4 Tips on Being Heartbroken
September 5, 2008 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Practical Tips on Grief
In grief we talk about being heartbroken, what I want to suggest is that our heart is NOT broken, it is still capable of loving again, it is still beating to keep us alive. Maybe what we should say is that we are heart – cracked!
I often think that the words we use, don’t help us through our bereavement. If we believe it is broken then, we automatically think that there is no hope. There is hope, we have read stories on the blog of people who have found a new way of being happy, or even falling in love again. Maybe we should see that we need to find the GLUE to mend the crack
G = Getting out and about again to re-join life
L = Love. Sharing our love with family and friends to show ourselves that we are still loving people who care
U = Understanding that we need to take small steps each day to rebuild our life. There is no one big answer, just incremental steps that will help heal our pain.
E = Exercise. Our heart is a muscle that needs strengthening after it has been poorly. The best way is exercising – maybe a little walk each day, maybe some yoga, maybe joining a gym class. The more we strengthen, the quicker we help our heart heal
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Once again, Anna you have written just the right thing at the right time for me. It is a dreary day here in London, Ontario, Canada. I have spent today cleaning out cupboards in my familyroom that are filled with memories of my husband. Just when I thought my heart would break in two I decided to see what you had written today. It has given me new hope and a little shove to find that glue to mend the “crack in my heart”. Thank you so much.
Leslie
Leslie – I am glad the words help. I know the feeling, actually Mum has been through that recently as well. I like think that your heartbreak shows that the love is live and well, that that love continues even now when you are apart. In my own way I smile that despite the distance our love will never break – I know it is silly but it helps to see the positive. Don’t worry Mary, together we will get through this pain, pain is short term….love lasts forever x