from AA History Lovers at Yahoo! Groups;

March 1936 – AA had 10 members staying sober. At end of 1936 A.A. had 15 members.
March-May 1938 – Bill begins writing the book Alcoholics Anonymous. Works Publishing Inc established to support writing and printing of the book.
March 1940 – Mort J. came to LA from Denver; started custom of reading Chapter 5 Big Book at Cecil group.
March 1941 – Second printing of Big Book.
March 1941 – 1st Prison AA Group formed at San Quentin.
March 1946 – The March of Time film is produced by NY AA office.
March 1949 – Dr. Bob considers idea of AA conference premature.
March 1951 – American Weekly publishes memorial article for Dr. Bob.
March 1, 1939 – Readers Digest fails to write article on AA.
March 1, 1941 – Jack Alexander’s Saturday Evening Post article published and membership jumped from 2,000 to 8,000 by years end.
March 3 1947 – Nell Wing started work at Alcoholic Foundation 415 Lexington Avenue.
March 4, 1891 – Lois W is born.
March 5, 1945 – Time Magazine reports Detroit radio broadcasts of AA members.
March 7, 1940 — Bill and Lois visited the Philadelphia AA group.
March 7, 1941 — Boston newspaper reported that any drunk who wanted to get well was more than welcome at the AA meeting at 115 Newbury St., at 8 PM Wednesdays.
March 9, 1941 – Wichita Beacon reports AA member from NY who wants to form a group in Wichita.
March 10, 1944 – New York Intergroup was established.
March 11, 1949 – The Calix Society, an association of Roman Catholic alcoholics who are maintaining their sobriety through participation in Alcoholics Anonymous, was formed in Minneapolis by five Catholic AA members.
March 14, – South Orange, NJ, AA group held an anniversary dinner with Bill W as guest speaker
March 15, 1941 – 1st AA group formed in New Haven, Connecticut. Not reported in paper until Oct 1, 1941.
March 16, 1940 – Alcoholic Foundation & Works Publishing move from Newark to 30 Vesey St in lower Manhattan. First headquarters of our own.
March 21, 1881 – Anne R, Dr Bobs wife, is born.
March 21 1966 – Ebby dies.
March 22, 1951 – Dr William Duncan Silkworth dies at Towns Hospital.
March 22, 1984 – Clarence S, “Home Brewmeister” , dies.
March 23, 1936 – Bill & Lois visit Fitz M, “Our Southern Friend”, in Maryland.
March 25, 1898 — Jim B (”The Vicious Cycle”) was born.
March 29, 1943 — The Charleston Mail, WV, reported on Bill W’s talk at St. John’s Parish House.
March 31, 1947 – 1st AA group formed in London, England.

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Significant March Dates in A.A. History

Codependence

• Recovery

Denial Patterns

I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.

• I am aware of my feelings and identify them, often in the moment.

I minimize, alter, or deny how I truly feel.

• I embrace my feelings as being valid and important. I am truthful with myself.

I perceive myself as being completely unselfish and dedicated to the well-being of others.

• I keep the focus on my own well-being. I know the difference between caring and caretaking.

Low Self-Esteem Patterns

I have difficulty making decisions.

• I trust my ability to make effective decisions.

I judge everything I think, say, or do harshly, as never “good enough.”

• I accept myself as I am. I emphasize progress over perfection.

I am embarrassed to receive recognition, praise, or gifts.

• I feel appropriately worthy of the recognition, praise, or gifts I receive

I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires.

• I meet my own needs and wants when possible. I reach out for help when it’s necessary and appropriate.

I value others’ approval of my thinking, feelings, and behavior over my own.

• I have confidence in myself. I no longer seek others’ approval of my thoughts, feelings, and behavior.

I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person.

• I recognize myself as being a lovable and valuable person.

Compliance Patterns

I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others’ anger.

• I am rooted in my own values, even if others don’t agree or become angry.

I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.

• I can separate my feelings from the feelings of others.

I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.

• I am committed to my safety and recovery work. I leave situations that feel unsafe or are inconsistent with my goals.

