Topic: sex issues

Would You Rather: Skinny vs. Sex

Would You Rather: Skinny vs. Sex

If you haven’t had a chance to step back and reflect on your life goals recently, don’t worry: We’ve got a fun game that will help you figure out your priorities: “Would you rather.” This week’s topic is inspired by a recent Fitness magazine survey, which asked readers whether they would skip sex for a year in order to be skinny. (The alternative being great sex with 30 extra pounds of baggage.) A whopping 51% of their respondents said they’d trade sex for skinny. We have a couple of problems with the Fitness survey, but we also want to know what our own readers would choose in this (thankfully) hypothetical conundrum.

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Video: Orgasm, Inc. Explores Quest for Female Viagra

Video: Orgasm, Inc. Explores Quest for Female Viagra

Remember our discussion about sex, aging, and how Viagra screws over women? Well, a new film, Orgasm, Inc., is taking a look at the race to create a female Viagra, in order to cure the new epidemic of female sexual dysfunction — or, as we used to say: inability to orgasm. The film aims to expose how the pharmaceutical industry capitalizes on women’s personal and psychological issues, and even just women who haven’t learned enough about their anatomy. More »

How to Fix Your Sex Problems In 2 Minutes

How to Fix Your Sex Problems In 2 Minutes

What’s the biggest problem with relationships, these days? Time, says Psychology Today’s Stephen Snyder, M.D.. According to Snyder, one of the biggest problems in modern relationships of any kind — monogamous or polyamorous — is that we don’t have enough time… for sex, mostly. The Manhattan-based sexologist cites the example of most of his clients, who find that between work, sleep, and maintaining a social life, there’s barely time left for laundry, let alone foreplay. For anyone who’s schedule has never met the words “leisure,” you know that sex is one of the first things to go (no matter how good it used to be), but Snyder suggests a simple, two-minute fix called “simmering.” More »

Rape as Political Theater: Do WikiLeaks Founder Julian Assange’s Alleged Rape Victims Deserve More Respect?

Rape as Political Theater: Do WikiLeaks Founder Julian Assange's Alleged Rape Victims Deserve More Respect?

Bond girls are often victims rescued by Bond, fellow agents or allies, villainesses, or members of an enemy organization (typically the villain’s accomplice, assistant, or mistress). Some are mere eye candy and have no direct involvement in Bond’s mission; other Bond girls play a pivotal role in the success of the mission. Other female characters, such as Judi Dench’s M, and Miss Moneypenny, are not typically thought of as Bond girls.

— Wikipedia entry, “Bond girls”

In our favorite espionage stories, women often play accessories to men who really drive the plot, usually adding something pretty to look at, or exposing the weak spot in a hero’s otherwise unflinching resolve. Then there are the women whose pleasant exteriors mask ugly character flaws and evil motivations (usually spurred by a male super-villain). But at the end of the day, they’re either dead at the bottom of a cliff or safely in the hero’s arms, and we don’t really need to worry about her (or the sex she’s been having with guys she’s not attracted to for the sake of her job).

In this week’s most popular tale of espionage, politics, and conspiracy, women are hardly elevated above those traditional, limiting roles: Whether you see WikiLeaks founder Julian Assange as hero or villain, the stories of two Swedish women, “Miss A” and “Miss W,” are significant but vague asides to the more fascinating battle between political sides. Both of Assange’s alleged rape victims (and the rapes themselves) are interesting insofar as they compromise Assange or benefit his opponents, but hardly a headline wonders about the health and well-being of two women who’ve been molested and forced to endure non-consensual sex.

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We laid out pee pads and cleaned up poo. We cuddled, and were nibbled and nipped. We documented exhaustively. We Facebook-ed and Flickr-ed our new bundle of joy. We threw a puppy shower in retaliation for any and all baby showers we’d ever attended, and ever would attend. We went to the park. We potty trained. We befriended strangers who took no interest in us, only in what was at the end of our leash. We “oooohed” and “ahhhhhed” at our adorable new arrival, but less at each other. We awakened in the middle of the night to clean up accidents, but not to have sex.

We laid out pee pads and cleaned up poo. We cuddled, and were nibbled and nipped. We documented exhaustively. We Facebook-ed and Flickr-ed our new bundle of joy. We threw a puppy shower in retaliation for any and all baby showers weâd ever attended, and ever would attend. We went to the park. We potty trained. We befriended strangers who took no interest in us, only in what was at the end of our leash. We "oooohed" and "ahhhhhed" at our adorable new arrival, but less at each other. We awakened in the middle of the night to clean up accidents, but not to have sex.

– Blisstree contributor Hailey Eber on the harsh realities of bringing a new little one home, and the serious strain that can create for you and your partner, from her post: Puppy Love: How My Beloved Pooch Almost Ruined My Long-Term Relationship

Beginners needn’t bother with the fancy flogs and paddles. Stick with the most simple and useful sex tool: Your hand. Try cupping your hand instead of keeping your palm completely straight. This will hurt less and make an awesome, dramatic sound, explains Kennedy. “Spanking is sort of inherently silly,” says Kennedy. “It can be as elaborate or as simple as you want.”

