Comments on: Inspiring Quote for Older Widows and Widowers http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/inspiring-quote-for-older-widows-and-widowers/ Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Fri, 04 Dec 2009 12:01:15 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: anna http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/inspiring-quote-for-older-widows-and-widowers/comment-page-1/#comment-1448 anna Thu, 31 Jul 2008 16:55:05 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/inspiring-quote-for-older-widows-and-widowers/#comment-1448 Jessica - great words and so true. Its funny do you know from our mothers era, after the initial grief you can see many of her friends actually enjoying life to the full. It is almost that they are released, thats not to underestimate their grief...but there is also a new energy. Mum has always been more social than Dad, and I think his death rocked her to the core, however she is now freer than she probably ever has been...though she would never admit that :) Going to find that song now.... Jessica – great words and so true. Its funny do you know from our mothers era, after the initial grief you can see many of her friends actually enjoying life to the full. It is almost that they are released, thats not to underestimate their grief…but there is also a new energy. Mum has always been more social than Dad, and I think his death rocked her to the core, however she is now freer than she probably ever has been…though she would never admit that :)
Going to find that song now….

]]> By: Jessica http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/inspiring-quote-for-older-widows-and-widowers/comment-page-1/#comment-1438 Jessica Thu, 31 Jul 2008 15:16:05 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/inspiring-quote-for-older-widows-and-widowers/#comment-1438 My mother was of the generation of your mother's, and I think she generally lived for and did what she thought my father wanted. And I also believe, as you stated, that she has embarked on a "new life" and has made changes and pursued things that she never would have done, if my father were alive. And I say, good for her - good for both of them! Remember the posting you had about choosing music for a funeral? I wish that I had chosen "The Dance", the Garth Brooks song of several years back. Part of the lyrics: And now I'm glad I didn't know The way it all would end, the way it all would go Our lives are better left to chance - I could have missed the pain But I'd of had to miss the dance. This makes me tear up, but the words are Oh. So. True. (and I know that the wording is not proper English, but these ARE the lyrics) My mother was of the generation of your mother’s, and I think she generally lived for and did what she thought my father wanted. And I also believe, as you stated, that she has embarked on a “new life” and has made changes and pursued things that she never would have done, if my father were alive. And I say, good for her – good for both of them!

Remember the posting you had about choosing music for a funeral? I wish that I had chosen “The Dance”, the Garth Brooks song of several years back. Part of the lyrics:

And now I’m glad I didn’t know
The way it all would end, the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance – I could have missed the pain
But I’d of had to miss the dance.

This makes me tear up, but the words are Oh. So. True. (and I know that the wording is not proper English, but these ARE the lyrics)

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