I value others’ opinions and feelings more than my own and am afraid to express differing opinions and feelings of my own.

• I respect my own opinions and feelings and express them appropriately.

I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others want.

• I consider my own interests first when asked to participate in another’s plans.

I accept sex when I want love.

• My sexuality is grounded in genuine intimacy and connection. I know the difference between lust and love.

Control Patterns

I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves.

• I realize that, with rare exceptions, other adults are capable of managing their own lives. My job is to let them.

I attempt to convince others of what they “should” think and how they “truly” feel.

• I accept and value the differing thoughts, feelings, and opinions of others.

I become resentful when others will not let me help them.

• I feel comfortable when I see others take care of themselves.

I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked.

• I am a compassionate and empathic listener, giving advice only if directly asked.

I lavish gifts and favors on those I care about.

• I carefully and honestly contemplate my motivations when preparing to give a gift.

I use sex to gain approval and acceptance.

• I feel loved and accepted for myself, just the way I am.

I have to be “needed” in order to have a relationship with others.

• I develop relationships with others based on equality, intimacy, and balance.

[Recovery Patterns of Codependence is reprinted from the website www.CoDA.org with permission of Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc. (CoDA, Inc). Permission to reprint this material does not mean that CoDA, Inc. has reviewed or approved the contents of this publication, or that CoDA, Inc. agrees with the views expressed herein. Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships and is not affiliated with any other 12 step program.]

Copyright © 1998 Co-Dependents Anonymous, Incorporated and its licensors – All Rights Reserved

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Recovery Patterns of Codependence

from AA History Lovers at Yahoo! Groups;

FEB 1:
1918 – Original date set for Bill Wilson’s marriage to Lois Burnham. The date was moved up because of the war.

FEB. 2:
1942 – Bill Wilson paid tribute to Ruth Hock, AA’s first paid secretary, who resigned to get married. She had written approximately 15,000 letters to people asking for help

FEB. 5:
1941 – Pittsburgh Telegram ran a story on the first AA group’s Friday night meeting of a dozen “former hopeless drunks.”

FEB. 8:
1940 – Bill W., Dr. Bob, and six other A.A.s asked 60 rich friends of John D. Rockefeller,Jr., for money at the Union Club, NY. They got $2,000.
1940 – Houston Press ran first of 6 anonymous articles on A.A. by Larry J.

FEB. 9:
2002 – Sue Smith Windows, Dr. Bob’s daughter died.

FEB. 10:
1922: Harold E. Hughes was born on a farm near Ida Grove, Iowa. After his recovery from alcoholism, he became Governor of Iowa, a United States Senator, and the leading dark horse for the Presidential Democratic nomination in 1972, until he announced he would not run. He authored the legislation which created the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, and other legislation to help alcoholics and addicts.

FEB 11:
1938 – Clarence Snyder (”Home Brewmeister” in 1st, 2nd & 3rd editions) had his last drink.

Feb. 12:
1945 – World War II paper shortage forced reduction in size of the Big Book.

Feb. 13:
1937 – Oxford Groups “Alcoholic Squadron” met at the home of Hank Parkhurst (”The Unbeliever” in the 1st edition of the Big Book) in New Jersey.
1940 – With about two years of sobriety, Jim Burwell (”The Vicious Cycle”) moved to the Philadelphia area and started the first Philadelphia A.A. group.

FEB 14:
1971 – AA groups worldwide held a memorial service for Bill Wilson.
2000 – William Y., “California Bill” died in Winston Salem, NC.

Feb. 15:
1946 – AA Tribune, Des Moines, IA, reported 36 new members since Marty Mann had been there.

Feb. 16:
1941 – Baltimore Sunday Sun reported city’s first AA group begun in 1940 had grown from 3 to 40 members, with five being women.

FEB. 18:
1943 – AA’s were granted the right to use cars for 12th step work in emergency cases, despite gas rationing.

FEB.19:
1967 – Father “John Doe” (Ralph Pfau), 1st Catholic Priest in AA, died.