Beginners neednât bother with the fancy flogs and paddles. Stick with the most simple and useful sex tool: Your hand. Try cupping your hand instead of keeping your palm completely straight. This will hurt less and make an awesome, dramatic sound, explains Kennedy. âSpanking is sort of inherently silly,â says Kennedy. âIt can be as elaborate or as simple as you want.â

– Babeland sex educator Cristen Kennedy on the ins-and-outs of consensual adult spanking in the bedroom, from our post: Hit Me With Your Best Shot: Blisstree’s Guide to Sensation Play During Sex

Who’s Afraid of Your Vagina? Dartmouth, Apparently

Who's Afraid of Your Vagina? Dartmouth, Apparently

Yes. Feel-good reminders about grabbing your favorite hand mirror and spending some quality time with your vagina are certainly tired. But with the recent noise surrounding a simple act of body awareness on Dartmouth’s campus, you’d think the idea was radically offensive. On October 18, Mayuka Kowaguchi handed out mirrors to female students complete with notes on how to examine their lady parts. Kowaguchi was handing out the mirrors as a part of her training for an on-campus sexual advisory group.
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The Intercourse-Is-Rape Argument: What’s German for Déjà Vu?

The Intercourse-Is-Rape Argument: What's German for Déjà Vu?

I don’t know how to say “déjà vu” in German, but the recent argument between German feminist Alice Schwarzer and Kristina Schroeder, the German Minister of Families, over the nature of hetersexual intercourse is making me feel like I’m in Women’s Studies 101 all over again. (If you haven’t read about it, Schwarzer claimed that sex subjugates women, Schroeder disagreed, and insults ensued.)

In 1987, radical American feminist Andrea Dworkin’s published the book Intercourse, sparking especially strong controversy with comments, like the following, that imply the inherent violence of intercourse: More »

German Feminist Alice Schwarzer Says Heterosexual Intercourse Subjugates Women

German Feminist Alice Schwarzer Says Heterosexual Intercourse Subjugates Women

In a public feud, Germany’s leading feminist campaigner recently called its minister of families and women “incompetent” and “hopeless” — not what we think of as an empowering way to treat other women, but hey, it’s Germany, what do we know? When we read up on why they’re fighting, though, we started to feel a little more strongly: Their disagreement stems from comments by Alice Schwarzer, Germany’s foremost feminist campaigner, claiming that “heterosexual sex was hardly possible without the subjugation of women.” More »

“People ask me if spanking is painful,” says Babeland sex educator Cristen Kennedy, who recently started teaching a class on spanking at one of Babeland’s New York City locations. “Everyone processes pain differently. The goal is not to beat the crap out of someone.”

âPeople ask me if spanking is painful,â says Babeland sex educator Cristen Kennedy, who recently started teaching a class on spanking at one of Babelandâs New York City locations. âEveryone processes pain differently. The goal is not to beat the crap out of someone.â

– Blisstree contributor Helen “Girly” Brown interviewing Babeland’s Cristen Kennedy about consensual adult spanking in the bedroom, from her post: Hit Me With Your Best Shot: Blisstree’s Guide to Sensation Play During Sex

Private Practice Graphic Rape Scene: Is Sexual Assault Made for TV?

Private Practice Graphic Rape Scene: Is Sexual Assault Made for TV?

For better or worse, sexual assault is all over media: When we sat down to think of famous rape scenes on film and TV, we came up with so many, we made a second list. Typically, rape is either depicted as a terrible, violent crime, or glorified as part of a sexual fantasy. The former scene type made its most recent appearance on ABC’s Private Practice last Thursday, when Charlotte King (sexology specialist, Chief of Staff at St. Ambrose Hospital, and fiancee to Cooper) was violently raped in her office by a mentally disturbed man.

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Happy (Belated) National Sex Toy Day: 11 Naughty Blisstree Posts to Help You Celebrate Properly

Happy (Belated) National Sex Toy Day: 11 Naughty Blisstree Posts to Help You Celebrate Properly

Ladies (and gentlemen), start your vibrators. According to Lemondrop, last Thursday was National Sex Toy Day. If you’re a regular Blisstree reader, you know that we’re very much in favor of bringing sex toys into the bedroom, whether or not you’re flying solo. To get you in the mood, we put 11 of our sex-toy-focused posts in one place for your browsing pleasure. Whether you’re looking for an adult amusement that’s eco-friendly or just plain cheeky (pun intended), you’ll find a toy that’s right up your alley (ditto) in one of our 11 posts with a sexy slant:

1. Give a Hand to the Blowjob Queen: Read This to Earn Your Fellatio Ph.D.

2. Eco-Friendly After Dark: 10 Green Sex Toys Under $25

3. Hit Me With Your Best Shot: Blisstree’s Guide to Sensation Play During Sex More »

Do Try This at Home: A Sexual Pleasure Checklist (Excerpt From Babeland’s Book Moregasm)

Do Try This at Home: A Sexual Pleasure Checklist (Excerpt From Babeland's Book Moregasm)

The following is an excerpt from Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex in conjunction with our recent post: Hit Me With Your Best Shot: Blisstree’s Guide to Sensation Play During Sex

The Yes/No/Maybe List

In many of our Babeland workshops, we hand out a “Yes/No/Maybe” list. It’s a great tool for starting a chat. More like a game than homework. The rules are easy: Look at the list of sexual activities and put each one into a “Yes,” “No,” or “Maybe” column on a piece of paper. Just go with how you feel at the moment. There are no wrong answers, and you are not chiseling your choices in stone – you can change your mind later. When you’re done, compare answers with your partner and see where you overlap. More »