Comments on: How BIG is Your Heart http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/how-big-is-your-heart/ Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Wed, 09 Dec 2009 18:26:25 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: anna http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/how-big-is-your-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-1395 anna Fri, 22 Aug 2008 19:09:02 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/how-big-is-your-heart/#comment-1395 Hazel - I so understand. The pain can be unbearable. Key for me was to set myself some small targets, something to look forward to...for instance I plan a cheap trip to maybe family or friends, or start a nightclass every now and then. We cannot - unfortunately - change what has happened and how we have felt, but we can start to live forward rather than staying in the past. I made a step change when I accepted what had happened, accepted that the loss was a fact, the only thing I could change was how I lived my life going forward. I can't say I am "happy" everyday but I can say that now there are more better days, than low days.....I even mark on a calendar with coloured pens either a black day or a yellow to show me that I am making progress...My heart goes out to you and I hope that the thoughts on this site give you both comfort and hope Hazel – I so understand. The pain can be unbearable. Key for me was to set myself some small targets, something to look forward to…for instance I plan a cheap trip to maybe family or friends, or start a nightclass every now and then. We cannot – unfortunately – change what has happened and how we have felt, but we can start to live forward rather than staying in the past. I made a step change when I accepted what had happened, accepted that the loss was a fact, the only thing I could change was how I lived my life going forward. I can’t say I am “happy” everyday but I can say that now there are more better days, than low days…..I even mark on a calendar with coloured pens either a black day or a yellow to show me that I am making progress…My heart goes out to you and I hope that the thoughts on this site give you both comfort and hope

]]> By: Hazel http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/how-big-is-your-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-1393 Hazel Fri, 22 Aug 2008 16:35:50 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/how-big-is-your-heart/#comment-1393 I have never felt so lonely and depressed as I have since my husband died in 2004. I try to smile and be positive but there is always like this sinking feeling. I have never felt so lonely and depressed as I have since my husband died in 2004.
I try to smile and be positive but there is always like this sinking feeling.

]]> By: anna http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/how-big-is-your-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-1422 anna Wed, 20 Aug 2008 18:00:22 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/how-big-is-your-heart/#comment-1422 Ann - I always feel that there is never enough love in the world...and we never realize until we feel the loss Anna Ann – I always feel that there is never enough love in the world…and we never realize until we feel the loss

Anna

]]> By: Ann Welch http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/how-big-is-your-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-1439 Ann Welch Wed, 20 Aug 2008 08:34:47 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/how-big-is-your-heart/#comment-1439 These words are so true, I had never really thought about how much love there was ans still is. These words are so true, I had never really thought about how much love there was ans still is.

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