Comments on: 10 Words Which Don’t Help Our Grief

By: Leslie

Leslie — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 21:58:42 +0000

I think I have said all of these phrases to myself many times in the last year. “I can’t”, “There is no point”, “I will never get over this”, and “I can’t cope” were the ones I said the most. A year has now passed and I can happily say “I can”, “There is definitely a point to living”, “I will never get over it, but I am getting used to it”, and “I can cope”. I have so much to be happy about and grateful for. My family gives me strength and my grandchildren make me smile every day. I have met new friends by joining support groups for others in similar situations. I am making decisions all by myself and they are good decisions. I will never stop loving Rick or missing him but life is becoming good again and I am content.

By: Anna Farmery

Anna Farmery — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 17:16:13 +0000

Oh gosh yes missed that one…and I smile about the not caring as I said something very similar as an emotional barrier, somehow trying to trick my brain to not feel the pain…needless to say that didn’t work!

Words are so important, important to express our emotions and also how we talk to ourselves….words are so often just “thrown out of our mouths”, sometimes I wish that we all understand and valued them so much more…

By: Cindy

Cindy — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 04:58:11 +0000

We can relate to that collection of phrases for sure. The only other one I can think of is “It might have been………”

It” might have been” a wonderful retirement. It” might have been” a long , healthy life. It “might have been” all of the joys we were anticipating before the cancer was diagnosed. On and on.

The scariest one for me was shortly after he died when I woke up and said ” I don’t care!” I cared about him but I didn’t care about anything else on earth that day, including me. Thank heavens a little more time and sanity came to my rescue.