Shia Labeouf has told Parade magazine that he actually saw his parents having sex and believes it made him a better actor. Now, as far as I know, my children have never walked in or seen us having sex. I cannot say that about my own childhood and I think many others are in my shoes. How many of you can remember walking in on your parents? Something tells me it was a quick escape and something never mentioned right?

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In Shia’s case he believes his humor came from his childhood:

“seeing my parents have sex, smoke weed, my mom being naked … [and] twisted R-rated humor.”

“The good actors are all screwed up. They’re all in pain. It’s a profession of bottom-feeders and heartbroken people.”

I guess that’s one way to look at walking in on your parents. Now, I must ask, if your child has ever walked in on you….what did you do?

Wow, did you know that there is a “right” way to react when your partner calls you by another person’s name?

I’d react with a body slam, but in the book I am checking out, How to Instantly Connect with Anyone, Leil Lowndes offers tips and insight on how to respond without spewing suspicion-fueled obscenities because, after all, it might just be an innocent mistake.

(Not sure HOW. But whatev.)

But the issue existing made me curious - has it ever happened to any of you? How did YOU react?

I personally think at the point of that, there better be a GOOD reason, or I wouldn’t be caring about damaging the relationship!

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I found an interview withThomas Maier, the author of Masters of Sex, a book about legendary sex researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson. Masters, a gynecologist, and Johnson, a psychologist, observed an estimated 10,000 live sex acts in there Washington University research lab. In the process they discovered valuable insight into the “sexual response cycle” and sexual dysfunction. 

After talking to my female friends, I’ve come to the conclusion that women and their sexual selves are not always well understood. Apparently, that opinion is shared by many and I found this part of the interview interesting:

“…the biggest revolution of Masters and Johnson’s work has to do with discovering and underlining the power of female sexuality. Rather than being the weaker sex, their studies showed conclusively that women could be multi-orgasmic and possessed a greater sexual capacity than men. Their clinical proof shattered Freud’s theories about women and sex, and replaced Freudian psychoanalysis with a far more practical and effective sex therapy that was adopted around the world and created the modern sex therapy field.”

Even in my forties I’ve heard people voice opinions that made it sound as if they felt a woman with a good sexual appetite was in some way wrong or slutty. I’ve never held with that idea.

I make jokes about my past, jokes I’m not sharing here, but the point is that sex is a celebration of life, in my opinion.

Sex between two consenting adults, with nobody getting hurt, where’s the bad in that?

This sounds like a very interesting book.  If I get a chance to read it, I’ll review it here.

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Dr. Ruth Westheimer, Ph.D., has a new book out. It’s called “Top Ten Secrets for Great Sex: How to Enjoy It, Share It, and Love It Each and Every Time.” 

In the book, she mentions the importance of afterplay.  “Afterplay” is that time after orgasm, sometimes known as “after-glow.”  If handled correctly, afterplay actually works as a part of foreplay for the next encounter.

It’s particularly important for both men and women to realize that the curve of sexual arousal after orgasm is a much slower one for women than for men. That’s why it’s so important for women to teach their partners that they need to be caressed, held and talked to after they have orgasm. This kind of afterplay is so important that it will actually be the foreplay for the next sexual encounter. When men say it’s physiological that they have to go to sleep right after sexual intercourse, that’s nonsense. That’s just being sexually illiterate. They have to be taught that important aspect of the sexual encounter.

For some reason, the whole idea of cuddling afterward has turned into some kind of joke, which is unfortunate since it turns out that is actually essential to an ongoing successful sexual relationship.

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So, yes, we’re nice girls, and nice girls aren’t supposed to do “that sort of thing”.  Whatev.

Some of us just aren’t prioritizing relationships right now - we have career and our own lives to work out. That doesn’t mean we don’t want some fun now and then.

And thus, we have the infamous booty call. We’ve all made them, we’ve all received them…and yet admitting to this is something of a taboo.

However, the numbers don’t lie - people’s dating patterns have changed and thousands are flocking daily for a casual, fun dating experience where they’re in control and expectations are set right up front. Where are you must likely to find a no-strings attached fun fling? Check out the results of a recent poll by onlinebootycall.com!

Here’s the complete top 10 list of cities that ranked for April:

1. New York City

2. Los Angeles, CA

3. Chicago

4. Houston, TX

5. Atlanta, GA

6. Philadelphia, PA

7. Jacksonville, NC

8. San Diego, CA

9. Columbus, OH

10. Dallas, TX

Do any of you live in these areas? I’d love your take on how true this is!

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Believe it or not, sex can solve your problems.

At least the authors of Sex Comes First: 15 Ways to Help Your Relationship expect us to believe that.

