Comments for Widows Quest http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Fri, 06 Nov 2009 20:19:25 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 Comment on Do you feel their spirit? by vilma http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/do-you-feel-their-spirit/comment-page-1/#comment-19378 vilma Fri, 06 Nov 2009 20:19:25 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1855#comment-19378 I guess we could sometimes feel their spirit because we were once so close to them, and I would even have to go on and say that we still feel that way. These were our soulmates, we were one. My husband loved music and he would often sing or whistle alot of tunes. So I could be in my car, in the supermarket, watching t.v., at a party or anywhere that they could be playing a song that he would sing. At that moment, I may be feeling down and just to hear almost his voice singing it lifts my spirits. If I am getting dressed, and it is something that he liked I could hear his comment about it. If I am cooking and (this is something he loved to do) I picture him around the kitchen giving me tips on what will make it taste better etc., and I have to say that I have become a better cook than ever with my own ideas. He would love that. Like you said that habits have to be replaced with new customs. I guess we could sometimes feel their spirit because we were once so close to them, and I would even have to go on and say that we still feel that way. These were our soulmates, we were one. My husband loved music and he would often sing or whistle alot of tunes. So I could be in my car, in the supermarket, watching t.v., at a party or anywhere that they could be playing a song that he would sing. At that moment, I may be feeling down and just to hear almost his voice singing it lifts my spirits. If I am getting dressed, and it is something that he liked I could hear his comment about it. If I am cooking and (this is something he loved to do) I picture him around the kitchen giving me tips on what will make it taste better etc., and I have to say that I have become a better cook than ever with my own ideas. He would love that. Like you said that habits have to be replaced with new customs.

]]> Comment on On this day…..we miss you Dad by Anna Farmery http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/on-this-day-we-miss-you-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-19377 Anna Farmery Fri, 06 Nov 2009 19:47:48 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1865#comment-19377 Soniya...the feeling is mutual. On days like this I also start to fear losing mum as she is so precious...then I just try and realise that I am a lucky little girl for having parents who loved me, nurtured me and no matter what i did stood by me....then I start to think about what I have gained from the life of Dad rather than what I miss from the death of Dad....make any sense? Soniya…the feeling is mutual. On days like this I also start to fear losing mum as she is so precious…then I just try and realise that I am a lucky little girl for having parents who loved me, nurtured me and no matter what i did stood by me….then I start to think about what I have gained from the life of Dad rather than what I miss from the death of Dad….make any sense?

]]> Comment on Control – what control? by Anna Farmery http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/control-what-control/comment-page-1/#comment-19376 Anna Farmery Fri, 06 Nov 2009 19:45:31 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1858#comment-19376 Well I think all the words and emotive words show that nothing that we feel is stupid...it is just how we feel. We all try and use our rational side of our brain to understand the emotive side...and really that is wrong! We will of course miss all aspect of them...the good, the bad...and yes even the ugly! Because we loved them as a whole being...not just one dimensional. I think the more we share, the more we understand that far from being daft we are just being human...Anna xx Well I think all the words and emotive words show that nothing that we feel is stupid…it is just how we feel. We all try and use our rational side of our brain to understand the emotive side…and really that is wrong! We will of course miss all aspect of them…the good, the bad…and yes even the ugly! Because we loved them as a whole being…not just one dimensional.
I think the more we share, the more we understand that far from being daft we are just being human…Anna xx

]]> Comment on On this day…..we miss you Dad by Dating Down Under http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/on-this-day-we-miss-you-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-19368 Dating Down Under Fri, 06 Nov 2009 05:57:02 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1865#comment-19368 Hi Anna, I thoroughly understand your feelings as I lost my dad on 4th November exactly 10 years ago and it was also a celebration time then for others and all places were lit up when our family lost the most loving and caring person. I also remember him everyday but yes, this particular day, we miss him even more. Sometimes wishing we could talk to him or at least if he knew how much we cared and how much we miss him. Even after 10 years, no memories have diminished and it's like we were with him yesterday and he was taking care of us everytime. I know he is still there somewhere caring for us and making our lives happier. I pray for you and your family and everybody in this world. May God give courage and strength and good thoughts to overcome the loss. Thanks, Soniya Hi Anna,

I thoroughly understand your feelings as I lost my dad on 4th November exactly 10 years ago and it was also a celebration time then for others and all places were lit up when our family lost the most loving and caring person. I also remember him everyday but yes, this particular day, we miss him even more. Sometimes wishing we could talk to him or at least if he knew how much we cared and how much we miss him. Even after 10 years, no memories have diminished and it’s like we were with him yesterday and he was taking care of us everytime. I know he is still there somewhere caring for us and making our lives happier.

I pray for you and your family and everybody in this world. May God give courage and strength and good thoughts to overcome the loss.

Thanks,
Soniya

]]> Comment on On this day…..we miss you Dad by Anna Farmery http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/on-this-day-we-miss-you-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-19364 Anna Farmery Thu, 05 Nov 2009 22:43:34 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1865#comment-19364 Thank you, just spoken to mum and she is ok....as she says she misses him everyday....and today is just another of those days. Funny I was driving back from London tonight - a 5 hr drive and all the way up there were fireworks going off....as I thought about Dad it just looked as though the world was celebrating his legacy...lovely. I miss him but what a wonderful night to remember him on....a night about family and a night which is lit up with colour. Thank you for all your support...you truly are wonderful friends xx Thank you, just spoken to mum and she is ok….as she says she misses him everyday….and today is just another of those days. Funny I was driving back from London tonight – a 5 hr drive and all the way up there were fireworks going off….as I thought about Dad it just looked as though the world was celebrating his legacy…lovely. I miss him but what a wonderful night to remember him on….a night about family and a night which is lit up with colour.

