Don’t blame yourself. Resist the temptation to get angry at yourself or to listen to the little voice in your head that’s saying, “I shouldn’t have waited; I’m being punished for having that abortion; I should have lost more weight or taken better care of my health; I shouldn’t have assumed that I could have children when I wanted” or whatever negative thoughts you may be having.

People can get caught in negative thinking patterns that only make matters worse, says Yakov M. Epstein, a psychologist at Rutgers University and co-author of Getting Pregnant When You Thought You Couldn’t: “Instead of berating yourself, look forward to how you and your partner are going to manage the situation.”

When you start feeling like you “should have” or “could have,” remind yourself that your fertility problem is not your fault. Even if you could have made different decisions in the past, they’re behind you. Concentrate on your future.

Word.

The last time I visited my acupuncturist, visits I now look forward to instead of fear, she took my pulse and asked me a very basic question,

“Are you angry?”

Um, at who?

“Um, yourself? About all of this?”

I don’t think so.

“Your body says differently. Why don’t we work on that today?”

So I got a little reiki, and a special little needle right near my solar plexus, which is supposed to open up my ability to grieve.

I didn’t think I was angry with myself, rather, the results of our last two attempts. But hearts don’t lie.

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