hope in finding real love. Just send us an email at sasha@b5media.com.

ªNot his real name

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Frida’s Story

I’ll be honest, I’ve never tried one of those Speed Dating Events, though they look fun and interesting, it wasn’t something that had developed much interest during my dating career.

So when it comes to Speed Dating, I must live life vicariously through the experiences of others and what an experience it’s been.

Not only does Sasha take a leap and move to a new town, but she braves the wilds of dating and participates in a local event which she has kindly shared with us.

If you’re interested in exploring the option of Speed Dating, check out Sasha’s story. Granted, there must be some success to this trend or it wouldn’t continue to grow nearly 7 years after it began in California.

Thanks to Sasha for sharing her story!

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Speed Dating – Sasha Style