Lessons for Grief in My Childhood

Death causes you to think back into history. Today I was thinking of when I was a child and Dad taught me 2 key thoughts to help me in my various sporting challenges

• Don’t fear winning, don’t fear losing…just enjoy the moment. When you enjoy it, you become better.
• Win well. Lose well. There is nothing wrong in losing as long as you gave it your best shot.

May seem funny phrasing to talk about on Widows Quest. But it got me thinking that I can reframe those sentences now

• Don’t fear loving, don’t fear losing…just enjoy each moment.
  
• Love well. Grieve well. There is nothing more certain than losing someone eventually, just give it your best shot.

You know I made mistakes in our relationship – I could have been more understanding, patient at times but we can all say that….when I think about the time we had, we both “gave it our best shot“, we both enjoyed each moment and we both enjoyed the feeling of love. When put it like that….I only have one thing left to give the relationship…and that is to grieve well.

Grieving is part of that relationship…and I can see that the same energy that I gave to the partnership…I need to give to letting go. Don’t fear the losing…because you never lose the love.

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