Comments on: Let’s Support a Military Widow

By: Kim Carolan

Kim Carolan — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 20:22:25 +0000

Widowhood is terrible, whether through military death, disease or accident. I think that people assume that having a happy marriage will carry you through the eventual death, but it is really still very hard, like any other loss. The best thing I could suggest is that the widows find a trusted friend or counselor who will listen to them. To process, they need to talk about the death and how they are feeling. When my mom was widowed, it took 4-years for her to “come back to normal”, and, of course, she still misses her husband.

I hope this helps readers!

Kim Carolan
Author of Walking through the Valley of the Shadow of Death

By: Jamie

Jamie — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 06:18:47 +0000

I just lost my husband 3 weeks ago, we have spent 19 years together all in the Army. The trials I am facing are much more than I had ever expected. I watched my husband deploy 11 times worrying that he may not come home. But upon his return from Afghanistan in May of ‘08 he was diagnosed with stage 4 mastatic colon cancer, it was too late. I watched him die every day and I died with him, I am here today because we have 2 sons who need me. I spent my whole adult life with him and I feel so lost with out him, I am not sure how to start over. Does it get easier? I know it is soon for me but I feel so trapped and like i have no place that I belong now.

By: anna

anna — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 10:15:13 +0000

Jesscia – I so remember my nana saying “Tears are your hearts way of bleeding. Let it bleed, let it hurt”

I never feared them again…..

By: Don’t Fear the Feelings, Embrace Them

Don’t Fear the Feelings, Embrace Them — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 10:06:41 +0000

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By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 22:09:23 +0000

My sister’s advice to me was: don’t be afraid to cry or to let yourself well up with tears. Those reactions (unexpected tearing) will sometimes catch you unawares; and that will probably even happen months or even years down the road.

We have all lost someone that we loved and focused upon. But we can help each other – other widows know the loss and are very supportive. Please consider this an e-hug from me to you.