Comments on: The Debate Goes On http://www.blisstree.com/thriftymommy/the-debate-goes-on/ Time and Money Saving Tips from Thrifty Mommy Fri, 11 Dec 2009 04:27:18 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: ann http://www.blisstree.com/thriftymommy/the-debate-goes-on/comment-page-1/#comment-21192 ann Mon, 27 Apr 2009 19:11:07 +0000 http://www.thriftymommy.com/the-debate-goes-on/#comment-21192 I have been both a full time stay at home mom, worked part-time with young children and worked full time. There is no comparison to how much more difficult working and then coming home to complete at Least the 3 roles you decussed, maid, cook, mother but only having evening hours to do it instead of when I had the entire day. I'm assuming you must never had the 2 situations to compare. But bottom line each should do what works for their family without everyone feeling the need to complain about how much more difficult they have it. No one truly knows what anothers life is like. I have been both a full time stay at home mom, worked part-time with young children and worked full time. There is no comparison to how much more difficult working and then coming home to complete at Least the 3 roles you decussed, maid, cook, mother but only having evening hours to do it instead of when I had the entire day. I’m assuming you must never had the 2 situations to compare. But bottom line each should do what works for their family without everyone feeling the need to complain about how much more difficult they have it. No one truly knows what anothers life is like.

]]> By: Thrifty Mommy - The Carnival of Family Life http://www.blisstree.com/thriftymommy/the-debate-goes-on/comment-page-1/#comment-877 Thrifty Mommy - The Carnival of Family Life Tue, 06 Feb 2007 03:19:25 +0000 http://www.thriftymommy.com/the-debate-goes-on/#comment-877 [...] The Carnival of Family Life is posted at An Island Life.  Local Girl did a great job linking to all the sites.  My post, “The Debate Goes On”, is featured.  I’m sure you’ll find something of interest.  Hang out and check out Local Girl’s site too.  [...] [...] The Carnival of Family Life is posted at An Island Life.  Local Girl did a great job linking to all the sites.  My post, “The Debate Goes On”, is featured.  I’m sure you’ll find something of interest.  Hang out and check out Local Girl’s site too.  [...]

]]> By: Karen http://www.blisstree.com/thriftymommy/the-debate-goes-on/comment-page-1/#comment-888 Karen Tue, 06 Feb 2007 00:33:50 +0000 http://www.thriftymommy.com/the-debate-goes-on/#comment-888 Thanks for your comments Karen. This is a subject that many people are passionate about. I guess when you are passionate about something, it is hard to keep quiet. Thanks for your comments Karen. This is a subject that many people are passionate about. I guess when you are passionate about something, it is hard to keep quiet.

]]> By: Karen Lynch http://www.blisstree.com/thriftymommy/the-debate-goes-on/comment-page-1/#comment-858 Karen Lynch Mon, 05 Feb 2007 23:58:27 +0000 http://www.thriftymommy.com/the-debate-goes-on/#comment-858 I have been both a working mom and a stay-at-home (but actually work-at-home) Mom. I wrote a post about it at my blog. My question is why can't we just allow others to have their life and live our life the best way we can? There shouldn't even be a debate! Everyone should just be allowed to live their own life the best they can. I have been both a working mom and a stay-at-home (but actually work-at-home) Mom. I wrote a post about it at my blog.
My question is why can’t we just allow others to have their life and live our life the best way we can?
There shouldn’t even be a debate! Everyone should just be allowed to live their own life the best they can.

]]> By: Karen http://www.blisstree.com/thriftymommy/the-debate-goes-on/comment-page-1/#comment-885 Karen Mon, 05 Feb 2007 20:12:41 +0000 http://www.thriftymommy.com/the-debate-goes-on/#comment-885 P.S. Jordan, Yes, it is easier that way. I don't think you can have everything at once. P.S. Jordan, Yes, it is easier that way. I don’t think you can have everything at once.

]]> By: Karen http://www.blisstree.com/thriftymommy/the-debate-goes-on/comment-page-1/#comment-884 Karen Mon, 05 Feb 2007 20:10:59 +0000 http://www.thriftymommy.com/the-debate-goes-on/#comment-884 Thanks for your comments. I wish this weren't a debate, but it is. It is a fact that moms are very critical of one another. We should be the greatest support system for each other. You just don't know what someone is going through until you've walked in their shoes. It is easy to judge a mom whose child is having a temper tantrum in the store. Some may think the mom doesn't have control over her children. In reality the child could be sick, not had their nap, or could possibly have special needs. I am not here to say which choice is right for your family. I realize some moms have to work. I also realize some moms say they have to work because they couldn't afford to stay home, but they spend more on clothing, car payments, and gadgets than my husband makes in a year. Just some things to think about. I choose to live my life in a thrifty way that cuts back on costs of living. I want to pass those ideas on to others. This is the way I was raised and I cannot imagine my life any other way. Thanks for your comments. I wish this weren’t a debate, but it is. It is a fact that moms are very critical of one another. We should be the greatest support system for each other. You just don’t know what someone is going through until you’ve walked in their shoes. It is easy to judge a mom whose child is having a temper tantrum in the store. Some may think the mom doesn’t have control over her children. In reality the child could be sick, not had their nap, or could possibly have special needs.

