Finding your personal anchor during grief
December 13, 2006 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Comfort Yourself, Grief, Loneliness, Guilt & Depression, Rebuilding Shattered Faith
When you are feeling lonley, depressed or just engulfed with grief do you maintain some safe anchor points? When everything seems to be changing around you and you’re feeling a bit out of control, you need a rock of stability you can hang on to until you find your bearings.
We all need some stress and tension to give our everyday lives zing and motivation, but during grief then this can 
become too much and remember you don’t need any more changes for a while, it may seem like you want to make changes but you don’t allow your mind to find it’s bearings first.
When you lose somebody then it is key to keep at least some things stationary by returning to and maintaining customary activities or familiar habits. Touch base with old friends who know you well and with whom you feel completely comfortable.
These familiar activities will be your personal anchor of peace and quiet for a while. It’s a practical tactic in a good strategy for coping with grief and bereavement.
I am practically living alone, I don’t have a brother nor a sister nor parents. My parents have already died. I maybe have a half brother or half sisters but we didn’t live together. Living my life alone has been a strugle for me. My mom died when I was 10 yrs old and I decided to live in a dormitory when I was in high school, 15 yrs old as I may say. My dad works abroad and died whn I was in college. Loneliness breaks my heart every now and then but I felt like I had no choice..I couldn’t give up, I should not. I’ve also been into few relationships which all of them hurt me. Everything seemed so dark…it’s as if I don’t see any light coming into me…and recently another relationship ended…again, my heart was bruised…so bruised that I almost lost my faith. Everything that has happened in m y life sunk in to me…I was lost, hopeless and in excruciating pain. But, I held on to God, He’s the only one I got and each day is a healing process for me…each day He provides me enough strength to go on…to move on…to start anew… and I would start by going back to “BASICS”. Live a simple life..go with the the flow…be happy and stay as that…Hurt and pain are still within me…but His LOVE and HIM alone will help me make it through.