Cycle of Grief – Part 5
October 11, 2006 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Grief
Eventually people pass through the period of depression and begin to accept the loss. The magic solution – TIME. Pain eases over time and we can think about our loved ones and even start remembering with feeling the devastating pain of loss. This can take months and don’t worry if you are not there yet…you will get there.
At this time people start accepting that they still have their life and start planning to enjoy the time that they have on this earth, they know deep in their hearts that their partner would have wanted them to live again. This is not disloyal, it is quite normal to feel disloyal but in my mind it is more disloyal not to live like they would have wanted you to….
Most people find this easier through a hobby, as it is a way of meeting people without the social stigma of arriving alone. The hobby gives a purpose, gives structure and also gives you enjoyment.
Key to acceptance is that enjoying the present does not mean that you are ignoring the past. The past is always there, always with us and is helping frame who we are……. it also helps make us look out for others in pain and know that we can help them by listening, by giving them that precious commodity of time.
