Grief has changed my view on relationships
September 19, 2007 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Grief
When you lose someone, it makes you think differently about all your friendships/relationships.
G = Granted. I think that I took all relationships for granted…now I now the pain of doing that, I spend a portion of each day investing in showing others how much I care.
R = Realised how special human relationships are….I value the warmth of a relationship, the feeling of being needed and the feeling of loving and being loved.
I = Invest time in relationships. Modern life can be busy and we can forget the people closest to us…oh, I will ring tomorrow night, ah I will pop in next week, they will understand etc etc Now I
invest in the relationships, I have a certain time on earth and I don’t want to leave this world without people knowing how much I cared about them.
E = Emotions. Before my bereavement I kept my emotions very much to myself….now I share my thoughts. This has brought people closer, they admitted that they found me distant before…now they enjoy understanding how I am feeling….and I feel less isolated.
F = Families have their issues, their clashes, their differences…but they should never get in the way of the underlying love you have for each other. I have learned to respect the differences and love the closeness which was not there before losing Dad.
So true, I just wish that it wouldn’t take a tragedy such as this for us to ralize how important all the small things are, like pictures. And how much we rely on our friends and families in every day life.
That is so true….I can cope with the big things better…it is the small things that hurt me more I think!
It seems the small decisions are usually the hardest to make. At least that is how I think about it. Big decisions you mull over and over over time but the little ones were you have to make a quick decision without having anyone to bounce things off of. That is brutally painful and the loss hits you with brute force.
Amie