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We’ve focused so much on dating, what’s good about it, what’s horrible about it, and how to do it. We very rarely focus on ourselves, as single women.

I wrote a post the other day about being a “quality woman” in order to attract a “quality man”. I’d like to expand upon that some more. I’ve become a firm believer in shifting your focus from “finding” someone to “attracting” someone into your life, and in doing so, I’ve decided that I have a lot of things about myself, my life, my views, and my thoughts that need some major adjustments.

I want to talk about what single women can do to feel special. Without having a man in their lives.

I want to talk about how to shift your thoughts from “I need a man.” to “It’d be nice to have someone to share life with.”

I want to talk about how what we project to the world is what we’re going to receive from those in it.

I want to talk about the Law of Attraction, living a fulfilling life as a singleton, and setting goals for ourselves as individuals.

We deserve happiness, sure. We also deserve success when we put forth an effort, and that goes well beyond gussying up for a date. Our identities are not made by anyone but ourselves, and so many women I know need to learn that. Listen, I’m a pro at being single. But in my last relationship I lost a LOT of who I am, and dammit, I want her back!

Stay tuned, because this Dating Dame is taking the focus off dating, and putting it right where it belongs, back on me!

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