Topic: sexual health

Sex Re(Ed): How To Talk To Your Unsafe Friend

Sex Re(Ed): How To Talk To Your Unsafe Friend

All this week, we’ve been talking about sexual and reproductive health, and arming our readers (who are a pretty savvy bunch, anyway) with an eyeful of information about birth control, STIsabstinence, their rights, and their choices. However, there are plenty of women out there who won’t be reading this information, and will continue to make unsafe sexual decisions for one reason or another. And if you’re close friends with someone like that, it can be hard to let them know that you care, and that what they’re doing can be dangerous, without going into mom-mode. So how do you tell your friend that being safe about sex is really, really important? More »

Sex (Re)Ed: Having “The Talk” About Birth Control, Delaying Sex Is Uncomfortable, Necessary

Sex (Re)Ed: Having "The Talk" About Birth Control, Delaying Sex Is Uncomfortable, Necessary

October is a spooky month for more than one reason. Aside from hosting Halloween, it’s also Let’s Talk Month, a group effort organized by health activists and Planned Parenthood to encourage parents to talk to their kids about their sexual health. And it turns out, according to one poll released earlier this month, while parents understand the importance of having “the talk“, they also find discussing sex (and birth control) to be just as uncomfortable as their mortified teens. More »

Sex (Re)Ed: Vaginismus, The Reason 15% Of Women Are Having Painful Sex (Or None At All)

Sex (Re)Ed: Vaginismus, The Reason 15% Of Women Are Having Painful Sex (Or None At All)

“We’ve been married for three weeks and I haven’t been able to do it even once,” a patient once told Dr. Addison Montgomery on an episode of Private Practice. “There is something wrong with me,” she continued. “My hoo-ha is broken!”

The exchange made for exactly the kind of storyline you might expect from a medical drama in prime-time, but this particular problem is a lot more common than you might expect. And very frequently misdiagnosed. On the episode, the patient learned that vaginismus, or “vulvar vestibulitis.” But as much as something like “vaginismus” sounds like a made-for-tv diagnosis, it isn’t. In real life, it takes most women far longer than three weeks to discover the name or cause for the condition causing their painful sex. And the cure can be even more elusive. More »

Sex Re(Ed): The IUD Terrifies Me (So I Asked A Doctor All About It)

Sex Re(Ed): The IUD Terrifies Me (So I Asked A Doctor All About It)

It’s already a known (and hotly debated) fact that I don’t want children, and that a tubal ligation is, apparently, out of the question until I reach some arbitrary age, at which point I will no longer, according to my doctor, be a zombie at the mercy of my womb’s insatiable desire to procreate, which could kick in at any time. Which means that, consistently, well-meaning friends and family (and strangers) suggest that I try the intrauterine device (IUD), which is implanted into a woman’s uterus and lives there and keeps her from getting pregnant for years. It’s less expensive than years upon years of birth control, and is pretty much a set-it-and-forget it situation. Assuming you can get past the actual insertion. But here’s the rub: the idea of inserting something into my cervix sounds like the worst kind of hell. More »

Sex (Re)Ed: A Brief Refresher On STIs

Sex (Re)Ed: A Brief Refresher On STIs

Earlier today, Elizabeth wrote about a few non-normal ‘nether region symptoms that could be caused by something other than an STI, which was a good reminder that just because it itches, it doesn’t mean it’s automatically an infection of the intimate variety. But that doesn’t mean that when something fishy is going on downstairs, you should ignore it–because it could be something serious. More »

Sex (Re)Ed: Two Truths And A Lie—What Does The Pill Do To Your Body?

Sex (Re)Ed: Two Truths And A LieâWhat Does The Pill Do To Your Body?

