I don’t know a single mother who has any real privacy. Do you know how long it’s been since I took a crap by myself? Entirely alone? Without someone popping into the bathroom to ask where their other shoe was?

Zack still showers with me, I stopped letting Ainsley shower or bath with me when she was around 4.  A friend of mine recently told me that all SIX of her children, two of them 10- and 11-year-old boys, came home and told her about all their problems while she was in the shower. Another of my friends has two school aged boys that see her naked all the time. None of these women are abusing their children.

They would all LOVE to have some privacy – but mothers often have no physical and emotional boundaries.

Let’s put this in a perspective of how truly physically intimate the mother-child relationship is. We carry the babies inside our bodies, nourishing them on a cellular level unparallelled. We push them out of our private and sexual parts. We hold them to our breasts and feed them with milk created by our bodies for the sole purpose of nourishing them. We have contact with their sexual organs many, many times a day wiping them clean and diapering them. We spend time focusing on their genitals and the performance of them while potty training. We even intentionally poop and pee in front of them to teach them how to do it.

And now there’s a “secret witness body guard” and Kevin Federline’s lawyers who are trying to sexualize and make inappropriate Britney being undressed in front of her one- and two-year-old boys?

HELL FREAKIN NO!

There is one relationship left on the planet which has not been entirely sexualized and that is the mother-child relationship. Could we please just leave it alone?

While we’re on the subject . . . Britney is simply an example of how the whore-madonna syndrome plays out in America.

Pre-motherhood Britney’s behavior was met with acceptance and approval. Her clothing, the bikini outfit, the blatant sexuality, the pole dancing images – all expected of her before she had babies. Pre-child she’s just playing out the culturally accepted role of “sexy pop star.”

It’s only now that she’s a mother that everyone is upset by all the blatant sexuality. Now the stripper pole looks seedy and trashy. Now that someone calls her Mommy the super-sexuality of her lyrics and dance moves and recreational drug use and public break-downs make us shake our head. It’s not so fun anymore when mommy is sexy.

It takes a while to adjust to being mommy. It takes some effort to understand the expectations for ideal womanhood and femininity have drastically changed with the birth of baby. No wonder she’s having breakdowns and shaving her head. Only two years ago she was a super-star for acting like the hot chick. Now that she’s a mama, we’re pretty uncomfortable with this kind of sexualized beauty.

It’s not just Britney, all women walk the whore-madonna line in one way or another. It’s difficult to make the shift in identity. Some women choose not to breastfeed because they can’t make the transition of their breasts’ purpose from sexual to maternal.

And if I hear one more person call her FAT! Are you kidding me? Seriously? If Britney’s the new definition of fat then the average normal-sized woman is morbidly obese.

Check out the post at Supernanny Rules for more on Britney’s mothering. Also for other naked mothers around the web check out b5′r Pascalle on Mommy Nakedness and The Truth About Naked Parents.

Post from: Blisstree

Britney – Naked Mommy