• How do you define a “Crazy Girl”?

I’ve been called “crazy” my whole life—usually in a loving way, but sometimes not so lovingly. The beauty is that I embrace my craziness and I am looking for others like me! CrazyGirl Nation is a community for Crazy Girls and the people who love us. Crazy Girls are outgoing, ambitious, intelligent, and passionate women who want to live fabulous lives but find themselves freaking out from time to time about their careers, their happiness, and their romantic relationships. Most of my closest friends are Crazy Girls. Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda of Sex and the City are Crazy Girls. Most women bloggers are Crazy Girls. CrazyGirl Nation is a place where these women are celebrated and can support one another.

• What is the most common question that you get from your readers and how do you answer it?

The two most common Google searches that lead people to my blog are “How to Ask Your Boyfriend to Get an STD Test” and “How to Make Your Boyfriend Miss You.” These are people out in the internet universe, so I can’t say those are actually the main concerns of my loyal readers. I think the biggest overall problem that my women readers deal with is what to do when they feel like their boyfriend or husband is taking them for granted. You can’t really make someone show you more attention or make you feel more special. It’s something you have to draw out of your partner by being independent and constantly on the move. It’s something I struggle with all the time—wanting to make sure the relationship stays special without nagging my boyfriend about it.

However, as of this interview, 52% of my readership is actually men! I think men read my blog for the same reason they watch Sex and the City. They want to know how women think, what we care about, and how we talk about them when they aren’t around. They aren’t spying. They’re just lurking and enjoying the community of Crazy Girls.

• What is your favorite relationship self-help book?

My relationship go-to-guides are Why Men Love Bitches (and the sequel Why Men Marry Bitches) as well as the combined edition of The Rules and The Rules II. I’m also a big fan of He’s Just Not That Into You. These books really gave me a much needed wake-up call when it came to dating. They showed me how to date with dignity instead of being a dating dummy. I would recommend these books for any woman who is frustrated with her dating situation—or who just wants to make dating a lot less worrisome and a lot more fun.

• How do you get comfortable discussing private issues like sex and relationships in an open forum like a blog?

I’ve never been much of a private person. As a writer, my value is in being able to give people a window into people’s inner worlds—even if they are fictional character’s inner worlds. My blog is a window into my inner world. You don’t get to see every nook and cranny of my house—just enough to know that I’m real and there’s lots of great treasures inside of me. I think that it’s very important that we talk about private issues in an open forum so we can learn from and support one another. I’m very careful to write about only what is my own business. My friends don’t have to worry that they tell me something and it will end up on the blog. I don’t need anything sensational or gossipy to draw readers. Readers are drawn in by the topics, because they are real concerns they deal with and have opinions on. I write about the things I struggle with or have gone through. When choosing what to write about, I operate under the assumption that if I’m thinking about something a lot, chances are lots of other people are too. I’m really thankful for the internet and how easy self-publishing has become. CrazyGirl Nation means a lot to me. It’s given me a community of people around the world that I identify with and who understand what it’s like to be “crazy.” I just hope to have the opportunity to continue to grow the community and reach other people.

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How to Love Being a Little Bit Crazy

I was recently told that the Easter bunny is itself a sign of fertility – thus the eggs – and we all know fertility is basically all about sex. So, why not celebrate Easter with…the best bunny of all time?

Everyone’s favorite sex toy is the Rabbit, which was made popular years ago on Sex and the City. What you may not know is that since then, it’s gone down a long and winding road of improvements, and now, if you walk into my favorite toy store, Babeland, you’ll see dozens! Just check out the variety they offer here.

Now, what is it that makes the rabbit so popular? It may be the dual action – it’s simultaneously a really powerful vibrator and tickles your most sensitive spots for super potency. Or maybe it’s just that, thanks to SATC, it became the first toy to go mainstream – and thus brought something we all enjoy, “out of the closet”.

Whatever the reason…we all love the rabbit! And, it’s the season of bunny love – so go give yours some extra attention today!

Image: Babeland

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Make Easter Extra Personal

Stereotypes are borne out of prejudices and not from well-founded thought. Some are generated from inferred evidence and others, uh — from real encounters? Heehee. The latter is not a cause for us to generalise, though. That would be a tad bit unfair for the rest. The society and our culture have a lot to do with the foundation of stereotyping. So, that’s a step to understanding this particular human behaviour.

This subject first came to my attention here at Dating Dames when it was raised in the conversation a few of us had when I’d written a post about how men find women who eat sexy. It made me see how stereotyping affects the dating scene or our choices on who to date, at least.

It caught up with me yet again when I talked about the Sex and the City character, Miranda’s skinny jean fashion-turned-dating experience over at Tops 2 Bottoms when it was noticed that in the show, she kept dating geeks or geeky-looking guys. In short, she’s been pegged as the geek-magnet reasoning that compared to rest of her friends, she’s the “plain” one.

It, therefore, raised a few questions like what type of guys do plain-looking and/or geeky girls get and it further reinforces the idea that hot girls = hot guys [Which we all know is total bullocks. Heh.].

It makes me wonder, though. Just how much of our dating preferences are influenced by stereotyping? Coming from someone who thinks she’s a poor judge of character [that'd be me. hehehe.], how can you tell if you’re gaining or losing something or, better yet or worse — someone — when you do stereotype?

Or is it just a case of “whatever works”?

Personal opinion: Always give them the benefit of the doubt, you really can’t know the person by simply looking at or by trusting what other people say about him or her, don’t you agree? There’s always a reason behind everything and it’s always worth taking the risk [what's there to lose?]. What good would it do to stereotype, anyway? This other person just might surprise you. Think of it this way, he or she might be “the one”. Heehee.

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The Subject of Stereotypes: Risk or Opportunity?