When Loretta Lynn recorded “The Pill” in 1975, women across America heard a familiar voice touting the benefits of birth control, like being in charge of her reproductive choices. The song spread the message that taking the Pill wasn’t just something that loose women needed–it was for everyone, and it was safe and easy. Unfortunately, there were also still a lot of rumors about side effects floating around, and doctors still weren’t really sure what the Pill could or couldn’t do. Three decades later, there are more varieties of the Pill than ever before, and more is known about its effects, yet the misinformation persists. More »

Cat Marnell Sucks At Safe Sex; So Do A Lot Of Women (And Men)

Cat Marnell Sucks At Safe Sex; So Do A Lot Of Women (And Men)

Earlier this week, xoJane’s health and beauty editor, Cat Marnell, wrote a post about how she ‘abuses’ Plan B and doesn’t so much believe in using condoms or any other form of contraceptive. It has, predictably, provoked quite a bit of commentary. But why would the (yes, weirdly written) ramblings of one young woman about how she’s (admittedly) not smart about practicing safe sex cause such outrage? Especially when she was, ostensibly, just trying to be honest and/or funny?
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IUDs are OK, Say OB-GYNs

IUDs are OK, Say OB-GYNs

The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists has officially endorsed intrauterine devices (IUDs) as contraceptives for healthy women and teens.

For many years, IUDs have remained only marginally popular among women in the U.S., in part because the IUD—which is just a plastic device laced with copper or hormones—was thought to increase the risk of pelvic inflammatory disease, which can lead to infertility. The old recommendations, last updated in 2005, only endorsed IUDs for women who had already given birth and were at a low risk for sexually transmitted diseases. More »

Poll: Would You Want To Unlock Foursquare’s STD Badge?

Poll: Would You Want To Unlock Foursquare's STD Badge?

If you were about to get tested for sexually transmitted infections and diseases, would you want everyone to know? Foursquare, the popular social media app that lets users check into local businesses and attractions to gain points and unlock badges, went out on a limb and assumed that you would…and they were right. Partnering with MTV to meld social media with social awareness, Foursquare created an online “movement” to encourage young people to get tested. Every time users checked into a clinic, they unlocked badges and shared their whereabouts across social media platforms. According to them, their campaign resulted in thousands upon thousands of participants. I know the Foursquare homepage says “it’s more fun with friends!” but this might be pushing the envelope.

Sorry! This poll is now closed.

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Newsflash: You Don’t Have To Be Thin To Have Hot Sex

Newsflash: You Don't Have To Be Thin To Have Hot Sex

When Sir Mix-A-Lot‘s hit Baby Got Back came out in 1992, the opening verse became anthemic for so many curvaceously-plump women taking pride in their badonk-badonks (even if his taste was qualified with “itty-bitty waists”). But what about the girls with big…everything? Where’s the number one hit record for that, eh? There has always been some murmuring on the down-lo about men who prefer to date big, beautiful women, or “BBW” as they’re known in cyber circles. They’ve been mostly underground for fear of reprisal, but now the Village Voice has spoken to some men who are finally “coming out of the closet,” as they put it, and into the arms of their lovely 300-pound lady friends. And as it turns out, there are more BBW admirers than you might imagine. Remember that overweight girl from high school who everyone assumed would be celibate for the rest of her livelong years? She’s probably having hotter sex than her former classmates, because newsflash: You don’t have to be thin to have hot sex. More »

Cosmopolitan’s 75 Sex Moves Men Crave: Setting Sexual Health Back 75 Years

Cosmopolitan's 75 Sex Moves Men Crave: Setting Sexual Health Back 75 Years

Magazines like to teach us weird sex positions, most of which we’ll never try. But when Cosmopolitan recently found its way to my table in a cafe, I was still surprised by what was inside. The cover alone made me laugh: Currently, it features a young starlet I don’t recognize (nothing like a magazine to make you feel old), and headlines that sound like a joke: Look Sexy! Makeup That Flirts For You and This Sex Position Increases Female Orgasm by 56%. (I realize their headlines need to be catchy, not scientific, but what does that even mean?) The header that really caught my eye was 75 Sex Moves Men Crave; frankly, I was skeptical they could deliver the goods. (75? Come on.) The article raised my eyebrows, but not because of groundbreaking news about sex. Instead of explicit diagrams of sex moves I’ll never do, it was full of quotes from men (aged about 18-35) about what they wish their exes had done better in bed. It wasn’t just useless; it was actually damaging for sexual health. Instead of giving me 75 great tips, Cosmo set set me back about 75 years. More »