It has been a while since I did one of my so called poems….but this weekend has been hard, don’t worry I am getting through it, but wrote these words which I am sure all widows and widowers occasionally think…or at least I hope that I am not the only one

I wonder sometimes what a world would be

Without grief which drains the life out of me

You were the one who died

Yet I feel dead too, on the inside

I want to believe that your love will always be there

To comfort, to cherish and not leaving me bare

To a world that seem so frightening right now

Please tell me the secret and especially the how

To learn to live with this grief which prevents me

Being the person you loved so passionately

I want to be strong, I want to see hope

But I sit, I weep, I fret at failing to cope

I know that I can, I know that I will

But come in my dreams and lay those fears still

Here are this weeks articles to help with our sadness, a weekly intake of positive thinking

Live To Inspire presents Why We All Need To Laugh More posted at Live To Inspire.

Annaly Curzon presents How To Get A Life posted at Working On Me, saying, “Looking for your life? A life coach can help you find it.”

michaelweaver4 presents What is Your Art? The Real You. posted at findinspirationtoday.com – Find Inspiration & Personal Development Today, saying, “An article discussing why you should be pursuing your real passion!”

Toni Graybill presents tonig.net: Welcome to My World of Learning posted at Maximize Health …read more

We grieve because of lost love, we grieve because although we still have love in our hearts  – we have lost the person to share it with. So when problems arise and that love is not there to comfort, nurture and well…just help, we can descend into depression.
I say that because when I broke my foot I sat at home feeling lonely and lost. I wrote the blog post and all of your comments has helped me fill that void of love. Your comments made me feel loved, your comments gave me the support I was so in need of…..thank …read more

So I get up from my sofa yesterday with pins and needles in my foot…put my foot down on the floor and because it is numb, it buckles! Hurts a great deal but I keep going for about 3 hrs but then think this is not normal pain, so get a friend to take me to hospital….yes, you have guessed it a broken foot and torn tendons!
Fortunately, grief makes you resilient and I am coping quite well with my lovely new cast up to my knee….but I tell you I had all on not to descend into deep depression…
Suddenly I …read more

Mary is one of our wonderful community, she has had her anniversary this week and it just shows how we can learn from other widows and widowers. She left a comment to The Filling Station of Hope that made me realise
There is a difference in our life now to our life then.
Our life before the death was about two people working together towards our dreams. We were 50% of our life.
Now our life means my life. We have 100% of our relationship with our dreams. There is one person now that can determine our own destiny.
What we are going through …read more

There is a phrase which keeps entering my head
“I am who I am but I can be who I want to be”
In grief you can lose that self confidence and for me acceptance of yourself and acceptance of who you are is an important step in progressing through the grief cycle. But in acceptance of who you are now should be balanced with understanding that you can be whoever you want to be….
We have all been defined in the past in a way…wife, mother, widow…..you may have been a wife before and a widow now but that doesn’t determine who …read more

From all the comments you can see that we are all suffering with ups and downs of the grief cycle. Here are this weeks carnival of positive thinking articles to help us through our bereavement

DeMarcus presents Jan 23, “Enlightenment” Your 7 day program to Positive thinking posted at Self Improvement Articles Blog.

JL 4 Media presents How To Turn Anxiety To Happiness posted at Live Life to the Fullest, saying, “Be proactive or reactive. You can either be a victim or a victor. Choose your attitude, choose the positive!”

Debbie Pierce presents ?To Thine Own Self Be True? ~ The Power of …read more

Hope is the one tool that widows and widowers can hold on to in their troubled times. I sometimes wish that we could go to a filling station and plug our minds in for a top up!! But you know there are filling stations out there for us all
There is hope in the children – either our own or those around us. The innocence of youth can instill the most wonderful top up of hope in your soul. Sometimes when I am out and about I just watch the children play, with such freedom and know that hope lies in …read more

As you know this is an area which I struggle with! However, I don’t think that I am alone when it comes to grief and facing the world on your own. In my other role, some of you know that I run a podcast called The Engaging Brand and this week I have interviewed Janet Richmond who helps people neutralize your negative thoughts.
It may help, it may not! But you can listen to it on the Engaging Brand website.
I tried the technique on the show and I have to say that it did seem to work, though I must say …read more

I spoke last week about a lack of self confidence and it was reassuring to know that this was not a problem only related to me! I wonder as well whether you sometimes feel as though you are drifting…..in several senses
Drifting with no real sense of purpose. Grief leaves you wondering “What is it all about?” I have struggled to find my mission in life since the bereavement and struggle to know what I want
Drifting in the sense of not really feeling as though I belong anywhere. I walk in the street and feel as though I have arrived from …read more