I’ve only been able to read the first few pages, but so far I’ve learned that good communication is affected by rapport, calibrating, and communication style. The way you relate to others has to do with your ability to recognize, understand, and get in-tune to another person’s way of communication.  I’m going to read the book this weekend and get back to you ASAP with a review.

I love my new boyfriend, but sometimes we run into communication issues. I think that a large part of this has to do with the limitations of our relationship – he’s in Colorado, I’m in California. We do most of our communicating on the phone. It’s easy to misunderstand someone when you can’t see their expression or body languageand it’s even easier to misunderstand them when you are texting and have absolutely no clues whatsoever to intent.

Throughout my last relationship, I found myself giving in a lot, just going along in an attempt to avoid an argument. It worked in a way – we only had about 3 actual arguments in a year and a half, but when I look back, I am frustrated with myself. I pushed a lot down and giving in didn’t always work out in the long run, because it led to resentment, on my part. (And serious dislike, at this point.)

I want my relationship with Mark to be the forever kind and that means I can’t just push things down, I have to sometimes argue my point. Sometimes more than once, because that’s the way things play out with him on occasion.

I have picked up a few things along the way and I’m going to pass them along in the hopes that they might help you.

*You don’t have to win. In fact if yelling is involved, you can pretty much guarantee that there will be no winner at all. (Hurt feelings=you both lose).
*Someone has to stay calm. You can’t both get wound up, even in the most stressful of situations (for example, when someone misses their flight).
*Don’t discuss important things through text. Seriously, I cannot stress this enough.

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Communication and Connection

Relationships can be so tedious, right? Well, after the initial romance die down, we’re all tempted to either throw in the towel or work at it (though some choose to ignore it, disastrous I’d say). I’ll opt for the latter and here are some tips on how to go about “staying” in the relationship.

Tip #1
Make a list.

Tip #2
Start spreading the news.

Tip #3
Learn what to say.
(And how to listen.)

Tip #4
Learn to soothe frayed nerves.

Tip #5
Give a little more.

Found them too cryptic? Want to know about these tips? I suggest you visit Shake It! Books and see what they’ve got to say about them. Better that way, trust me. PLUS! You can enjoy the old photos they used as illustrations. Brilliant! LOL.

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Falling in love is easy but…

Sleeping is something everyone does. It will only vary from what time one will go to bed to how many hours one needs to sleep to feel rested.

Losing sleep can cause physical, mental, emotional and psychological stress. Why do you think it’s recommended that we all get, at least, eight hours of sleep? The symptoms like quick temper, drowsiness, and tiredness can affect our relationships — personal and work. But, of course, I’m no expert, so, please take this as a commentary.

As a brief example, I had noticed that when one lacks sleep, the attention needed on something wanes and it somehow contributes to poor punctuality. It then throws off the day’s itinerary, which can cause arguments than can ruin your time together or worse, your relationship.

See how sleep or not alloting ample sleep time can do? It can trigger a domino effect that you could have prevented had you gotten enough sleep. Don’t you agree?

Besides, when you do get ample sleep and you wake up the following day, you’ll see how bright and energised you are! Your partner will certainly appreciate that!

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Quick Tip: Allot Ample Sleep Time