I am not here to say which choice is right for your family. I realize some moms have to work. I also realize some moms say they have to work because they couldn’t afford to stay home, but they spend more on clothing, car payments, and gadgets than my husband makes in a year. Just some things to think about.

I choose to live my life in a thrifty way that cuts back on costs of living. I want to pass those ideas on to others. This is the way I was raised and I cannot imagine my life any other way.

]]> By: Jordan http://www.blisstree.com/thriftymommy/the-debate-goes-on/comment-page-1/#comment-863 Jordan Mon, 05 Feb 2007 18:03:34 +0000 http://www.thriftymommy.com/the-debate-goes-on/#comment-863 It's funny--I'm really a work-at-home mom, but I always think of myself as a stay-at-home mom. My mother was a SAHM and I grew up in a religious tradition that really expects you to stay at home with your kids. (It's also really cheap!) I always expected to become a SAHM. And now I'm all "angsty"--what am I doing with MY life? Where is MY life going? Since I lost my WAH job in December, I've been really thinking about my alternatives. I really want to get a PhD, but I always have to remind myself that I need to wait. I'd probably go crazy with kids and that workload! Thanks for giving the summary here; I really wanted to see this Oprah, but I missed it. I absolutely agree with Oprah: I'll have everything I want out of life, just not all at once. And isn't it better (and easier!) that way? Jordan (via the Carnival of Family Life) It’s funny–I’m really a work-at-home mom, but I always think of myself as a stay-at-home mom. My mother was a SAHM and I grew up in a religious tradition that really expects you to stay at home with your kids. (It’s also really cheap!) I always expected to become a SAHM. And now I’m all “angsty”–what am I doing with MY life? Where is MY life going?

Since I lost my WAH job in December, I’ve been really thinking about my alternatives. I really want to get a PhD, but I always have to remind myself that I need to wait. I’d probably go crazy with kids and that workload!

Thanks for giving the summary here; I really wanted to see this Oprah, but I missed it. I absolutely agree with Oprah: I’ll have everything I want out of life, just not all at once. And isn’t it better (and easier!) that way?

Jordan (via the Carnival of Family Life)

]]> By: Holly Schwendiman http://www.blisstree.com/thriftymommy/the-debate-goes-on/comment-page-1/#comment-862 Holly Schwendiman Mon, 05 Feb 2007 17:54:58 +0000 http://www.thriftymommy.com/the-debate-goes-on/#comment-862 I think the only sad thing about this topic is that it is treated like a debate. Everyone feels the other has to be wrong for them to be right when it's all about points of view. Timing is critical in all things. As moms, women, sisters...we NEED each other and the love and support only a woman who's been there can give. ;o) Hugs, Holly <a href="http://www.hollyscorner.com">Holly's Corner</a> Here via the Carnival of Family Life. ;o) I think the only sad thing about this topic is that it is treated like a debate. Everyone feels the other has to be wrong for them to be right when it’s all about points of view. Timing is critical in all things. As moms, women, sisters…we NEED each other and the love and support only a woman who’s been there can give. ;o)

Hugs,
Holly
Holly’s Corner
Here via the Carnival of Family Life. ;o)

]]> By: An Island Life » Carnival of Family Life #40 http://www.blisstree.com/thriftymommy/the-debate-goes-on/comment-page-1/#comment-892 An Island Life » Carnival of Family Life #40 Mon, 05 Feb 2007 06:25:07 +0000 http://www.thriftymommy.com/the-debate-goes-on/#comment-892 [...] Working Moms vs. Stay-at-Home Moms. Karen of Thrifty Mommy wants to know what you think in The Debate Goes On. [...] [...] Working Moms vs. Stay-at-Home Moms. Karen of Thrifty Mommy wants to know what you think in The Debate Goes On. [...]

]]> By: Karen http://www.blisstree.com/thriftymommy/the-debate-goes-on/comment-page-1/#comment-800 Karen Mon, 29 Jan 2007 20:29:35 +0000 http://www.thriftymommy.com/the-debate-goes-on/#comment-800 LOL Kate. I am too tired to debate too. We had FOUR doctor's appointments with the kids today. My 18 month old was about to make me insane. He was wild and restless. We are finally home and the kids are napping. I think I need a nap from all the drama! And also, I'm glad your husband shares the duties with you. LOL Kate. I am too tired to debate too. We had FOUR doctor’s appointments with the kids today. My 18 month old was about to make me insane. He was wild and restless. We are finally home and the kids are napping. I think I need a nap from all the drama! And also, I’m glad your husband shares the duties with you.

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