You may have read about a prominent Dutch diplomat and his wife who “returned” their Korean daughter, whom they adopted when she was four months old. They handed the girl over to social workers in Hong Kong saying the adoption had not worked out.
In a statement published by Dutch newspaper De Telegraaf, Raymond Poeteray — a Hong Kong-based Consul — said his daughter was “very sick,” and suffers from a “severe form of fear of emotional attachment.”
The child currently lives in a separate house, (the Hong Kong Foster system) and the entire family is in therapy.
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As a writer I am finding this daunting because it is so personal. How can I possibly ask a woman carrying a child to place that child with our family forever?
Birth parents have the opportunity to chose the families their children are placed with forever. But writing that letter can be one of the most difficult things a husband and wife ever does.
What should go into that letter?