1. If losing someone is this painful why do humans love at all?
2. Isn’t it strange how you can lose the power of your senses but still feel and show love?
3. True love is not that romantic love at all, true love is an unwavering, unconditional state of the heart which loves from the soul not the eyes.
4. When a human is stripped bare, when there is nothing around…what is the one possession which matters? A heart that has loved and is loved.
5. Life is what we make it, maybe death is what we make it too?

When you love someone, it is not just about loving them whilst you are together, it is also about loving them enough to let them go. I have sat now 11 hrs short of a week at this bedside..even sleeping here….and what I have learned is that love is not about holding on in grief, love is about letting go in grief.

I have said to Nana so many times when she has been at the brink, don’t be scared….don’t be frightened…it will be OK, however we don’t say that to ourselves do we?

Love is about 2 people and you are one of them…whilst grieving we should maybe talk to ourselves and say don’t be scared, don’t be frightened…because just in the same way, love will guide us to a better place.

Still at the hospital and it breaks my heart to see her lying there…looking almost childlike. I suppose I am now coming to terms with letting her go as she is finding harder and harder to breathe and you just don’t want her to find anything about life hard.
I had tears last night when I said to her “Its OK Nana, go to sleep…there is nothing to be afraid of Bronco (that is my nickname for my grandad) is waiting for you.”  The tears were recognition that I had to let her go, I had to help her through this …read more

As I sit by nana’s bedside I am feeling the true power of love. She has always been my special friend, she has always been the person who I feel understands me the most. Why? Because like her I try and live a good life and yet I also have a little rebellious side.
Sat singing to her I have this overwhelming love, as though my body and heart wants to give her all the love inside.
When you are losing someone, love suddenly becomes so clear. Love is unconditional, love is pure, love in the end is all that matters.
I truly …read more

Funny after going 3 nights without sleep or at least only cat naps by Nana’s bed…I still feel Ok. Yet if I only get 6 hrs on a ‘normal’ day I feel tired…when you are with someone so ill, so tired then this energy comes from nowhere. I suppose that it is not then a shock that your body needs time to recover through the grieving process.
The hospital offered us a room. Mum grabbed a few hours each night in there but when you are here, you just want to hold them and let them know they are not alone. …read more

On days like today when faced with what seems like an inevitable fate…I still remember the need to stay positive. In any life changing event there is a positive no matter how small…for instance, having his time with Nana is wonderful memories, and really helps you understand the relationship…why it is so important to me. So here are this weeks articles

Editorial presents Power Affirmations posted at Your Best Library, saying, “Power affirmations is a technique to overcome limiting beliefs and adopt a positive mindset.”

ElsabeSmit presents The Truth About Stress Relief posted at mypurpleblog.com, saying, “Stress is always the result of …read more

Just managed to grab a laptop in the hospital as need to rearrange and cancel my week ahead. Nana had a huge stroke on Thursday night and we were told to get to the hospital as quickly as possible on Friday morning. Nana is so special to me, you that person you just HAVE that bond with…in fact I have written many times about her advice to me over the years.
Friday was tough as we sat with her, but despite her 99 years she kept on fighting and although we are not leaving her bedside at least we have time …read more

Anna wanted me to write a post explaining her absence on the blog. Anna is with her nana right now who is dying. Nana is slipping away and Anna expects to be back to writing soon.
Please send thoughts, love and prayers to Anna and her family during this time.
Thanks,
Kori

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes.
Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow.
Let reality be reality”
Lao-tse Chinese Philosopher
For the next few posts I want to pick out some quotes which I have written down from the book I by Jim Clemmer, I told you about in Coping with Change in Our Life.
This quote stood out because it made me think how in a sense – bear with me on this! – it is not the death which creates our grief but our resistance to accepting what has happened. It is our resistance to letting go, …read more

Many of you know that I record an internet radio show (a podcast) called The Engaging Brand. Normally I don’t mention it here but this week I interviewed Jim Clemmer about how we cope with change in our lives. It was a really interesting interview and made me think about

How we put pressure on ourselves by thinking about the expectations of others
How our reality is not something fully defined…it is built from perception, so if we change our perception, we change our reality!

I think that you may find some tips that will help you with your grief. Death is the …read more

Normally I publish this on a Sunday, but with it being Remembrance Sunday yesterday here are this weeks articles to help us through our grief.

Glowing Face Man presents Abundance Mentality posted at Glowing Face Man, saying, “An article about the virtues and benefits of positive thinking.”
Anna presents Who are you…you are a diamond posted at The Engaging Brand

chicu presents the gifts we are given.. posted at Uttarakhand and I, saying, “this blog records a woman’s adventures as she battles with whatever life throws at her..this post is about how life also tends to reward one”

Joe Tichio presents Greatest Inspirational Love …read more