It went something like

“We need darkness…because otherwise how could we see the stars”

When change happens it is so easy to see the darkness…but you know there are shining lights of hope if we look closely. If you are feeling down tonight I want you to look up to the stars and see all of us smiling at you, supporting you, sending love to ease that loneliness. I want you to see our lost loves smiling and willing us through this trauma, I want us to look up and think of 2 or 3 things in our life which are our shining stars.

Grief can be lonely so I want you all to know that one of those stars is me…..sending my love to a wonderful member of the Widows Quest community. I also want us to think about how we can be the stars for others out there when they need that energy to face the world.

Post from: Widows Quest

I wonder sometimes what a world would be

Without grief which drains the life out of me

You were the one who died

Yet I feel dead too, on the inside

I want to believe that your love will always be there

To comfort, to cherish and not leaving me bare

To a world that seem so frightening right now

Please tell me the secret and especially the how

To learn to live with this grief which prevents me

Being the person you loved so passionately

I want to be strong, I want to see hope

But I sit, I weep, I fret at failing to cope

I know that I can, I know that I will

But come in my dreams and lay those fears still

Post from: Widows Quest

Live To Inspire presents Why We All Need To Laugh More posted at Live To Inspire.

Annaly Curzon presents How To Get A Life posted at Working On Me, saying, “Looking for your life? A life coach can help you find it.”

michaelweaver4 presents What is Your Art? The Real You. posted at findinspirationtoday.com – Find Inspiration & Personal Development Today, saying, “An article discussing why you should be pursuing your real passion!”

Toni Graybill presents tonig.net: Welcome to My World of Learning posted at Maximize Health and Wealth, saying, “An entertaining article on facing your fears.”

Ben Klempner, MSW presents 33 Tips for Feeling Great posted at Effective Family Communication.

Pam Lindberg presents Are you planning to win by failing to plan? posted at Discover 24 Hour Web Cash Review, saying, “I have learnt so much and have achieved such alot in only 3 months. The programme that I am following has changed me, I am living my dream and would like to help others wanting to achieve their dreams”

Kaushik Chokshi presents A Handbook of Awakening posted at Beyond Karma, saying, “A short, concise guide to awakening…”

Brandon presents 3 Things Of Understanding Life and Getting Thru It posted at Living Experiences and Knowledge, saying, “The Three Ways of Getting Threw Life and Understanding It”

Miche presents Put Your Dreams in Your Routines (Simply) posted at Serenity Hacker, saying, “What are your dreams REALLY made of? Discover the ingredients your dreams are comprised of, and start living them every day.”

Danea Horn presents The Top 5 Affirmation Pitfalls posted at Affirmation Blog, saying, “Avoid these affirmation pitfalls and watch your dreams manifest.”

Honeypurple presents 10 Things You Should Know About Your Aging Brain posted at Associate Degree – Facts and Information.

Vincent presents Do You Make This Mistake? – Learn The Art Of Eliminating Negative Self Talk posted at Hit Your Goals.

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of positive thinking using our carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

Post from: Widows Quest

I say that because when I broke my foot I sat at home feeling lonely and lost. I wrote the blog post and all of your comments has helped me fill that void of love. Your comments made me feel loved, your comments gave me the support I was so in need of…..thank you, thank you, thank you.

Love is a wonderfully uplifting emotion….when you lose it from your physical life if not your heart through memories, it may bring pain….but you know love, no matter where it comes from is the biggest gift we can give people.

When you have one of those days when you think….”What is there in my life?” Look in the mirror, come to this blog…smile and say Love

Post from: Widows Quest

Fortunately, grief makes you resilient and I am coping quite well with my lovely new cast up to my knee….but I tell you I had all on not to descend into deep depression…

Suddenly I can’t cook easily, or carry food and even coffee making is difficult…i.e you realise that for all the friends about, you are very much on your own. Friends call and ask if I want anything, but you don’t want to say “Sure can you come over and wash my hair, or clear the cat litter, or cook tea!” You know they are busy in their lives, you say instead “Don’t be silly I am fine” At times like this you truly miss those around you.

I decided to see it as an adventure and see how I could manage various things…and I think there is a lesson in all of this…

When you are faced with a life dilemma there are two choices…..be depressed or be adventurous!

Day 1, I chose adventure but you may have to keep me going until February 15th……:)

Do you ever feel – you get over one thing and another hits you!

Post from: Widows Quest

There is a difference in our life now to our life then.

Our life before the death was about two people working together towards our dreams. We were 50% of our life.

Now our life means my life. We have 100% of our relationship with our dreams. There is one person now that can determine our own destiny.

