As we face the weekend I came across this inspirational poem by Fion Lim which I thought may help us with the often lonely weekend. Enjoy Past, Present, Future Don’t get stuck in the past, Where you linger on and on in familiarity, And replay old memories over and over again. Don’t overindulge in the future, Where you daydream about leading a grand life endlessly, And imagine the sweetest days you could ever live. Don’t neglect your present, Where true life begins to unfold and pass you by silently, And you wonder about missed opportunities and lost moments. For lessons, quietly contemplate about your past, And you might realize life has cleverly placed you in situations, That demanded you to raise up to the challenges and... [Read more]

Grief can breed guilt and guilt can mean that you shut your heart out to finding new love. As much as we think that we will never love anyone else as much, we should never block our heart from the chance of finding love again. Why? Because our heart needs love and as Cher famously one said “If grass can grow through cement, love can find you at every time in your life.” Now I am not saying that we must find love, I honestly believe that if it is meant to be then love will find you. What I AM saying is that we should not rule it out no matter how alien it seems. Why? Because I have met so many people who have found love again, people who said that they would never want to be with someone else. They have found a new style of love often... [Read more]

We talk each day and yet have you thought about how we take the human voice for granted? When someone dies, you miss their voice….you still have their love….yet one thing I miss the most is their voice. I know when I was Nana last month, because she had a stroke she could no longer speak…she could see, she could occassionally squeeze our hands…but she couldn’t convey how she felt. I wanted to know whether she was scared, I wanted to know whether she knew how loved she was…and yet she had lost the power of her voice. And in that silence lay the most incredible pain, my most incredible heartache. I was thinking about that today and how much we undervalue the voice when we are surrounded by our loved ones…but... [Read more]

We are facing the end of a year which grief has in many ways affected our lives….so I have been thinking of how we need to change our self talk I can …rather than I can’t.. I will… rather than I will never I can cope… I enjoy living…rather than I feel guilty living I will do it today…rather than I will think about it tomorrow I feel grateful for having them in my life…rather than I hate the fact they are gone I feel proud of the way I…..rather than why can’t I….. Can’t wait for 2010, it will be a new start…rather than when will 2009 end I accept what has happened…rather than why did this happen? It is time for me to move on…rather than holding on to the... [Read more]

Here are this weeks articles to help you cope with your grief and move through the loneliness and depression that bereavement can cause to a happier life Adam presents Stages of Grief posted at ZenTactics – Child Abuse Recovery, saying, “Sorry for your loss…Here is an article on the stages of grief…” Kathleen Gaga presents Daily Awareness: Your best thinking got you where you are at…. so what do you think about that? posted at Daily Awareness, saying, “It is in the day by day choices our life is created. It is in the day by day choices, our happiness unfolds. It is in the day by day choices we design our life or we let life design us.” Effortless Abundance presents Change Happens: What to Do... [Read more]