Comments on: Don’t Give Up On Me Baby! http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/dont-give-up-on-me-baby/ Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Wed, 23 Dec 2009 18:27:20 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Deb http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/dont-give-up-on-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-2438 Deb Thu, 19 Feb 2009 17:55:38 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/?p=1320#comment-2438 Leslie, sorry to have not answered sooner, my life is a bit chaotic since the move but am slowly getting a semi-routine down. I have had visits from Dave in dreams, almost half-awake it seems and the first we were swimming (I am not into being IN the water!) and he was swimming away from me farther and farther smiling, as I tried to reach him I couldn't, woke up a bit frightened. I have had dreams that seemed so real and had to remind myself when I awoke that he really isn't here but it has been a few months since I have dreamed of him. I feel so bad for your situation and wish like Anna there was something we could do for you. This journey is so different for all of us but so hard in so many ways for each one. Deb Leslie, sorry to have not answered sooner, my life is a bit chaotic since the move but am slowly getting a semi-routine down. I have had visits from Dave in dreams, almost half-awake it seems and the first we were swimming (I am not into being IN the water!) and he was swimming away from me farther and farther smiling, as I tried to reach him I couldn’t, woke up a bit frightened. I have had dreams that seemed so real and had to remind myself when I awoke that he really isn’t here but it has been a few months since I have dreamed of him.
I feel so bad for your situation and wish like Anna there was something we could do for you. This journey is so different for all of us but so hard in so many ways for each one.

Deb

]]> By: anna http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/dont-give-up-on-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-2336 anna Wed, 18 Feb 2009 19:18:19 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/?p=1320#comment-2336 Linda - for me it is the getting to sleep rather than sleeping. Once I am asleep I sleep like a baby. I am trying all kinds of things but the one that has helped slightly has been listening to my breathing and relaxing into it.... I have not been visited, and I so want to be, as I want to know they are OK and that they are still around. I believe it is the subconscious that does it and because I want it, it won't happen. I also think sometimes your subconscious is protecting you so much that it blocks those thoughts out...but that is just me. My mum believes that the robin in her garden is my dad and it brings her so much peace. It was funny as the other day a robin started hanging around my garden...I had never had one before...so now I talk to it as Dad...the neighbours must think I am mad! But for me whether it is or isn't it feels as though he is there... I hope you are OK, is there any help we can offer? Linda – for me it is the getting to sleep rather than sleeping. Once I am asleep I sleep like a baby. I am trying all kinds of things but the one that has helped slightly has been listening to my breathing and relaxing into it….
I have not been visited, and I so want to be, as I want to know they are OK and that they are still around. I believe it is the subconscious that does it and because I want it, it won’t happen. I also think sometimes your subconscious is protecting you so much that it blocks those thoughts out…but that is just me. My mum believes that the robin in her garden is my dad and it brings her so much peace. It was funny as the other day a robin started hanging around my garden…I had never had one before…so now I talk to it as Dad…the neighbours must think I am mad! But for me whether it is or isn’t it feels as though he is there…
I hope you are OK, is there any help we can offer?

]]> By: Linda http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/dont-give-up-on-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-2362 Linda Wed, 18 Feb 2009 04:49:29 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/?p=1320#comment-2362 Hello Anna & Deb, I sincerely hope both of you are sleeping better now. You see, I lost my precious, perfect Husband due to a doctor deliberately taking my Husband's life, 4 years ago and haven't slept a full 8 hours since that day. Because of all of this, I now have Congestive Heart Failure and Hypothyroidism. I am only 56 years young and should not be having any of these problems. I truly believe that the pain, sorrow and sleepless nights have truly taken their tole. Please do your best to try to sleep, knowing that if you sleep more and if you believe that those you love can and will come to you, sleep is the easiest time for them to do it. Or at least that's what I've been told. Out of curiosity.........Have either one of you been visited by your lost loved one? Hugs & Blessings, Linda Hello Anna & Deb,

I sincerely hope both of you are sleeping better now. You see, I lost my precious, perfect Husband due to a doctor deliberately taking my Husband’s life, 4 years ago and haven’t slept a full 8 hours since that day. Because of all of this, I now have Congestive Heart Failure and Hypothyroidism. I am only 56 years young and should not be having any of these problems. I truly believe that the pain, sorrow and sleepless nights have truly taken their tole.

Please do your best to try to sleep, knowing that if you sleep more and if you believe that those you love can and will come to you, sleep is the easiest time for them to do it. Or at least that’s what I’ve been told.

Out of curiosity………Have either one of you been visited by your lost loved one?

Hugs & Blessings,

Linda

]]> By: anna http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/dont-give-up-on-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-2280 anna Sat, 14 Feb 2009 17:03:51 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/?p=1320#comment-2280 Oh Deb I think it has started to affect me as I now feel a little run down with a barking cough and no energy...think we mayhave to revert to baseball bat over head tonight!! Though I have to say when I do get to sleep I do sleep like a baby....I wish sometimes I was born a cat...they look so calm asleep Ax Oh Deb I think it has started to affect me as I now feel a little run down with a barking cough and no energy…think we mayhave to revert to baseball bat over head tonight!! Though I have to say when I do get to sleep I do sleep like a baby….I wish sometimes I was born a cat…they look so calm asleep Ax

]]> By: Deb http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/dont-give-up-on-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-2519 Deb Fri, 13 Feb 2009 20:39:08 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/?p=1320#comment-2519 Anna, I am hoping you are getting more than 20 minutes of sleep most nights, your body can not continue to function on so little. It is amazing that words flow so eloquently from you in this sleep deprived state... just want you to take care of you, you have helped so many we need you strong! Deb Anna, I am hoping you are getting more than 20 minutes of sleep most nights, your body can not continue to function on so little. It is amazing that words flow so eloquently from you in this sleep deprived state… just want you to take care of you, you have helped so many we need you strong!

Deb

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