What we are going through is the emergence of that other 50%. That acceptance of moving from 2 to 1  is down to us. That realisation phase that says our life now will not be the same. Our life now keeps the memories of the past as they form part of who we are today….but to move forward we need to take control of creating the memories of the future.

It is frightening to be on total control of your own life. But you know it can be exciting to! At the moment we are concentrating on the fear and not the positive aspect.

To move from fear we need to demonstrate to ourself that we can cope with being in total control. We can take small steps to build that confidence, we will make mistakes but that is OK….mistakes are at least successful in one sense, that we know that doesn’t work!

Post from: Widows Quest

“I am who I am but I can be who I want to be”

In grief you can lose that self confidence and for me acceptance of yourself and acceptance of who you are is an important step in progressing through the grief cycle. But in acceptance of who you are now should be balanced with understanding that you can be whoever you want to be….

We have all been defined in the past in a way…wife, mother, widow…..you may have been a wife before and a widow now but that doesn’t determine who you the person is and who you the person can become…

Life is about memories and I am a firm believer that we all need dreams. Dreams are a fuel, a motivation to move us from drifting to steering a new path.

We need to tap into new dreams now. That is sad that they are new ones, but in a sense it should feel exciting. We determine our own legacy, we can make our dreams come true. I think sometimes we become marooned with who I am instead of who I can become…

I can become more giving, more open, more empathetic, more loving to friends and family…that doesn’t need confidence that just needs me to want it… And achieving it, that can breed that self confidence we crave.

Post from: Widows Quest

DeMarcus presents Jan 23, “Enlightenment” Your 7 day program to Positive thinking posted at Self Improvement Articles Blog.

JL 4 Media presents How To Turn Anxiety To Happiness posted at Live Life to the Fullest, saying, “Be proactive or reactive. You can either be a victim or a victor. Choose your attitude, choose the positive!”

Debbie Pierce presents ?To Thine Own Self Be True? ~ The Power of Journaling posted at Rose Goddess Blog.

Angie Miller presents Changes posted at the greatest of these.

Aparna presents An anger management tip posted at Beauty and Personal Grooming, saying, “If the other person is too angry to understand you and when a proper communication seems impossible at that point of time, it is better to leave the place or suggest to your adversary that you will discuss the problem later at some calmer hour. Both of you will feel less defensive/aggressive then and you might even be able to sort out your differences amicably.”

Stephen Martile presents Feeling Overwhelmed? Try This! | Learn the Power of Your Subconscious Mind posted at FreedomEducation.ca by Stephen Martile, saying, “Hi,

I’ve had my fair share of ups and downs. It’s part of life, right?

Well here’s a way to eliminate feelings of overwhelm almost immediately. If you really take the time to look at yourself from an objective point of view, you’ll soon see that feelings of overwhelm can be eliminated when you eliminate your “sloppy thinking.”

It’s all explained in my video.”

Rick presents Confidence Quotes posted at Hap Hits.

Lazy Man and Money presents Maximize Strengths or Minimize Weaknesses? posted at Lazy Man and Money.

Wally Bock presents Think outside your own box posted at Momentor.

Kaushik Chokshi presents Why we don’t do the things that are good for us | beyond karma posted at Beyond Karma, saying, “the karma of conflicting beliefs…”

Beth Dargis presents Creating a Check In Jar posted at My Simpler Life – Simple Living, saying, “This is a simple way to remember to check in with yourself”

Donald Latumahina presents Stop Wasting Time by Matching Your Past High Levels of Effort posted at Life Optimizer.

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of positive thinking using our carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

Post from: Widows Quest

There is hope in the children – either our own or those around us. The innocence of youth can instill the most wonderful top up of hope in your soul. Sometimes when I am out and about I just watch the children play, with such freedom and know that hope lies in the souls of the youth.

There is hope in love. We may be feeling unlucky to lose our loved ones, but we are lucky to have loved. Just as maybe we thought we would never find love when we were younger….and we did we can find love again in the future.No one knows who is round the corner in search of their heart

There is hope in the friends and family who both have dreams of their own and also dreams that we will find happiness. They are constantly willing us on, willing us to be who we were and have always been.

So there is not necessarily a filling station sign but if we look closely enough there are life stations of hope for those dark days when bereavement seems to be taking hold.

Post from: Widows Quest

It may help, it may not! But you can listen to it on the Engaging Brand website.

I tried the technique on the show and I have to say that it did seem to work, though I must say I forget to use it …..

It talks about focusing in on the negative thought and destroying it…..interesting concept. I will try anything to start moving forward with a little more pace!

Post from: Widows Quest