*Quiz: Are You Way Too Obsessed With Your Ex?  Some guys (or girls) are hard to forget, but nobody wants to be stalkerish. See how you are doing with this quiz.

*Quiz: Are You Good-Girl Hot or Bad-Girl Hot? The quote with this game is “Are you so bad, you make the Rock of Love girls look good?”  Are those girls hot?  I always thought they looked more sad than hot.

*Quiz: Can You Keep A Guy Intrigued?  I think that depends on the guy, but you can test your intrigue-ability with this quiz.

*Quiz: Are You A Closet Commitment-Phobe? Are you a single-girl through and through?

This one is about your relationship with female friends. Is your friend your friend or your “frenemy.”  Isn’t it sad that there’s a word that describes that sort of person?  If you’ve got a “frenemy,” move on. Nobody needs people like that in their life. 

*Quiz: Is Your BFF Really On Your Side?
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Quizzes: Sex, Intrigue, Frenemies

I am excited to announce that Zestra is hosting a giveaway with Blisstree to offer readers the opportunity to try out this new product for free.  Zestra uses natural botanical oils and is applied to a woman’s body to increase sensitivity with a fabulous warming sensation called the Zestra Rush.  Clinical trials have shown that women using Zestra have had a significant increase in their level of sexual satisfaction when asked to quantify their experience before and after using the product on a linear scale from 1 to 10.

If you are curious about Zestra and interested in taking steps to increase your sexual well-being, this is a chance for you to try something new.  Zestra is giving 25 Blisstree readers a free package that includes two packets of the product.  In order to enter the giveaway all you have to do is send an email to zestraforblisstree@gmail.com and say that you would like to experience the Zestra Rush.  The first 25 readers to send an email will win!

If you want to learn more about Zestra or how to order the product, please visit their website at www.zestra.com.  You can also leave comments here if you have any questions and we can have a professional answer them!

Thank you to Zestra for offering Blisstree readers this wonderful opportunity!

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Experience the Zestra Rush Giveaway

I’ve thought about this before because pill packets especially the heavier plastic ones have always bugged me. They seem like they’d make the pill the least eco-friendly birth control option, but the Huffington Post piece points out that 2.75 million pounds of used-condom refuse ends up in landfills nationwide. So neither seems exceptional when it comes to eco-friendly aspects. That said, the IUD is no good at protecting you from sexually transmitted diseases, so while it may be an eco-friendly choice, I can’t say it’s an across the board good choice.

For both birth control and STD protection you need condoms. There are, btw, biodegradable condoms, but they’ll only protect against pregnancy not STDs, so if you’re not with your totally committed soul mate right now, the best thing to do is to limit the impact your condom use makes.  For example…

• Recycle those boxes! While condoms aren’t recyclable yet, the boxes are big and they can easily be tossed into your recycle bin. If you’re too embarrassed to toss them in your home recycling bin for fear that someone will see, well, maybe you should be holding off on sex. It’s no big!
• DON’T leave condoms out on the beach, in a park, or elsewhere out in nature. Toss in an actual trash bin.
• Eventually you might want to consider a monogamous relationship – then you can use those biodegradable condoms (after being tested for STDs of course). Yes, as it turns out being in a committed relationship, may be the greenest choice here.

Read more about green sex! Yahoo right?

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Is Your Birth Control Green?

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In Shia’s case he believes his humor came from his childhood:

“seeing my parents have sex, smoke weed, my mom being naked … [and] twisted R-rated humor.”

“The good actors are all screwed up. They’re all in pain. It’s a profession of bottom-feeders and heartbroken people.”

I guess that’s one way to look at walking in on your parents. Now, I must ask, if your child has ever walked in on you….what did you do?

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Have Your Children Walked In on You

I’d react with a body slam, but in the book I am checking out, How to Instantly Connect with Anyone, Leil Lowndes offers tips and insight on how to respond without spewing suspicion-fueled obscenities because, after all, it might just be an innocent mistake.

(Not sure HOW. But whatev.)

But the issue existing made me curious – has it ever happened to any of you? How did YOU react?

I personally think at the point of that, there better be a GOOD reason, or I wouldn’t be caring about damaging the relationship!

