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Comment on The Power of the Voice by vilma

vilma — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 15:14:19 +0000

Sorry, I did not reply sooner. Got alittle too involved with the holidays. The dream was wonderful. The room I was in was painted a peaceful green. Yes, it did bring me peace. I woke up smiling. Of course, for a minute there I forgot that he was gone, but when I woke I realized that his side of the bed is now empty. Nevertheless, I still felt peace and very fortunate to have this dream and hear his voice once again. Happy Holidays Anna. I really think this website is a wonderful idea. It has helped me alot to communicate with people who are going through similiar situations.

Comment on When reflection overpowers you by The Serenity Prayer : Widows Quest - Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss

Fri, 25 Dec 2009 14:32:10 +0000

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Comment on When reflection overpowers you by fifilaroach

fifilaroach — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 18:49:06 +0000

I know how hard this is, my husband died four months ago. My daughter laid a little christmas wisdom on me today.
http://rememberinggeorge.com/2009/12/24/heart-and-mind/

Comment on When reflection overpowers you by Leslie

Leslie — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 12:44:58 +0000

Dear Anna and the rest of the Widows’ Quest community,
At this time of year it is tougher than ever for most of us to look to the future. I think we tend to hang onto the past and those other wonderful holidays spent with our loved ones. Unfortunately those days are no longer here. However, the memories will always be there and they should be treasured. I am reminded of the Serenity Prayer. I am sure you have all heard it before:
“Grant me the serenity to accept
the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference.”

I think of this prayer often and it says everything, doesn’t it? So, this Christmas, as difficult as it is, I will try very hard to accept that,yes, my husband is no longer with me for the holidays, but I will try to have the courage to change my outlook on the holidays as a sad time of melancholy to a time to focus on all the wonderful things in my life [for me, family and especially grandchildren]. In one week it will be New Years’ Eve. This is a special time of reflection and hope. Hope for the future and a perfect time for all of us to look ahead to a joyful and productive year.
Happy Holidays, Anna. And to all of you I wish peace, happiness and courage in the coming year.

Comment on Loneliness and Fear at Christmas by Anna Farmery

Anna Farmery — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 18:27:20 +0000

Thank you all and of course my wishes are with you all at this time. Xmas is tough…there is no doubt about that….but it is also a chance to spread love and to be there for others….we have had such happiness in our lives and I am trying to see Xmas this year as a chance to share that happiness with others. I will be thinking of you all

Anna

Comment on Why you should never not believe in love by Anna Farmery

Anna Farmery — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 18:23:09 +0000

Peggy

I am so sorry for your loss and it must be a two edged sword with 4 children. First they give you strength I am sure to face the future, yet I cannot imagine the strength you need to face life as a sole parent. I suppose what I meant was that as much as we cannot ever imagine loving again, we should never shut our emotions down….our hearts are built to love and if we remain open…I hope that you have a good family holiday and try and concentrate on the love of his legacy, his children.

Anna

Comment on Loneliness and Fear at Christmas by Deb

Deb — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 14:37:23 +0000

Anna I just wanted to wish you and your followers a Merry Christmas, this is my second without Dave and it has been in some ways harder than the first but I have womderful memories and am so blessed by that as you often write. Our weather is turning dangerous so I am going to be camping out at my sister’s in order to enjoy the Santa Christmas morning and not drive on ice and snow, I hope you share your day with your mum and your wonderful memories! Thank you for sharing your thoughts this last year!

Deb

Comment on Why you should never not believe in love by peggy

peggy — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 04:33:32 +0000

Thank you for that piece, Ive been widowed for 4 years now and im only 40 with 4 children under 10. I am tired of being alone its hard to find a compatable companion. Im am ready to take a break from the whole dating thing its very disturbing.

Comment on Loneliness and Fear at Christmas by Rae

Rae — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 15:46:16 +0000

Thank you once again for just the right words at just the right time. As I face my first Christmas without my husband, I have discovered that emotions I felt months ago once again have emerged, and Christmas cards, especially those addressed to the two of us, have brought on renewed sadness. But as you say, the love lives on though the loved one has gone. And isn’t that what Christmas is all about…spreading the love. I can do that.

Comment on Loneliness and Fear at Christmas by Mary

Mary — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 15:14:27 +0000

Dear Anna,
I wish I could give you a hug, because sometimes that’s what helps the most at times like these. It really can be a rollercoaster at this time of year. I had been feeling like I was moving forward and not missing Michael as much as past Christmases (sp), until I received a Christmas card from a friend mentioning him. She wrote “you must be missing him so much at this time of year”. The odd thing is that I was feeling pretty good until she reminded me! Then I felt sad. You’ve said often that the love continues on even if the physical presence is no longer with us. I believe that, too. Such a gift we’ve been blessed with!
Love,
Mary