Comments on: Grief Changes You http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/grief-changes-you/ Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Tue, 15 Dec 2009 13:05:33 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: anna http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/grief-changes-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2314 anna Sun, 08 Mar 2009 18:12:28 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/?p=1364#comment-2314 Oh Deb that SO makes sense. What used to upset me feels so trivial now. Now I focus on the most important things like love, family, friendship and living my values and not worrying about whether the kettle isn't working. I think though it is the small things that still trigger my grief? Like when the internet doesn't work and it makes me miss him because he would know what to do....so I can't say the small things don't get to me, but then I stand back and realise that no matter what I lose, it is the things that I gain that matter...x Oh Deb that SO makes sense. What used to upset me feels so trivial now. Now I focus on the most important things like love, family, friendship and living my values and not worrying about whether the kettle isn’t working. I think though it is the small things that still trigger my grief? Like when the internet doesn’t work and it makes me miss him because he would know what to do….so I can’t say the small things don’t get to me, but then I stand back and realise that no matter what I lose, it is the things that I gain that matter…x

]]> By: Deb http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/grief-changes-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2317 Deb Sun, 08 Mar 2009 15:36:40 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/?p=1364#comment-2317 I feel a bit guilty admitting this but grief has taught me FINALLY to quit sweating the small stuff, I have always been grateful and was very appreciative of what a great life and marriage I had but now I no longer dwell on the insignifigant in life. Does that make sense? It is as if I now have the knowledge that everything is fleeting and limited in time so spend what you have on what matters. That is a positive that grief has taught me, the negative is that also, that things are fleeting and that makes me a bit cautious to get too close or too involved, at eight months now that is easy for me to do, not get involved and stay on the fringe...if that continues I know it is not healthy but for now it is where I am at. Deb I feel a bit guilty admitting this but grief has taught me FINALLY to quit sweating the small stuff, I have always been grateful and was very appreciative of what a great life and marriage I had but now I no longer dwell on the insignifigant in life. Does that make sense? It is as if I now have the knowledge that everything is fleeting and limited in time so spend what you have on what matters. That is a positive that grief has taught me, the negative is that also, that things are fleeting and that makes me a bit cautious to get too close or too involved, at eight months now that is easy for me to do, not get involved and stay on the fringe…if that continues I know it is not healthy but for now it is where I am at.

Deb

]]> By: 4 Ways Grief Has Changed My Beliefs « Fruitful Words http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/grief-changes-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2339 4 Ways Grief Has Changed My Beliefs « Fruitful Words Sat, 07 Mar 2009 18:43:52 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/?p=1364#comment-2339 [...] here to read the Widow’s Quest post that prompted my thoughts. This post is about how Grief Changes [...] [...] here to read the Widow’s Quest post that prompted my thoughts. This post is about how Grief Changes [...]

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