FEB 20:
1941 – The Toledo Blade published first of three articles on AA by Seymour Rothman.

Feb. 21:
1939 – 400 copies of the Big Book manuscript were sent to doctors, judges, psychiatrists, and others for comment. This was the “multilith” Big Book.

Feb. 22:
1842 – Abe Lincoln addressed the Washington Temperance Society in Springfield, IL.

Feb. 24:
2002 — Hal Marley, “Dr. Attitude of Gratitude,” died. He had 37 years of sobriety. Hal testified, anonymously, before the U.S. Senate Subcommittee on Alcoholism and Drug Abuse on December 3, 1970.

Feb. 26:
1999 – Felicia Gizycka, author of “Stars Don’t Fall,” died. Born Countess Felicia Gizycka in 1905, she was the daughter of Count Josef Gizycki and Eleanor Medill Patterson. She married Drew Pearson in 1925 and divorced him three years later. She married Dudley de Lavigne in 1934, but the marriage lasted less than a year. In 1958 she married John Kennedy Magruder and divorced him in 1964. For most of her professional career, she went by the name Felicia Gizycka.

Other February happenings with no specific date:

1908 – Bill Wilson made boomerang.
1916 – Bill Wilson & sophomore class at Norwich University was suspended for hazing.
1938 – Rockefeller gave $5,000 to AA.
1939 – Dr. Harry Tiebout endorsed AA, the first psychiatrist to do so.
1940 – First organization meeting of Philadelphia AA is held at McCready Hustona’s room at 2209 Delaney Street.
1940 – 1st AA clubhouse opened at 334-1/2 West 24th Street, NYC.
1943 – San Francisco Bulletin reporter Marsh Masline interviewed Ricardo, a San Quentin Prison AA group member.
1946 – Baton Rouge, La., AA’s hold their first anniversary meeting.
1946 – The AA Grapevine reported the New York Seaman’s Group issued a pamphlet for seamen “on one page the 12 Steps have been streamlined into 5.”
1946 – Des Moines Committee for Education on Alcoholism aired its first show on KRNT.
1946 – Pueblo. Colorado, had a second group, composed of alcoholic State Hospital patients.
1951 – Fortune magazine article about AA was published in pamphlet form.
1959 – AA granted “Recording for the Blind” permission to tape the Big Book.
1963 – Harpers carried article critical of AA.
1981 – 1st issue of “Markings,” AA Archives Newsletter, was published, “to give the Fellowship a sense of its own past and the opportunity to study it.”

[this entry originally published February 1st, 2007]

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Significant February Dates in A.A. History

Borrowed from last year;

Constant = Unchanged, Consistently recurring over time, persistent…

Page 20: “Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs.”

Page 73: “But they had not learned enough of humility, fearlessness and honesty, in the sense we find it necessary, until they told someone all their story… He is under constant fear and tension – that makes for more drinking.”

Page 155: “He told me how he lived in constant worry about those who might find out about his alcoholism.”

Recovery from a hopeless state of mind and body remains a “do what you don’t want to do” program. The Promises will materialize if we work for them!

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Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes 2009

It was brought to my attention years ago that I was exhibiting this trait. Having discovered what it was for me today I can, on occasion, believe I see it in others. I can be wrong…

“The term martyr (Greek μάρτυς martys “witness”) is most commonly used today to describe an individual who sacrifices his or her life (or personal freedom) in order to further a cause or belief for many. Long ago, it initially signified a witness in the forensic sense, a person called to bear witness in legal proceedings. With this meaning it was used in the secular sphere as well as in both the Old Testament and the New Testament of the Bible.[1] The process of bearing witness was not intended to lead to the death of the witness, although it is known from ancient writers (e.g. Josephus) that witnesses, especially of the lower classes, were tortured routinely before being interrogated as a means of forcing them to disclose the truth. During the early Christian centuries the term acquired the extended meaning of a believer who is called to witness for his or her religious belief and on account of this witness endures suffering and death. In the English language, the term is a loanword, and often used with the extended meaning of someone who has been killed for his religious belief. The death of a martyr or the value attributed to it is called martyrdom.”

