“Sex became a job instead of being fun and easy.” That’s how Khloe Kardashian describes “baby-making sex” â€“ you know, sex for the sole purpose of making a baby â€“ in the latest issue of New! magazine. And for the first time in the history of reality television, I agree wholeheartedly with a Kardashian. In fact, I couldn’t have said it better myself! That’s because baby-making sex is the worst kind ever. And anyone who tells you otherwise is lying.
Here’s the deal: sex in general is awesome. It’s fun and and exciting and, well, it feels really fucking good (or at least it should). But when you’re doing it for the sole purpose of procreating, sex just becomes another thing on your giant to-do list. That’s right, the one thing that’s supposed relax you and make your problems disappear has the opposite effect. It’s stressful and tedious and, frankly, it becomes one of those things you actually have to “schedule in” â€“ kind of like getting your teeth cleaned. Or summer highlights. More
Recently, I wrote about the reason I use birth control: so that I can have sex, and not babies, which is still true for me. But that’s not always the reason women take contraceptive–case in point,Â Hunger Games and 30 Rock actorÂ Elizabeth Banks, who, in a recent blog post for CelebVillage, thanks the Pill for an unlikely miracle: her son, Felix, who was carried by a surrogate. Yup, for Banks, contraceptive was key to a happy, healthy family, and she wants to make sure everyone has the access they need. More
Planned Parenthood has been at the center of some of the most important political debates in the past few monthsâ€”over their funding, abortion services, and contraceptive access for women in the country at large. In the process, we’ve seen a lot of competing information about what they do and don’t offer, how they get their money, and how well they support women’s health. To clarify, we asked them to respond to some of the biggest criticisms of lateâ€”including the ones charged by former Planned Parenthood Director Abby Johnsonâ€”and clarify the facts. More
Sandra Fluke was among seven women on stage at New York City’s 92nd Street Y last night on a panel moderated by Chelsea Clinton. The event, called “Running in Heels: Where are the Women Candidates for 2012 and How Can We Get More Of Them?” led to a lot of talk about how women hold themselves back in the political arena, but Sandra Fluke broke rant to make an important point: That women also face a lack of support from public policies when it comes to success in politicsâ€”including challenges to contraceptive access. certain structural barriers that shouldn’t be discounted, and as much as women need to encourage each other to step up to leadership positions, we also need public policies to help us get there…like contraceptive access. More
One of the biggest arguments against providing equal and affordable access to women’s health care, including birth control, has consistently been that it’s just too expensive, and that it’s not the responsibility of the government. That if low-income women don’t want to have children, they shouldn’t have sex. And if they do have sex and get pregnant, there will be adoptive parents waiting with open arms. But those arguments doesn’t consider one giant, heartbreaking sector of the population who are being given the short end of the stick in about a million ways: children who are born to addicts of methÂ and other drugs, who are difficult to adopt, who are born with a landslide of problems, who, too often, are left in the care of unfit parents, and who are anything but inexpensive. More
For decades, theÂ intrauterine deviceÂ (IUD) was a dirty word when it came to contraceptive, thanks in large part to problematic early versions, which lead to bacterial infection, sepsis, and other gnarly and painful complications. But these days, scientists have pretty much got IUDs down pat; they’re safe, they’re effective, and they’re ultra-practical. But according to a study by the CDC, many doctors are still nervous about the sperm-stopping whale tale, and they may be sending the wrong message to patients. More
Probably one of the biggest and most damaging pieces of misinformation swirling around during this whole reproductive healthÂ debate is that birth control is inexpensive. And whether or not you think that it should be covered by insurance (like every other kind of medicine is), the fact remains that birth control, in all of its various forms, costs a lot of money. And that cost is, the majority of the time, absorbed by women–who already pay more for health insurance. More
Whether you’re currently trying to get pregnant or don’t want a baby for at least another decade,Â the habits you cultivate now could affect how easily you conceive. Infertility, of course, has many causes, most of which are out of our control (or at least irreversible, like age). But personal habits, environmental exposures and other “lifestyle factors” also play a role. Check out the following 8 fertility factors that can boost or wreck you chances of getting pregnant. More
Yesterday, the House Judiciary Committee passed a proposed bill which would make it illegal for anyone who is not a pregnant teen’s parent to transport her across state lines in order to get an abortion. At first glance, this may seem like a good idea–ideally, parents should be involved in such a major medical and ethical decision. But after reviewing it further, there are so many things wrong with this idea. More
If you think having an abortion means your personal information will be kept private, you will be shocked to learn that the doctor at one abortion clinic just dumped over 1,000 private abortion records in a nearby public recycling bin–outside an elementary school, no less. More
When former Planned Parenthood director, Abby Johnson, was called into an exam room to assist with an abortion, she had no idea her stance as a pro-choice advocate was about to change. Having helped thousands of women get access to abortions during her eight-year tenure at Planned Parenthood and even undergoing two abortions herself, Johnson was radically swayed from being pro-choice to pro-life after seeing what happened during an ultrasound abortion.
While her goal was always to reduce the thousands of abortions that take place in the U.S. each day by offering women other options like birth control and adoption, Johnson now realizes that she was “brainwashed” into believing certain “lies” that Planned Parenthood taught her for so many years, and she went on to write a book about it: Unplanned, The Dramatic True Story of a Former Planned Parenthood Leader’s Eye-Opening Journey Across the Life Line.
To find out more, we talked with Johnson about the untruths she says this organization told her, other employees and millions of other women. More
Though we’re usually on the same page with most issues, the writers and editors at Blisstree don’t always see eye to eye on controversial matters–like the new law in L.A., which requires men appearing in porn movies to wear condoms in order to get a permit to film. Hanna thinks that it’s a good idea, if only in theory, while Elizabeth isn’t into laws that try to regular already self-regulating industries, like porn. Here, we’re going to let you in on our discussion. More
I have always been pro-choice, and I can say with near certainly that I always will be. But my personal feelings about abortion haven’t always been so solid. There was a time when I believed I wouldn’t have to think twice about my choice, should I be faced with an unwanted pregnancy; now I’m pretty sure I could never have an abortion. But in debates over reproductive rights, there’s not a lot of understanding for women who share my views. More
“Late-term” abortions tend to be very controversialâ€”and confusing: Many people have read or heard horror stories about what happens when a woman aborts a fetus that’s over 20 weeks. To get a medical perspective, we talked with Dr. Anne Davis, Associate Professor of Clinical Obstetrics and Gynecology at Columbia University Medical Center and the medical director of Physicians for Reproductive Choice and Health. More