Is there life after grief?
July 24, 2008 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Grief
Over at The Gazette they asked their readers if there is life after grief?
The answers are both comforting – people have found happiness and also painful, for example
Robert Roy had a tragic tale to tell. His first wife, to whom he was married for 23 years, died from cancer four years ago.
“After six months I believed I would never be happy again.” But he did find happiness again, with a loving girlfriend. It didn’t last, though. She was diagnosed with cancer last August and died in March this year.”Now the only thing I can do is … remember that I had found life after grief before … (and) … remember the beautiful moments I had with those two amazing women, without the pain I have today.”
One comment that made me think about grief was
“Leslye Lang, widowed 10 years ago, answered forthrightly: “There is no life after grief. … Grief is now part of who you are.” “
I am not sure I agree. A death is painful, bereavement brings an end to one part of your life…but as much as it hurts I don’t think we can say “Life is Over”. For me, that part of your life has ended but there are other chapters to write – we don’t know if they will be happy or sad…but life will go on.
What do you think?
I believe that the loss of a loved one does change you forever but that the change isn’t always a bad thing. The days will come when the smiles will take over the tears when talking about our loved ones. Everything we go though in this life as an affect on us death is no different.
Please visit my website and get a copy of the waterbug poem, to share with those who could benifit from it’s message. http://www.totaldelights.com/Waterbug.html
Diane thank you for that….and what lovely words. I hope you don’t mind but I will share them today as a blog post
your more than welcome but I didn’t write the poem it came to my friend on the back of a donor newsletter. But I hope that it give many comfort.
Diane,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and the waterbug story. I’m sure it will touch the people who buy the dragonfly bracelets, too. My sister also makes jewelry. I’ve treasured each bracelet, because they are infused with love and meaning.
Take care,
Mary