Blisstree » time out http://www.blisstree.com Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Thu, 24 Dec 2009 15:47:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 en hourly 1 Standing in the Corner as Time-Out http://www.blisstree.com/articles/standing-in-the-corner-as-time-out/ http://www.blisstree.com/articles/standing-in-the-corner-as-time-out/#comments Mon, 14 Sep 2009 12:58:41 +0000 Christine Gooding http://www.blisstree.com/?p=111702 Boredom is the worst kind of time-out for a kid, she shares. And what’s more boring than staring at a blank wall? For standing-in-the-corner to be an effective time-out for kids though, there are certain things you have to make sure of. First, make sure your kid’s facing a blank wall — no paintings or crayons she can access for some wall-doodling. Second, [...]

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Standing in the Corner as Time-Out

]]> When your child misbehaves, is making him stand in the corner punishment enough? A friend of mine swears by it. She theorizes that if fun makes a kid’s world go round, boredom just sucks the life out of it.
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Boredom is the worst kind of time-out for a kid, she shares. And what’s more boring than staring at a blank wall?

For standing-in-the-corner to be an effective time-out for kids though, there are certain things you have to make sure of. First, make sure your kid’s facing a blank wall — no paintings or crayons she can access for some wall-doodling. Second, take away any toys in the area. The key is for her to be really bored, she stresses. And third, be firm. As with any time-out, Mom and Dad need to be consistent and not give in so quickly.

Another friend shared though that standing in the corner does not work at all for her daughter, whose imagination is very rich, she says. When asked to stand in the corner one time, her daughter had no qualms. She played pretend with imaginary friends and just sang her heart out while waiting for time-out to end. She was hardly bored, and her Mom did have to think of an alternative time-out for her daughter. I guess it doesn’t work for everyone!

Boredom as a kid’s worst punishment sounds like an interesting theory. There is nothing worse than not having anything to do after all, especially when one’s curiosity is at its peak. What do you think?

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Standing in the Corner as Time-Out

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On Disciplining Your Children

]]> Our daughter will turn 12 years old next month. When she makes mistakes, we find that although time outs still work, it’s the taking away of a privilege or the use of a favorite gadget like her mobile phone, iPod or laptop that gets to her.

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We only resort to time outs or taking away her privileges after we have given several verbal warnings to her. After each offense and once she has apologized, we do sit down and talk to her about what she did. We ask her if she knows why we got upset. We always have a ‘debrief’ after each ‘punishment’ as I don’t want her coming out confused on what happened or why she was asked to go to her time out corner or why a privilege was taken away from her.

I wonder what other parents do to discipline their children.

What disciplining tactics have you employed on your children that worked? Why did it work?

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On Disciplining Your Children

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Effective Time Outs

]]> I never was a huge advocate of using time out as a means of disciplining the kids. Why? It did not work, in my opinion. I spawned the kind of children who would punch holes in the wall as they stood screaming in the corner. I have the kind of kids who know how to wear me down by getting out so many times that I finally give up or forget that they were ever in the corner, in the first place. It just wasn’t worth the headache it gave me to keep the perpetrator in the corner long enough to serve a proper time out. “Life is too short and so is my memory,” I would tell my mother, who would get frustrated at my lack of consistency.

Jo’s time with us, taught me a few keys to making time out work. Every one of them integral parts of effectively applying time out. I just thought I’d share them with those of you who are chomping at the bits for school to be back in session, because your kids are making you batty with their naughtiness.

  1. Chose a spot that is away from the television, or anything distracting.
  2. Chose a spot that is withing eye shot, so you know if they try to get out.
  3. Do not get distracted by other tasks, therefor, allowing the time out to escape your thoughts.
  4. Do not respond to the child, even if they are cursing, spiting or employing any other mean of getting a response.
  5. If they get out, calmly (but assertively) take them back without talking to them.
  6. CONSISTENCY is key. Even if it takes too hours to complete the first time out. It will get easier, but you have to establish the idea that you are serious and will not bend.
  7. Explain the infraction for which they are being corrected, before and after the time out.
  8. End the discipline with an apology (from the child) and a hug (from you.) Positive reinforcement is huge!!!

Trust me when I say that this may take some time to master. My husband went through the painful task of executing these steps, during the taping of Supernanny, while I was out of the house. It took every shred of patience he had (and he doesn’t have many,) to not give up and just spank the child for being so insolent. After it was over, however, my husband and I saw the true importance of sticking to our guns and the great results it can yield! After six months of the new time out methods, we are experiencing easier and more effective discipline. It is especially helpful during these vacation months! Thanks Supernanny!!

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Effective Time Outs

]]> http://www.blisstree.com/articles/effective-time-outs-35/feed/ 1 Are You My Mother? Then Why Are You Scolding Me? http://www.blisstree.com/articles/are-you-my-mother-then-why-are-you-scolding-me-35/ http://www.blisstree.com/articles/are-you-my-mother-then-why-are-you-scolding-me-35/#comments Fri, 20 Jun 2008 16:38:16 +0000 kadi http://www.supernannyrules.com/are-you-my-mother-then-why-are-you-scolding-me/ Post from: Blisstree

Are You My Mother? Then Why Are You Scolding Me?

]]> Every person surely remembers the great story by P.D. Eastman, about the bird who hatches and goes in search of his mother. He encounters many inanimate objects in his quest, whom he poses the question, “Are You My Mother?” to. As I read the book to my little ones, this morning, it made me think of the role of a parent and discipline. Every mom has different ways of disciplining their children. Some are against spanking, some are not. Some find time out the only acceptable form of corrective action, some have many forms. Some parents are the only ones who discipline their kids and some think that it takes a village.

I’m interested to know what the general consensus is on discipline. I’ve included a few polls on all of my blogs, in search of answers to a few questions. Please take the time to answer each poll question honestly. You will remain anonymous, so there is no pressure to give anything other than a completely honest answer. Thank you for your participation, in advance.

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Are You My Mother? Then Why Are You Scolding Me?

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