I found an interesting article through a Twitter contact today. The piece was written by Judy McGuire. McGuire, a long-time relationship expert, says that the question she’s asked more than anything has to do with an inability to meet someone.
Unfortunately, there are quite a few mistakes people unknowingly make that could be keeping them from true love….or at least a movie date.
Are you having trouble meeting someone?  Then, take a look at this list and see if you are making one or more of these mistakes. Many of them are things we’ve talked about here before. Basically the point is this – …read more

Men can be hard to figure out. They say that about us women, but men can use this combination of sarcasm and bravado – with women and with other men – that confuses me sometimes.  Marie Claire’s Rich Santos, a male dating blogger, shares a peak into the male mind…..

*Go forth with confidence. It’s the fake-it-till-you-make-it school of thought.
Santos says, “Men are taught that confidence solves just about anything. You can be making a total mistake, but as long as you’re confident, it will turn out okay. This may explain why we are so clueless at what we are doing …read more

REDBOOK has the answers to your sex questions in their new book, REDBOOK’S 500 Sex Tips, by Judy Dutton.  Here are a few tips – straight from the book, via REDBOOK.com -  to help spice things up and get you and your partner in the mood.
*According to a study at the University of New Brunswick, Canada, men feel that the ideal amount of time to spend on foreplay is 18 minutes. Women mistakenly assumed that men wanted less, when they assumed the ideal amount was 15 minutes. I guess they aren’t in the hurry that we assumed they were ladies. Good …read more

I’ve been thinking about the notion of courting. What does it mean? Is is a good thing? A bad thing?  I mentioned to my boyfriend that I wanted to be “courted,” and he reacted as if it was a bad thing.
I was confused by his reaction at first, but then I thought back to a conversation we’d had about 20 minutes prior on the word “prerequisite” and it occurred to me that it might be one of those words that mean different things to different people.
I looked up the word “courting” and Free Online Dictionary has this:
*To try to gain the …read more

If you and your guy (or girl) are running out of things to do Cosmopolitan.com has a list Creative Summer Dates.
My daughter and her boyfriend, Greg, are doing number one on the list today – Tubing on the river. He picked her up a bit ago and we had a big discussion about sunscreen. For some reason she was resistant. Silly kid.
I’ve never been tubing myself. It sounds like so much fun. I do, however, float on a raft in hip-high water as often as my schedule permits. I think that a picnic at the park and a float …read more

I’m trying to figure out what I think about dating anniversaries.
Some couples celebrate anniversaries while they are dating.  There seem to be a lot of variations in these anniversaries and I have no idea what the right answers are for determining these.  How often do you celebrate?  It could be every week, month, year?  And even more importantly, how do you decide on your official day to celebrate?  Is it the first meeting, date, kiss, night you slept together, or day you decided to be exclusive?
There are are really so many possible answers to all of these questions and infinite …read more

I read an interesting item today. It was an essay that is an excerpt from Andy Raskin’s memoir, The Ramen King & I: How the Inventor of Instant Noodles Fixed My Love Life, that was in the March 2009 issue of Women’s Health magazine.
In the essay, Andy talks about how when he assumes the role of “teacher” in a relationship, it inevitably leads to the downfall of that relationship.
I’ve had boyfriends who like to teach me things before. Sometimes it works, sometimes it does not.
I am the type of person who needs to read the directions a few times, who …read more

If you have been in a relationship with the same person for a long time then you eventually reach the point where you no longer have the spark of the initial romance and instead you probably find yourself sharing a life, but mostly just chugging along with your daily routines.  If you find that most of your conversations involve discussing utility bills and grocery lists, then you have probably reached this point.
I was searching around on the internet to find ideas for an article about how to bring back the romance to long term relationships, when I stumbled upon a …read more

I hung out with my parents this weekend.
It’s really interesting how, when living with your parents, you are eager to get away from them, and then as soon as you move out, they become sort of…cool.
Anyway, in another one of my blogs, I am running a contest where readers have to share their most romantic moment. My mom told my dad about it, and said she had wanted to enter, but couldn’t think of a romantic moment to share.
They enjoyed a playful banter for the remainder of the day, where they each tried to conjure up a moment. The end …read more

Had drinks with a friend tonight. She’s been dating a guy who she met on Match around New Years, and for the most part, things have been going pretty well.
Except…
“Well, he’s really sweet, and generous, but kind of…boring.”
Apparently, my friend and this guy fell into a relationship about a week into dating. They never had the casual dating phase, but, rather, went from first date to sleepovers and having toothbrushes in each other’s apartments.
Hot?
Not.
“Most nights, we just sit on the couch side by side on our laptops and don’t even talk.”
My friend is rethinking the entire relationship, wondering if the …read more