In this book, Dr. Joel D. Block and Kimberly Dawn Neumann go through fifteen universal relationship roadblocks and offer sexual solutions to help you move beyond them.

Whether it’s work, money, jealousy, lack of communication - there’s lots of emotional issues that seem to cause rifts in couples. This book, though, maintains that we can use sex as the common denominator to bring us and our mate back together.

Do I agree? I’m not really sure I do. Sure, bad sex, or lack of sex, can tear us apart…but can good sex bring us back (or keep us) together? It’s - I think - a matter of it being really important a factor if it’s not going well, but only a component if it is.

What do you all think?

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This afternoon, I was reading the newspaper, and there was an article about parents talking to their kids about sex…which got me to thinking.

My parents NEVER talked to me about sex. Ever. My mom did, however, watch afternoon soaps with me from pretty much toddler-hood, and tell me constantly how eager she was to be a grandma.

Ultimately, I got my education from said soap operas, and later on, trashy romance novels - a reality based out of fantasy, with no basis in logistics.

I wonder, now, if that is the root of all my current problems? Of having nothing real, and clinging to the “maybes” and threads of hope that dating (or pseudo-dating) can offer? Would I have been “normal” if I had gotten the talk as a kid?

I can’t help but wonder.

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As a nice Jewish girl, I won’t actually be “celebrating” Easter beyond the requisite pink peeps - however, I am - and remain - a fan of bunny love, and can’t think of a better season to embrace it!

I was recently told that the Easter bunny is itself a sign of fertility - thus the eggs - and we all know fertility is basically all about sex. So, why not celebrate Easter with…the best bunny of all time?

Everyone’s favorite sex toy is the Rabbit, which was made popular years ago on Sex and the City. What you may not know is that since then, it’s gone down a long and winding road of improvements, and now, if you walk into my favorite toy store, Babeland, you’ll see dozens! Just check out the variety they offer here.

Now, what is it that makes the rabbit so popular? It may be the dual action - it’s simultaneously a really powerful vibrator and tickles your most sensitive spots for super potency. Or maybe it’s just that, thanks to SATC, it became the first toy to go mainstream - and thus brought something we all enjoy, “out of the closet”.

Whatever the reason…we all love the rabbit! And, it’s the season of bunny love - so go give yours some extra attention today!

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Today I’ve got something for the men. AOL Health has a piece on the best exercise for even better sex.  C’mon guys, grab your weights, and lets get busy.

*Push-ups - Men need good upper body strength to support themselves in the missionary position.  Push-ups build muscles and help increase endurance. They don’t mention it, but the yoga position known as The Plank would also help here. Lean forward with forearms along the floor, hands in fists, feet bent down, toes on floor. Lift mid-section off the floor and support your weight on forearms and toes. Try to keep your body in a straight line, butt tucked in, not poking out. Hold for as long as you can, work up to 1 minute at time. Works your arms and core.

*Pelvic Tilts - A long time favorite of women, pelvic tilts help to increase control in pelvis region. A tilted pelvis helps a man to position himself for better friction for the woman in the cowgirl position. Lay on your back, bend knees, feet on floor, lift butt up off the floor, toward the ceiling, hold for 2 seconds, return to floor. You are trying to lift everything, except your feet and shoulders off the floor.

*First 1/2 of a Clean Lift - To support your lady in a standing position, you need leg and upper body strength. The first half of a Clean Lift works well here. Put a barbell or dumbbells in front of you. Bend your knees, pick up weight(s) with hands facing opposite directions, shoulder width apart. Straighten up, keeping back and head straight. Pause, lower the weights back down. Do 3 sets of 15.

*Shrug - The wheelbarrow requires strong shoulders and back. A shrug move helps to strengthen this area. Hold a dumbbell in each hand. Stand straight, lift shoulders only, as high as possible, keep arms straight, pause, then lower. Do 3 sets of 8-12.

*Cardio- Any sort of cardio increases endurance and gentlemen, I’m sure it’s no surprise to learn that the ladies appreciate it when you are able to take your time.

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Certainly, the best sex goes to those who are…liberated.

Liberator shapes and positioning furniture may appear a bit steep for the current economic climate (they range in price from $85 - $425) , but they just may reinvent your relationship!

Using these naughty-looking pieces of furniture, you can instantly transform that plain old twin-sized captain-style bed of yours into a SEX TERRAIN, making your boudoir a sudden oasis of play and experimentation.

The reason I love this: We all have those fun sex position guides, and look at the various contortions and wonder how on earth we can do that with OUR bodies. This sort of helps us along though, and with it, we can try a whole new world of motions and angles - making sex that was already hot way way hotter. Or, at least, very different than it was before!

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