Anger and Grief

Grief plays with our emotions. Cindy, one of our Widows Quest regular commenters, yesterday felt angry, felt depressed and I felt so sorry for her because I know that feeling. Anger rises when you feel out of control. I feel angry when I want to change what happened, when I think about what a great man he was and how death seems to take the good ones, when I don’t know how I will pay next months bills, when I want to feel happy and I just don’t…

So what do I do to cope with the anger

1. I allow myself to be angry. Anger is a sign of grief. It is a sign that I am going through the grief cycle.
2. I talk to friends who understand that grief and who understand that I need to be angry.
3. I then put on some music that makes me smile, I sing at the top of my voice and just the upbeat music lightens the mood.

Now step 3 won’t work for all but in essence I think we cope with grief if we accept the anger, allow the anger out and then find something that takes the anger away, something that makes us smile……Cindy hope you are feeling better today.

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