My kids are in a very needy phase, which yeah, I’m Mom, so taking care of them is my job, but is it too much to expect two kids 16 and 17 to get themselves up and ready for school? (I am their alarm clock, complete with snooze, ride to the bus or school, etc).

Is it too much to expect them to rinse a dish? Or to take out the garbage?  I do all the rest of the chores – they are expected to do their own laundry. They never do their own laundry. I end up doing some part of it, folding, switching, getting it started. I hear from daughter all the time about how much she hates living in my house, how I’m so unfair, how she wants to be on her own.

Go ahead, honey, but you are going to have to do for yourself there. You know, she once told her boyfriend, who also lives with us, that she wanted to move into the apartment complex next to ours because, “We are going to need Mom to drive us places.” Seriously. She said that. She does not understand why that makes me laugh.

In my romantic realtionship, I feel that we need to spend some time together in order to move forward. We are stuck in this holding pattern that is forced upon us by the limits of time and distance and…….well they are biggies. We don’t need any more limits. We have talked and I am sure that he is someone that I want to spend my future with, but right now I feel so much frustration.

I keep trying to think of how I can spend money that I don’t have to fly to Denver to spend the night. Just one night. I can’t spend more time away from my son than that. Or if I can, I’m not aware of it because nobody says, hey, I can see that this is important to you and you’ve helped me, so go, be with your man, get to know him better, I’ll help with the kids……

See how negative I am right now?  I do not like it when I get like this.

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The Weight Of My World

This horoscope presents three clues for you to work with. Here’s the first: I know a psychotherapist’s son who, while growing up, rarely received the benefits of his father’s psychological expertise. “The shoemaker’s child has no shoes,” my friend says. Here’s your second clue: In the Bible’s book of Mark, Jesus declares, “A prophet is not without honor, except in his own country, and among his own relatives, and in his own house.” The third clue: A neurologist of my acquaintance suffers from migraine headaches that he has been unable to cure. Now, Leo, I invite you to meditate on how these alienations may reflect situations that you’re experiencing. If they sound familiar, take action. It’s prime time to heal them.

Here is how this relates to me – I’m a romantic relationship writer with no romantic relationship to write about. I have all the advice in the world for anyone who cares to query me, but in the case of myself, I’m frozen in time and space. I think about wanting to try again – I sometimes stick my toe in the dating pool, but then I pull it out, put my flip flop back on, and run quickly in the other direction.

What is the point? I ask myself this question daily. I feel that no matter how much work I put into my last relationship, no matter how much that man loved me, he suddenly just stopped and I have no idea why. To love someone, you put yourself at another person’s mercy and sometimes that’s too scary to contemplate.

On the other hand, I know that I am good in a relationship. I’ve learned a lot over the years about what does and does not make a good partner and the one thing that I know I am good at, the one thing that I’m told time again and again by friend and family – I’m very supportive.

I need something, someone, to support. I want to join a team, a team of two. A duo. Pick me, pick me! No wait, I think I’ll skip the game and go read a book. Or ride my bike. Or head out with my camera. Anything but make eye contact with an attractive man, because I’m too damn scared and I don’t ever want to spend another day feeling like I felt for much of the last year. Unimportant, unlovable, invisible. It sucked.

I’ll do my best to follow the advise of Free Will Astrology, because it’s good advice, but the healing is going to take me awhile.

Did you check you use the link to check your horoscope?  What did it say?

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Looking to the Moon and the Stars …

But is she really?

I guess it’s wise to consider the facts first. Weigh your strengths and come up with realistic expectations before making any life-altering decisions. Did I make sense?

Perhaps an illustration will help clear things up a bit.

It’s quite normal to be attracted to someone with admirable attributes, may it be physical or personality. Notice that I didn’t use a “beautiful and gorgeous girl”. It’s because that definition can be considered an extreme case of putting one on a pedestal. Hehe. We’re merely working on a general scenario.

Moving on to the stage when both are acquainted, they then establish a friendly relationship. Awkward as it seems on the part of the person “in like” since it’s pretty one-sided, this will help determine whether moving on to a romantic sort of relationship is viable. Now, we then have to learn how to tell if it is.

Some individuals fail to discern the true meaning behind certain actions. Some are guilty of reading too much into the other person’s actions and others are just too daft to even notice. But taking everything in stride, leveled expectations and all, will help you to see if a romantic relationship is possible. Bottomline, some things cannot be forced or manipulated. You just can’t make the other person like you back just because you want him or her to. Just doesn’t work that way, I’m afraid.

No one is out of anybody’s league unless they’ve decided to thrown in the towel, I guess. I think it’s all a matter of working on oneself to be part of that league. I’m not talking about crazy manipulations but the honest-to-goodness effort to better oneself in order to win that person’s affection. But if you already think that you SHOULD be in it, we’ll I think you’ve got to do an ego-check.

It’s still true that you ought to be yourself and be loved and appreciated, regardless. But, like what I already said, you can’t force that other person — the one you’re so crushing on — to like your “true self”.

So, if you really want to win that person over, you’ve got to learn how to adapt, play your cards right. Again, I’m not referring to acts of lies and deception but rather of genuine desire to become the right person for him or her.

Oh, before I forget, you’ll never know until you ask. So go take the risk and ask her out. Just make sure you’re ready to accept whatever her answer is.

Anyway, if the rest of you have further insights on the matter, feel free to share them. We’d all appreciate it.

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Is she out of your league?