I am a fan of Mariah Carey. It seems to me that people either love Maiah Carey or they hate her. I think she’s talented, beautiful, an individual.

I read that she’s in a movie, “Precious,”that was well-received at Cannes. The piece I read talked about how she’s not Mariah-like in the role. That she is “dowdy.”

Whatever, she still looks beautiful to me.

I watched the movie trailer and it made me cry. Not just a few tears. I mean cry-cry. At one point the title character is saying that no one loves her and she is in agony. I can remember feeling like that before and it’s horrible to feel that low. Just soul-sucking agony. I can remember feeling absolutely unlovable. Nobody should ever feel that way.

I’m afraid to watch the whole movie. It looks incredible and honestly I feel my point of view has changed just from watching the trailer, so I should see it, but it’s hard to watch that sort of raw pain. Some actors make a scene all too real. They have the ability to transport a person. The star of this movie, Gabourey Sidibe, she has that gift.

The movie is about a young woman and her relationships. I had not heard of it before today and I wanted you readers to be aware of it, to watch for it.

Image credit: SXC.hu

Trailer from YouTube

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Precious Movie – Mariah Carey

Unfortunately, my profile is generating little or no interest. I do hear (rarely) from men who are 10-15 years older than me, but I don’t feel I am at the same place in my life as they are. At this point, I wouldn’t even mind hearing form some of the bozos Lara has had to deal with lately - at least it would mean I’m not invisible.

I read some of Russ’s posts on what to and not to do in terms of profiles. I went in this weekend and I added more of my personality to my intro – doing away with generalities like, “I’m up for anything.”  I had Bay, my teenager, look at my profile and photos. She hit me with her brutal honesty, which actually was not brutal at all. She suggested that I switch up my main profile photo to one where I’m smiling.

I think that it’s a good idea to switch the main photo periodically. I see many of the same men, with the same profile photos, from 3 years ago – the last time I was Match.com-ing it. Have these men been single this whole time?  

A few of my girlfriends have mentioned that they are also getting fewer than normal responses. If you are using an online service, I’d be interested in hearing how it’s going for you. I read that more people are subscribing to online services in these challenging economic times. Are they subscribing, but not dating?  What is the point of that?  Save your money, guys.

If you’ve had a profile up for a few months, I suggest you do the same thing I did this weekend - change up your photo, maybe add some new shots. Change your list of favorites or hobbies to something that reflects the season more, if you’ve got a lot of Summer activities listed. Rewrite your intro, so it sounds fresh and reflects more of the real you.

Then, please let me know if this makes a difference in your responses or lack of responses. I’m curious if this is seasonal thing or regional or…..I’m just very curious and hoping it does not mean that I’m unlovable.

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Maybe I’m Unlovable