Not only do those who exhibit this “self-deserved” suffering not wear the cross well they also seem to have a need to require others to wear it. Why am I saying that? It was my experience yesterday to have made a mistake during an effort to help a friend find a rehab. I’ve spoken to those I needed to about the level of this mistake I made and it was pointed out that the God we understand used me as an instrument to expose a lie. I hadn’t planned on doing that but I’m happy today it worked out that way.

Yet another friend, his spouse, found it most necessary to vilify me due to my mistake. Thanks to the Twelve Steps I am more than willing to admit mistakes when I make them. Rick helped me understand that I needed to make mistakes to learn how to live life the right way. I thought I was more than contrite and admitted this error in judgment to her but the level of anger cast in my direction didn’t subside until I had apologized again.

And it felt as if I’d have to do it again…

No – that’s not the way it works.

BTW, when we allow ourselves to be placed (and remain) in a situation where we suffer needlessly, where we can remove ourselves and refuse to for whatever reason we proclaim, we foster our own suffering. We are being a “victim” and the longer we stay in it eventually we become martyrs. That is what I did when I was told to “come down off the cross, we need the wood.”

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If The Shoe Fits

from AA History Lovers at Yahoo! Groups;

Jan 1929 – Bill W. wrote third promise in Bible to quit drinking.
Jan 1940 – Akron group moves to new home at King School.
Jan 1944 – Dr. Harry Tiebout’s first paper on the subject of “Alcoholics Anonymous”.
Jan 1944 – Onset of Bill’s 11 years of depression.
Jan 1946 – Readers Digest does a story on AA.
Jan 1948 – 1st A.A. meeting in Japan
Jan 1951 – AA Grapevine publishes memorial issue for Dr Bob.
Jan 1958 – Bill writes article for Grapevine on “Emotional Sobriety”.
Jan 1, 1943 – Columbus Dispatch reports 1st Anniversary of Columbus, Ohio Central Group.
Jan 2, 1889 – Sister Ignatia born, Ballyhane Ireland.
Jan 3, 1939 – First sale of Works Publishing Co stock is recorded.
Jan 4, 1940 – 1st AA group formed in Detroit, Michigan.
Jan 5, 1939 – Dr Bob tells Ruth Hock in a letter that AA has “to get away from the Oxford Group atmosphere”.
Jan 5, 2001 – Chuck C. from Houston died sober in Texas at 38 years sober.
Jan 6, 2000 – Stephen Poe, compiler of the Concordance to Alcoholics Anonymous, died.
Jan 8, 1938 – New York AA splits from the Oxford Group.
Jan 10, 1940 – 1st AA meeting not in a home meets at King School, Akron, Ohio.
Jan 13, 1988 – Dr Jack Norris Chairman/Trustee of AA for 27 years dies.
Jan 13, 2003 – Dr Earle M sober for 49 years, author of “Physician Heal Thyself” died.
Jan 15, 1937 – Fitz M brings AA meetings to Washington DC.
Jan 15, 1945 – First AA meeting held in Springfield, Missouri.
Jan 19, 1943 – 1st discussion for starting AA group in Toronto.
Jan 19, 1944 – Wilson’s returned from 1st major A.A. tour started in Oct 24 1943.
Jan 19, 1999 – Frank M., AA Archivist since 1983, died peacefully in his sleep.
Jan 21, 1954 – Hank P who helped Bill start NY office dies in Pennington, New Jersey.
Jan 23, 1985 – Bob B. died sober November 11, 2001.
Jan 24, 1918 – Bill marries Lois Burnham in the Swedenborgen Church in Brookyn Heights.
Jan 24, 1945 – 1st black group St. Louis
Jan. 24, 1971 – Bill W dies at Miami Beach, FL.
Jan 25, 1915 – Dr. Bob marries Anne Ripley.
Jan 26, 1971 – New York Times publishes Bill’s obituary on page 1.
Jan 30, 1961 – Dr Carl Jung answers Bill’s letter with “Spiritus Contra Spiritum”.
End of Jan 1939 – 400 copies of manuscript of Big Book circulated for comment, evaluation and sale.

