Before the Flower Came the Bud
March 16, 2009 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Affirmations of Life
I am staring into my garden as I type this post and seeing the first shoots of Spring. As I watch the little buds I keep thinking
- How amazing they know just when to come out and be safe from the harsh frosts
- How each flower starts as a nervous bud until it feels ready to flower
- How although they withstand an element of what nature throws at them, they still need certain elements to flourish – the right amount of light, the right nutrients etc
It just made me think how similar to a widow or widower. We are in many ways those brave little buds growing again for a new time in our lives. We can often feel unsure of how to cope, when to reenter the world but at some point we need to trust in the world again. We will never show our true inner beauty unless we brave the world!
And we too in our grief, need nutrients of love, understanding, friend
ship and even tough love to get us through…they are our nutrients that allow our buds to shine again.
So no matter where you are in the world, no matter the season just take a look at nature today and see the way nature deals with the cycle of life and gradually renews itself……
Hi Anna, looks like it has been very quiet here and I just wanted to let you know I have been catching up and reading your postings, a lot of good food for thought. I am so thankful that Spring is almost and although I am not ready to join the world yet I did ventura out alone in my new location and went to a wildlife recreational area and had a nice quiet walk this morning, as you said Spring is budding. I have had a very down few weeks, eight months felt like eight hours sometimes and eight days others, just left me very blue and sad. I have moved so quickly and made so many changes in my life and kept myself busy, now it is time to MAKE a life but I am not so keen on it…we shall see, I need bravery and I always depended on that from Dave. So each day that passes is an accomplishment, that is how I am going to see it for now. Thank you for your sharing of thoughts and feelings, you will never know what an aid they are to many.
Deb
Hi Anna,
Just got back from my big trip to Mexico last night. It was wonderful. I feel like I am ready to take on the world. Your analogy of a bud ready to burst open is perfect. I am that bud and hope to burst into flower any day now! My aunt and my cousin who were on the trip with me gave me all the nourishment I needed. I came back to wonderful spring weather which in itself is renewing. I left last week and it was still winter and all of a sudden we have spring. My wish is that everyone in the Widows Quest community can find renewal as I have. I hope I can keep this momentum and move on to wonderful new things while still thinking about and honouring my beloved husband.
Thanks girls….do you know I wonder whether my down days are linked with the sense of rebirth of Spring? Almost a jealousy about the fact that nature dies but then grows back….and that sense of flowers, sunshine and love from Spring which just makes me feel so envious of young love. But once I can truly get out there and have some sun on my face I am sure all will be OK!
What do you think of the new site…I feel that is more about renewal and growth?