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When Your Partner Calls You the Wrong Name

After talking to my female friends, I’ve come to the conclusion that women and their sexual selves are not always well understood. Apparently, that opinion is shared by many and I found this part of the interview interesting:

“…the biggest revolution of Masters and Johnson’s work has to do with discovering and underlining the power of female sexuality. Rather than being the weaker sex, their studies showed conclusively that women could be multi-orgasmic and possessed a greater sexual capacity than men. Their clinical proof shattered Freud’s theories about women and sex, and replaced Freudian psychoanalysis with a far more practical and effective sex therapy that was adopted around the world and created the modern sex therapy field.”

Even in my forties I’ve heard people voice opinions that made it sound as if they felt a woman with a good sexual appetite was in some way wrong or slutty. I’ve never held with that idea.

I make jokes about my past, jokes I’m not sharing here, but the point is that sex is a celebration of life, in my opinion.

Sex between two consenting adults, with nobody getting hurt, where’s the bad in that?

This sounds like a very interesting book.  If I get a chance to read it, I’ll review it here.

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Women, Sex, and Masters and Johnson

In the book, she mentions the importance of afterplay.  “Afterplay” is that time after orgasm, sometimes known as “after-glow.”  If handled correctly, afterplay actually works as a part of foreplay for the next encounter.

It’s particularly important for both men and women to realize that the curve of sexual arousal after orgasm is a much slower one for women than for men. That’s why it’s so important for women to teach their partners that they need to be caressed, held and talked to after they have orgasm. This kind of afterplay is so important that it will actually be the foreplay for the next sexual encounter. When men say it’s physiological that they have to go to sleep right after sexual intercourse, that’s nonsense. That’s just being sexually illiterate. They have to be taught that important aspect of the sexual encounter.

For some reason, the whole idea of cuddling afterward has turned into some kind of joke, which is unfortunate since it turns out that is actually essential to an ongoing successful sexual relationship.

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Afterplay – As Important As Foreplay

Some of us just aren’t prioritizing relationships right now – we have career and our own lives to work out. That doesn’t mean we don’t want some fun now and then.

And thus, we have the infamous booty call. We’ve all made them, we’ve all received them…and yet admitting to this is something of a taboo.

However, the numbers don’t lie – people’s dating patterns have changed and thousands are flocking daily for a casual, fun dating experience where they’re in control and expectations are set right up front. Where are you must likely to find a no-strings attached fun fling? Check out the results of a recent poll by onlinebootycall.com!

Here’s the complete top 10 list of cities that ranked for April:

1. New York City

2. Los Angeles, CA

3. Chicago

4. Houston, TX

5. Atlanta, GA

6. Philadelphia, PA

7. Jacksonville, NC

8. San Diego, CA

9. Columbus, OH

10. Dallas, TX

Do any of you live in these areas? I’d love your take on how true this is!

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Top 10 Cities for Booty Calls

At least the authors of Sex Comes First: 15 Ways to Help Your Relationship expect us to believe that.

In this book, Dr. Joel D. Block and Kimberly Dawn Neumann go through fifteen universal relationship roadblocks and offer sexual solutions to help you move beyond them.

Whether it’s work, money, jealousy, lack of communication – there’s lots of emotional issues that seem to cause rifts in couples. This book, though, maintains that we can use sex as the common denominator to bring us and our mate back together.

Do I agree? I’m not really sure I do. Sure, bad sex, or lack of sex, can tear us apart…but can good sex bring us back (or keep us) together? It’s – I think – a matter of it being really important a factor if it’s not going well, but only a component if it is.

What do you all think?

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The Best Form of Therapy? Sex!

My parents NEVER talked to me about sex. Ever. My mom did, however, watch afternoon soaps with me from pretty much toddler-hood, and tell me constantly how eager she was to be a grandma.

Ultimately, I got my education from said soap operas, and later on, trashy romance novels – a reality based out of fantasy, with no basis in logistics.

I wonder, now, if that is the root of all my current problems? Of having nothing real, and clinging to the “maybes” and threads of hope that dating (or pseudo-dating) can offer? Would I have been “normal” if I had gotten the talk as a kid?

I can’t help but wonder.

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Not Talking to Kids About Sex