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Dating & Relationships: Trial by Distance

Sasha Manuel — Thu, 03 May 2007 21:21:36 +0000

I believe I’ve spoken about maintaining individuality and spending time away from your partner, however, I can’t help but wonder that even when I’ve been in a relationship for half a year now, will I be able to pass the test of distance?

It’ll just be four days. I’ll be going off on a *political* road trip (part of media on a campaign caravan of a senatorial candidate), which means I’ll be on the road without my partner beside me and I’ll be doing my own thing. It’s a bit unsettling since, for the past few months, I’ve grown used to the fact that I can see him in a heartbeat if he or I want to. The last time we were apart was when he spent Christmas in the province with his family.

I have to admit that I am excited about this opportunity to further my career as a writer-slash-blogger in new media but, of course, it’s a bit hard doing stuff knowing that I’m leaving someone behind. The dilemma of attachments me thinks.

I reckon this sort of thing comes in every relationship and standing the test of distance may help make us stronger (that certainly sounded cliché-ish ) but regardless, this is something I need to learn. Not to detach but simply to be a little less dependent on the security of proximity.

Anyway, I’m sure this is an opportunity to learn something new — both on relationships and building careers.

What do you guys think? Any thoughts?

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Dating & Relationships: Trial by Distance

The Nod: Friends’ Approval

Sasha Manuel — Mon, 05 Jun 2006 21:13:18 +0000

Fresh from watching Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew McConaughey’s movie, Failure to Launch, I write about the topic of getting the approval of your partner’s friends. Parker’s character, Paula, called it “The Nod”, which basically is referring to the literal nodding of the friends. It can be interpreted to them saying that their friend whom she’s dating has made a good decision in going out with her, which then caused her to assume that he’s on the road to falling for her and the possibility for the relationship to grow serious is much higher.

Let me explain it further in my own way. It’s like seeing them give their blessing on your newly-found dating relationship with their mate. I mean, all of us have our own tight-knit group of friends, whom we consult from time to time and value their insights on the people we date. So, introducing them to the person we’re currently dating for the first time can be crucial to the future of the relationship. Personally, if I am to date someone, I prefer him to be able to mingle and get along well with my friends and vice versa. The relationship will be a little less complicated that way. But if for some unfortunate reason and these people don’t mesh well, I admit, I’d have to drop the guy — after careful consideration, of course.

Granted that there’s a line between seeking their approval and them dictating who we date, it actually depends on us, really. It’s how much power you give them. There’s actually nothing wrong with it so long as you are happy with how things in your dating life is turning out to be.

So, what’s your personal stand on the matter? Do you think that “The Nod” is a vital part of a successful dating relationship? Do you actively seek out “The Nod” from your date’s friends? What about your friends?

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Love or Infatuation

gayla — Thu, 02 Feb 2006 14:30:49 +0000

Throughout the next several weeks I will be revisiting a classic article that I obtained several years ago. I have no idea who the author is or where it came from – only that it was received via a relationship support group, and at that time it had been copied so many times that you could tell it was a well worn and used resource. The article has become a bit outdated with statistics and other bits of information but the basis is still very strong.

It was through this article that I was able to recognize some things about me that I had failed to recognize and that I truly needed to work on rather than expecting anyone to accept those “flaws” when trying to make a relationship work.

The various topics I’ll be touching on are:

* Definitions of Love
– simple infatuation
– romantic infatuation
– sex interest
– real love

* Varied Facts about Love and Infatuation
* Fourteen Clues of Love

CLUE 1. What Is The Major Attraction?
CLUE 2. How Many Factors Attract?
CLUE 3. How Did It Start?
CLUE 4. How Consistent Is Your Level Of Interest?
CLUE 5. How Does It Affect Your Personality?
CLUE 6. How and when does it end?
CLUE 7. How Do You See Each Other?
– Is Love Blind?
CLUE 8. How Do Others View You Two?
CLUE 9. What Does Distance Do?
CLUE 10. How Do Quarrels Affect the Romance?
– Constructive Quarreling
CLUE 11. How Do You Feel about and Refer to Your Relationship?
CLUE 12. Are You Selfish or Selfless?
– Selfish Sex
– Commitment – a Law of Life
CLUE 13. What Is Your Overall Attitude?
CLUE 14. Are You Jealous?
Infatuation Can Grow into Love
* Problems Marriages Face Today

As I address and touch on each of the above listed topics, I hope many of you will feel comfortable in chiming in and sharing your own experiences with each one and how that topic in particular may affect your life.

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Love or Infatuation