Thank you for all your support…you truly are wonderful friends xx

]]> Comment on On this day…..we miss you Dad by Mary http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/on-this-day-we-miss-you-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-19360 Mary Thu, 05 Nov 2009 22:24:53 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1865#comment-19360 Dear Anna, you won't believe this (or maybe you will), but I was talking about Bonfire Night with a co-worker. She studied in London, and during that time, she and friends took the train to Leeds to attend the bonfire. As she was telling me about her experience, I thought of your family. (This was before I read your post.) My heart goes out to you all. What a beautiful tribute and post! Hugs, Mary Dear Anna, you won’t believe this (or maybe you will), but I was talking about Bonfire Night with a co-worker. She studied in London, and during that time, she and friends took the train to Leeds to attend the bonfire. As she was telling me about her experience, I thought of your family. (This was before I read your post.) My heart goes out to you all. What a beautiful tribute and post!
Hugs,
Mary

]]> Comment on Control – what control? by Cindy http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/control-what-control/comment-page-1/#comment-19355 Cindy Thu, 05 Nov 2009 19:03:51 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1858#comment-19355 There is nothing stupid about wanting your best friend back with you. I want mine back too and God bless our best friends who love to talk about him as well - we share so many wonderful memories. And family of course too - I wish they didn't all live so far away. I'm having a very hard time right now - it's been almost 2 years- but facing the holidays without him and dealing with shorter days and longer nights is something I am fighting as best I can. His ashes are at the beach and I will go there to visit with "him" this afternoon. I can always sense his presence there where we built a new beach house the year before he died of cancer. I was blessed to have him for over 20 years but I would give anything to have one more hug; see his sweet smile and just one more snuggle to help me sleep at night again. I hope today brings you some blessed distraction to help you get through the pain of loss. There is nothing stupid about wanting your best friend back with you. I want mine back too and God bless our best friends who love to talk about him as well – we share so many wonderful memories. And family of course too – I wish they didn’t all live so far away.

I’m having a very hard time right now – it’s been almost 2 years- but facing the holidays without him and dealing with shorter days and longer nights is something I am fighting as best I can. His ashes are at the beach and I will go there to visit with “him” this afternoon. I can always sense his presence there where we built a new beach house the year before he died of cancer. I was blessed to have him for over 20 years but I would give anything to have one more hug; see his sweet smile and just one more snuggle to help me sleep at night again.

I hope today brings you some blessed distraction to help you get through the pain of loss.

]]> Comment on Control – what control? by vilma http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/control-what-control/comment-page-1/#comment-19354 vilma Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:51:19 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1858#comment-19354 Thank you Leslie, to good to know that I am not alone. I know now where to go when I need to vent or speak someone about what I am feeling about my loss. Thank you once again, Vilma Thank you Leslie, to good to know that I am not alone. I know now where to go when I need to vent or speak someone about what I am feeling about my loss. Thank you once again, Vilma

]]> Comment on Grief and the Little Things in Life… by Leslie http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/grief-and-the-little-things-in-life/comment-page-1/#comment-19346 Leslie Thu, 05 Nov 2009 13:09:05 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1837#comment-19346 Nellie, Please keep visiting this site and contributing. I love to hear from other widows and I know everyone else here does too. We all seem to have very similar emotions and some of them only other widows or widowers could possibly understand. Anna's postings always strike a chord with me and I am sure with everyone else. Widows' Quest has helped me so much. I just want to encourage others to participate as much as possible. Reading Anna's postings really help me and I have found that writing replies has also helped. It gives me an outlet to express feelings that I sometimes keep to myself because I feel others may be getting bored with hearing them. But here, we are all in the same boat, so to speak, and when I write something I usually get someone replying that they feel that way too. It is very reassuring to know that I am not alone. All the best to you today and I hope to see more of your writing here. Nellie, Please keep visiting this site and contributing. I love to hear from other widows and I know everyone else here does too. We all seem to have very similar emotions and some of them only other widows or widowers could possibly understand. Anna’s postings always strike a chord with me and I am sure with everyone else. Widows’ Quest has helped me so much. I just want to encourage others to participate as much as possible. Reading Anna’s postings really help me and I have found that writing replies has also helped. It gives me an outlet to express feelings that I sometimes keep to myself because I feel others may be getting bored with hearing them. But here, we are all in the same boat, so to speak, and when I write something I usually get someone replying that they feel that way too. It is very reassuring to know that I am not alone. All the best to you today and I hope to see more of your writing here.

]]> Comment on Control – what control? by Leslie http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/control-what-control/comment-page-1/#comment-19345 Leslie Thu, 05 Nov 2009 13:00:00 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1858#comment-19345 Longing to hear him, smell him, hold him are not stupid emotions. They are real and we have all experienced these emotions. You have lost your other half. It is only reasonable to long for him. We here at Widows' Quest have all experienced these emotions and I urge you to visit this sit often to read Anna's posts and the replies that some of us regularly post. I too was very low and lost when my husband died almost a year and a half ago but this site goes a long way to make you feel that you are not alone. It is one place where people understand you. The wonderful friends I have made here are indispensable to my recovery. We can all help you so please keep reading and contributing. I for one, will be looking forward to your future posts, Vilma. Longing to hear him, smell him, hold him are not stupid emotions. They are real and we have all experienced these emotions. You have lost your other half. It is only reasonable to long for him. We here at Widows’ Quest have all experienced these emotions and I urge you to visit this sit often to read Anna’s posts and the replies that some of us regularly post. I too was very low and lost when my husband died almost a year and a half ago but this site goes a long way to make you feel that you are not alone. It is one place where people understand you. The wonderful friends I have made here are indispensable to my recovery. We can all help you so please keep reading and contributing. I for one, will be looking forward to your future posts, Vilma.

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