We did have a plan to move in together at one point, but circumstances, meaning job stuff, changed those plans.   Since that time, we have not spoken about it again.  Our visits have been timed farther apart, but that’s due to gas prices more than anything else.  Even though our time together felt normal and okay when he was in town, part of me was worried.  Why didn’t he bring it up again?  How come he was able to go for long periods without talking to me? 

A couple of things changed  my outlook in less than a week. One was reading the column that featured the Involved/Committed chart and I figured out that I was involved and he was the one who was truly committed. The other was the realization that I am a bit overwhelmed by my life right now and this, these short visits every 6 weeks or so, they are all I am up to right now.  All of a sudden, I felt more relaxed and ready to enjoy our time together. 

I used to do this thing when I was a kid – I’d read the end of the book way ahead of time.  I had to know how things were going to end and once I knew, I could relax and enjoy the story.  Right now, I don’t know how things are going to end, but I’m okay with that.  Just knowing that I love someone who has faith in us, that’s enough for me, because he’s a smart guy and I trust that he knows what he’s talking about. 

Sometimes love is like that, you close your eyes, you grab the hand of your loved one, and together you jump.   If you get to that jumping off point at the same time, great, but if you don’t, try to be patient, everyone has their own timetable and there’s no forcing true and honest commitment. 

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Ready To Jump

In some countries, it’s more acceptable for women to introduce the guy to her family before entering the relationship. It’s all part of the courtship phase. My country is one of the countries wherein that sort of act is expected by society. However, times are changing and ‘dating’ has become an acceptable medium of ‘hooking up’ so some individuals fore go introductions until things become a whole lot more serious.

Now, it’s just finding the right time to make such introductions.

Personally, I prefer keeping my personal life private, not letting the guy be part of it, until I’m certain what he and I have is something serious. My reason for doing this is to keep my family from getting affected by becoming involved with a person who’s not certain if he’s going to stick around. I often even put off telling my brothers or sister about him until the time when I’m sure that I’m serious with the guy and vice versa. Sometimes, I even wait until we’re already together.

What about you guys? How do you gauge the right time to make the introductions? Do you put weight on letting the rest of your family know about him or her? Or it doesn’t really matter?

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Right Time for Introductions