Last week at BlogHer, I briefly spoke with a lovely lady whose site is called Mothers in Medicine.

It’s a multi-author blog with lots of different perspectives from physician-mothers.

Definitely worth your time.

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Mothers in Medicine

While I appreciate the sentiment, that word in that context has always bothered me, but, I’ve never been able to articulate why it does.

However, Cali Williams Yost at Work+Life Fit expresses what I’ve been thinking:

No Such Thing as Balance – I also made another realization — there is no such thing as “balance.” Over the years, I found that term caused individuals more feelings of dissatisfaction and pressure than of well-being. No one ever felt they achieved balance. Why? For the same reason organizations couldn’t provide work+life solutions for each one of their employees — each individual has a unique set of work and personal realities. No two sets are alike. The term “balance” didn’t adequately convey the variety of work+life possibilities from which individuals could choose. Bottom-line: it’s “fit,” not balance.

I think when you talk about “balance”, it implies that even one small change can bring the whole thing crashing down, and, that every moment is a struggle to maintain. While there are days when it sure feels that way, if it’s like that all the time, then your work and life might not be a good fit.

People often ask me “how I do it”, and, I have a hard time understanding why they think I have some magic knowledge about raising children and working. Everyone has their own reality, and, mine is that I have to work (outside the home, for a signed paycheck, you know what I mean, don’t start with me). It is what it is.

We work things out the best we can, and, like most people, some days I feel like we’re doing it better than others. But, overall, we take Nike’s advice, and, “just do it”, and, try to make things fit along the way.

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Work-Life Fit