Are you seeking happiness?

Silly question really! Mind you sometimes I don’t want to be happy again as I feel the sense of loss so much. However most days I try and build just one step at a time towards that ulimate goal of happiness.

I was surfing the web today and came across a new site called Happier which has online exercise tools and tips. The goal of the site says it is to

“The happier.com team is working hard to help you “go beyond the books” and provide you with research-backed tips and tools that are proven to help increase positive emotions, boost overall levels of engagement and meaning while also enhancing the quality of relationships.”

I honestly believe that as widows and widowers we need to invest our time in learning to be happy again. If we don’t there is a danger that we start to “enjoy” the pain….I know that sounds harsh but I know for myself that I went through a stage of feeling more comfortable with the pain and no people around than to rejoin life. Now I spend 20 minutes a day doing something that will make someone else or me happy ….

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