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Significant January Dates in A.A. History

This is but one paragraph of his written words from the A.A. Grapevine printed in September, 1948 which clearly demonstrates his devotion and commitment to A.A.’s”original,” God-based “design for living.” [Back To Basics - The Alcoholics Anonymous Beginners Meetings, pgs. 163-164]

“As finally expressed and offered, they [the Twelve Steps] are simple in language, plain in meaning. They are workable by any person having a sincere desire to obtain and keep sobriety. The results are the proof. Their simplicity and workability are such that no special interpretations, and certainly no reservations, have ever been necessary. And it has become increasingly clear that the degree of harmonious living which we achieve is in direct ratio to our earnest attempt to follow them under divine guidance to the best of our ability.”

“It works – it really does.”

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The Sheer Simplicity Of The Twelve Steps

from AA History Lovers at Yahoo! Groups;

Dec 1934 – Bill & Lois start attending Oxford Group meetings.
Dec 1934 to May 1935 – Bill works with alcoholics, but fails to sober any of them. Lois reminds him HE is sober.
Dec 1938 – Twelve Steps written.
Nov/Dec 1939 – Akron group withdrawals from association with Oxford Group. Meetings moved from T Henry & Clarence Williams to Dr Bob and other members homes.
Dec 1939 – First AA group in mental institution, Rockland State Hospital, NY.
Dec 1939 – 1st home meeting in Los Angeles at Kaye M.’s house.
Dec 1939 – Matt Talbot Club has 88 members, uses wagons to collect old furniture to recondition & sell, not A.A., used A.A. program, material, marked 1st effort reach alcoholics outside married middle- class category.
Dec 1940 – 1st AA group formed in St. Louis, Missouri.
Dec 1940 – group started Ashtabula, Ohio due to Plain Dealer articles. A.A. Cleveland has about 30 groups.
Dec 1948 – Dr. Bob’s last major talk, in Detroit.
Dec 1950 – Grapevine article signed by both Bill and Dr Bob recommend establishing AA General Service Conference.
Dec 1955 – ‘Man on the Bed’ painting by Robert M. first appeared in Grapevine. Painting originally called ‘Came to Believe’
Dec 1982 – Nell Wing retires from GSO after 35 years of service.
Dec 1, 1940 – Chicago Daily Tribune begins a series of articles on AA by Nall Hamilton.
Dec 5, 1985 – Dave B, founder of Montreal Group dies weeks before 50th anniversary. His story added to the 4th Edition Big Book.
Dec 6, 1939 – Bert the Tailor lends Works Publishing $1000.
Dec 6, 1979 – Akron Beacon reports death of Henrietta Sieberling.
Dec 7, 1949 – Sister Ignatia received Poverello Medal on behalf of A.A.
Dec 10, 1975 – Birds of a Feather AA group for pilots is formed.
Dec 11, 1934 – Bill admitted to Towns Hosp 4th/last time (fall ‘33, ‘34 in summer, midsummer and final admittance).
Dec 11, 1941 – Dallas Morning News reports 1st AA group formed in Dallas.
Dec 12, 1934 – Bill has Spiritual Experience at Towns Hospital.
Dec 12, 1937 – Bill meets with Rockefeller Foundation and tries to get money.
Dec 13, 1937 – Rockland State Mental Hospital takes patients to meeting in New Jersey.
Dec 13 or 14, 1934 – Ebby visited Bill at hospital, brought William James’s book, “Varieties of Religious Experience”.
Dec 19, 1939 – Los Angeles holds their 1st AA meeting.
Dec 20, 1945 – Rowland H dies (he carried the Oxford Group message to Ebby).
Dec 27, 1893 – Rev Samuel Shoemaker is born.

