Boucing Back From The Pain of Grief
June 24, 2008 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Affirmations of Life
Yesterday I wrote about the definition of happiness from a book I recently read about bouncing back from setbacks. Also within the book was this wonderful quote about life
“Listen to the sound of being unburdened from the past set of constraints…Listen to the cry of being born again. Listen to the rise of the sun on a new morning”
In our grief we can listen to our pain, we can listen to our inner voice saying how we will never recover. In our journey through grief we also need to listen to the good in the world. We need to listen to our families and friends whose words are filled with love for us. We need to listen to our heart which needs to love…it was built to love… 
Throughout our grief we should learn to balance the good with the bad, the pain with the joy, the hope with the despair…because one day, yes one day we will start to see the wonder of life.
Me again… I just finished the last of the thank-you notes and it feels like a tremendous burden has been lifted from me. I was dwelling on his death with each note, yet trying to be a bit uplifting in what I was writing. Conflicting emotions and I cried with each note I was writing.
And the truth is, I do see the hopeful side of all of this that I am going through. It is so overwhelming at first – dealing with unexpected death and all of its ramifications. People mean well, but sometimes that in itself is overwhelming. Moving through day-to-day routines is very helpful, and also doing things by myself that WE had always done before, is, also.
People are still doling out unsolicited advice, of course, but I just smile and acknowledge that I’ve heard them (not that I will TAKE that advice!). Less wear and tear on me that way.
And, with my sister’s example before me, I know that tomorrow and tomorrow will come, so I just need to accept that and figure out how I will fit into those tomorrows.
And, Anna – I love sunrises. A chance for a new beginning.
Jessica – you always make me smile with your apologies ahead of your comments….:) Especially when they are so comforting for myself and others!
I love your approach…I remember my Nana saying own the problems that you can change Anna, let go of those that you can’t…they just waste energy. When people make those comments or give advice…I think Nana’s approach is right. Why waste energy thinking about what they said or getting mad with the words…after all we need all the energy we can muster!
The tears may have flowed…but remember to congratulate yourself for achieving something worthwhile Anna x