Learning to Love Again
August 6, 2008 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Finding Love
I think learning to love again, or learning to see that loving again is acceptable as a widow or widower after suffering a tragedy is the hardest thing. I remember a quote from Iris Murdoch who said
“We can only learn to love, by loving”
As widows or widowers we could change that to
“We can only learn to love again, by loving again”
Grief is the end of one chapter of your life. It is not the end of loving. After all death has brought an end to the partnership but it has brought an end to t 
he love we feel – that love is causing our grief. That shows that we can still love, that grief shows that our heart still ha s the capacity. As hard as it seems, one day our heart will open up to the risk of loving again….it was born to love.
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Dear Anna,
To love is to understand and to accept,
that’s why it is so hard for us to love ..
understanding something that goes against our belief is almost impossible, let alone accepting it
We are all in the same boat, awkwardly applying to life what we learn each day