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Significant December Dates in A.A. History

Thought about referring to The Akron Manual which was reprinted at Barefoot’s to give us an idea how the oldtimers did it in the beginning but I decided on this – “The Insanity Of Alcohol.” Ya’ see Micky, you have some worth – you motivated my mind to what could kill me and I used the tools. Now I’ll pass on what I can…

What exactly is “The Insanity Of Alcohol?” Do you believe it is the “goofy,” or silly behavior we all exhibit when we’re drinking? It isn’t. If it were, everyone would have to join AA who had consumed a bit too much. The Insanity Of Alcohol, for an alcoholic – “is the alcoholic’s persistent return to alcohol in the face of overwhelming evidence that it is destroying his or her life, over and over again.”

“It is our physical as well as our mental response to alcohol that is INSANE, and that is what separates the alcoholic from the non-alcoholic.”

“What Dr. Silkworth called the ‘phenomenon of craving,’ manifesting as an ‘allergy,’ is so overpowering that all else comes in second to our primary concern of getting the next drink, even life itself takes second place.”

Even life itself takes second place grabs MY personal attention! I’d love to say it’s hard today to imagine that I had placed my family, their lives and mine on the back burner when I drank but that’s exactly what I did and admitting anything less would be lying. I hear a lot of folks attempting to rationalize themselves past this one!

To quote from Barefoot;

“As a young man (with tears in his eyes) in his first AA meeting said:

‘I’m here because I just want to live … that’s it … I just want to live’

It is as Simple as that!!!”

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Because I Just Want To Live!

from AA History Lovers at Yahoo! Groups;

Nov 1934 – Ebby T. carries message to Bill.
Nov 1936 – Fitz M leaves Towns Hospital to become ‘AA #3 in NY’ with Bill W and Hank P.
Nov 1937 – Bill and Dr. Bob compare notes in Akron. Count forty cases staying sober. Meeting of the Akron Group to consider Bill’s ideas for how to expand the movement … a book, AA hospitals, paid missionaries. Passed by a majority of 2.
Nov/Dec 1939 – Akron group withdrawals from association with Oxford Group. Meetings moved from T Henry & Clarence Williams to Dr Bob and other members homes.
Nov 1941 – “First Mass AA Meeting” in Oklahoma City, 8 present, 1 was drunk.
Nov 1945 – Bill’s article called ‘Those Goof Balls’ published in Grapevine.
Nov 1986 – Big Book published in paperback.
Nov 1, 1947 – 1st AA Group in Anchorage, Alaska.
Nov 1, 1963 – Reverend Sam Shoemaker dies.
Nov 3, 2001 – J P Miller who wrote screenplay for “The Days of Wine and Roses” died.
Nov 9, 1966 – President Johnson appoints Marty M to the 1st National Advisory Committee on Alcoholism.
Nov 10, 1940 – 1st AA group formed in Minneapolis.
Nov 10, 2001 – 1st of 400,000 4th Edition Big Books arrives in the mail.
Nov 11, 1934 – Armistice Day; Bill started drinking after dry spell, beginning of Bill’s last drunk.
Nov 12, 1940 – 1st AA meeting is held in Boston.
Nov 13, 1939 – Bill wants to go to work at Towns Hsp, NY drunks want him to stay on as head of the movement.
Nov 14, 1940 – Alcoholic Foundation publishes 1st AA Bulletin.
Nov 15, 1949 – Bill W suggests that groups devote Thanksgiving week to dicussions of the 12 Traditions.
Nov 16, 1950 – Dr. Bob died.
Nov 18, 1946 – 1st Dublin Ireland group met.
Nov 21, 1939 – AA’s in San Francisco hold 1st California AA meeting in the Clift Hotel.
Nov 21, 1952 – Willard Richardson, past Treasurer/Chairman of Alcoholic Foundation, dies.
Nov 26, 1895 – Bill W born in East Dorsett, VT.
Nov 26, 1939 – Dilworth Lupton gave sermon “Mr. X and Alcoholics Anonymous.” Became one of first pamphlets on AA.
Nov 28, 1939 – Hank P writes Bill advocating autonomy for all AA groups.
Nov 28, 1943 – Bill guest speaker San Quentin Penitentiary. (sometimes dated Dec 2, 1943)

[edited to be brought up to date 11/01/2008]

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Significant November Dates In A.A. History