Just quickly to let you know that Marye & I are talking and working on things. She is tenacious, we had a long talk in a parked van on Saturday. She figured she had a captive audience.
We had our first Christian Counseling session yesterday and a coffee date afterward. Even after the counseling we are still on speaking terms. Nothing new, just the groundwork and our objectives.
Marye and I are committed to one another. That has not changed. It won’t change. As y’all know from reading our posts over the past eight months, …read more

This is difficult, though not as difficult as real life. I am sorry that I have not been as frequent here at MarriageActually as I should have been. This has been good, getting to know some of you as you would let us know you. To say that laying this down is easy is wrong. Doing this has been equally difficult as of late.
Things are not going well in Camelot. My armor is chinked and tarnished. And may need to be retired as well. I am no knight in shining armor and never have …read more

First of all, I really started reading over Marriage Actually today and I realized that I have been more negative that I want to be, should be, and I know better.  So…Please forgive me for that.  I see Marriage Actually as being a ministry and in my quest for finding a place to think I used this vehicle unwisely, as was lovingly pointed out to me by my Pastor this morning.  And he is right.  As he normally is.

I have to be the first to admit that while I am pretty knowledgeable in many areas of marital studies there is the occasional term that I don’t know.  This was the case of a phrase I came across a few years ago.  The idea seemed odd to me.  And so, to understand it I did what I always do, I researched it and what people had to say about it.
What was the term?  Maintenance sex.  If you are not aware of the definition it is when the low drive partner plans an encounter that is geared specifically for the …read more

I think that it would probably be the LACK of money and the LACK of sex that cause the problems.  Anyway, in this year of the plethora of economic woes you will see three words in the same sentence more and more:money, sex, divorce.

 
Does the way you handle conflict depend more on who you are or how long you have been married or both?

 
In the last three posts I have talked  about how Christianity changed me. Other areas have affected me as much and I don’t want to neglect them.
Work / Career have had a big influence on me as well. Let’s face it, our careers can definitely reshape and mould a man in positive ways, but it can also have very negative influence on who we are and who we will become. In my twenties, I was extremely career oriented and my mentors were a big influence. Whether in college …read more

Still on the same subject, I hope that you are not rolling your eyes at me..but this subject is near and dear to my heart. Too many women are silently dealing with these things and being told by the media and their own minds that it is their lack of desirability that makes their mates ignore them.
One of the things I learned during this time was that the problem, MY problem was not with Marc it was within me.

After going from one extreme to the other. It has been an adventure, (one I’m still on) finding my old self and inviting myself back into my walk with Christ and my marriage.
Some of you reading might be thinking this guy is going through his mid-life crisis. No, because we both wish this happened earlier in our marriage, or better yet didn’t have to. I haven’t gone out and bought a new sports car or …read more

At the end of Part 1, I referred to skiing the Double Black Diamond slope, after being off skis for about 26 years.
That was a big confidence builder for me, but I still have a Double Black to conquer at Sugarloaf, in Maine. You see I was about 15 or 16 on a school Ski Club trip over New Years when that slope really kicked my backside. I felt like that guy on ABC Wide World of Sports, you …read more