Magazines like to teach us weird sex positions, most of which we’ll never try. But when Cosmopolitan recently found its way to my table in a cafe, I was still surprised by what was inside. The cover alone made me laugh: Currently, it features a young starlet I don’t recognize (nothing like a magazine to make you feel old), and headlines that sound like a joke: Look Sexy! Makeup That Flirts For You and This Sex Position Increases Female Orgasm by 56%. (I realize their headlines need to be catchy, not scientific, but what does that even mean?) The header that really caught my eye was 75 Sex Moves Men Crave; frankly, I was skeptical they could deliver the goods. (75? Come on.) The article raised my eyebrows, but not because of groundbreaking news about sex. Instead of explicit diagrams of sex moves I’ll never do, it was full of quotes from men (aged about 18-35) about what they wish their exes had done better in bed. It wasn’t just useless; it was actually damaging for sexual health. Instead of giving me 75 great tips, Cosmo set set me back about 75 years. More
Topic: sexual health
Shop For Your Life…is not a line from RuPaul’s Drag Race; it’s the conclusion of a study that shows shopping makes people live longer. We have yet to find out how personal finance experts will interpret this one, but for now: You know what to do with your tax return. (FitSugar)
Get Flex-Time for Your Health – Studies show that jobs with flexible schedules improve family life and reduces turnover; time to work from home. (PsychCentral) More
Since the sexual revolution of the 1960s, we’ve come a long way in terms of talking openly about women’s sexual health. Or have we? Let’s face it: Masturbation in our society as a whole (at least in the U.S.) remains a taboo subject, particularly with regard to women. Of course, when it comes to a guy jerking off, it’s perfectly acceptable for that image and act to be the recurring punchline in any number of movies and TV shows. But if women do masturbate, they certainly aren’t expected or encouraged to talk about it. This unfair double-standard has always bothered me, so I asked Dr. Julie Elledge — a psychotherapist for individuals and couples who deals with many issues of sexual health — about some of the physical and mental health benefits of masturbation, and her thoughts on when the hell our society is going to wake up, learn, and accept that women masturbate, too, and that it’s perfectly normal, natural, and healthy. More
Taking relationship advice from Samantha from Sex and The City may not be a wise decision, but occasionally, Sam got things right. She once explained to her friends that “sex is a barometer for what’s going on in the relationship.” And while we might not agree on all counts, when it comes to health benefits, she did have a point.
Sex is just plain good for the body, and may even be on par with diet, exercise, and genetics when it comes to living a healthy life. More
As if having frequent headaches wasn’t bad enough, it turns out that taking painkillers may cause erectile dysfunction. In a study published in this week’s Journal of Urology, researchers observed over 80,000 men aged 45 to 69, beginning in 2002. They found that men who regularly used non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (like ibuprofen or aspirin) were 2.4 times more likely to develop erectile dysfunction. More
Want to know how to have great sex, take great photos, and have a stress-free vacation? We’re tapping the best experts for their tricks and advice for making your life better, six ingredients at a time. This week, we talked to Dr. Carol Queen, PhD, about how to make the most of our time in bed (right now). Check out her ideas and tricks for having great sex: More
According to Jay-Z, there’s nothing you can’t do in New York City. And thanks to a new app launching today (on Valentine’s Day, clever), one thing you can definitely do is find free condoms. The new app, built for iPhones and Android phones, is designed to help New Yorkers find free condoms, wherever they are: just type in an address, and find five places nearby that stock free NYC condoms, courtesy of the city’s health department. More
Cancel Your Tickets to London – Hospitals in England are canceling operations to make room for flu patients in their intensive care units, and there’s a shortage of vaccines and medicines in many clinics and hospitals. (The Telegraph)
Bond girls are often victims rescued by Bond, fellow agents or allies, villainesses, or members of an enemy organization (typically the villain’s accomplice, assistant, or mistress). Some are mere eye candy and have no direct involvement in Bond’s mission; other Bond girls play a pivotal role in the success of the mission. Other female characters, such as Judi Dench’s M, and Miss Moneypenny, are not typically thought of as Bond girls.
— Wikipedia entry, “Bond girls”
In our favorite espionage stories, women often play accessories to men who really drive the plot, usually adding something pretty to look at, or exposing the weak spot in a hero’s otherwise unflinching resolve. Then there are the women whose pleasant exteriors mask ugly character flaws and evil motivations (usually spurred by a male super-villain). But at the end of the day, they’re either dead at the bottom of a cliff or safely in the hero’s arms, and we don’t really need to worry about her (or the sex she’s been having with guys she’s not attracted to for the sake of her job).
In this week’s most popular tale of espionage, politics, and conspiracy, women are hardly elevated above those traditional, limiting roles: Whether you see WikiLeaks founder Julian Assange as hero or villain, the stories of two Swedish women, “Miss A” and “Miss W,” are significant but vague asides to the more fascinating battle between political sides. Both of Assange’s alleged rape victims (and the rapes themselves) are interesting insofar as they compromise Assange or benefit his opponents, but hardly a headline wonders about the health and well-being of two women who’ve been molested and forced to endure non-consensual sex.
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Elegant gifts, glasses of champagne, lounging by the fireside…sounds sexy, right? The holiday season sounds romantic from afar, but in reality, we spend December waiting in line at the mall and fussing over gift wrap, not get frisky in the boudoir. But Dr. Carol Queen, PhD, has some different ideas about how we should get through the holidays: The author and sexologist urges us not to let our sex lives wither. Instead of letting holiday stress and visiting relatives send your libido into remission, she suggests putting a sex toy under the tree (and making sure you have time to use it).
To find out how to keep the holidays hot, check out Dr. Carol Queen’s sex toy gift guide and our short Q&A about how to make the most of the holiday season: More