Facing the World Through Grief
April 25, 2008 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Loneliness, Guilt & Depression
It is my best friends birthday this week, tomorrow I am going to a party and although I want to be there, the stronger feeling is that I want to stay in and be by myself.
Grief can make you insular, grief can make you feel guilty about enjoying yourself. Yet it is that company of friends that will help you through the grief cycle. I have been talking to myself saying
- This is about your friends, not me. They want me to go and they have been so supportive, this is a small way of giving back to our friendship.
- Grieving does not mean that I can never smile again….a smile will never undermine my love.
- It is the going out that is the hardest, once in company I will relax and enjoy myself
- Staying in will only feed my self pity….going out will help me to take responsibility for my own happiness.
Widows often feel more comfortable hiding away, because they don’t have the energy to go out. Remember though it is through interacting with people, that your heart recharges its emotions to help you cope with the pain.
[photo from iStockphoto]
