Losing a loved one
January 25, 2007 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Grief
I came across this article about losing a loved one which is worth a read. It is from the University of Dundee and I especially liked this paragraph
Each one of us contains both an adult and a child. As the adult seeks to make sense of loss and tries to do all the appropriate and sensible things, alongside this is the emotional inner child, with a different agenda, who usually feels confused and abandoned. While the adult struggles bravely on, the dependent inner child is desperate for consolation. So that grieving is often a seesawing between these two parts of ourselves, as we try to be reasonable, but we actually feel at sea, lost and awash in anguish.
I had not thought about the adult and child inside ourselves but it makes sense to me. The child needs the nurturing and the adult needs to know why? In understanding this prinicple we can start to address what both of these need…
